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    yep. but i don't intend to let them get away with it.
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    Reminds me of Larkins poem....

    They **** you up, your mum and dad.
    They may not mean to, but they do.
    They fill you with the faults they had
    And add some extra, just for you.

    But they were ****ed up in their turn
    By fools in old-style hats and coats,
    Who half the time were soppy-stern
    And half at one another's throats.

    Man hands on misery to man.
    It deepens like a coastal shelf.
    Get out as early as you can,
    And don't have any kids yourself.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Do you?

    Yes but there is nothing I can do about it so I try not to dwell on it.
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    Not really, quite the opposite actually. I was up until age 16 or so, but then I really started "working on myself" so to speak.
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    My dad has really messed me up, as far as self-worth, trust, confidence and relationship issues go.

    On the other hand, my mum's definitely sanded off some of the potential damage and brought me up to be someone with a strong sense of fairness and empathy, and (I like to think) common sense. So it sort of balances itself out.
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    I am so messed up because of my parents. As in, I genuinely think that I have psychological problems due to them.
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    not at all. my mum is amazing.. lets me live my own life.
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    inb4 quote from Philip Larkin

    EDIT: Too late.
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    (Original post by Doughnuts!!)
    I am so messed up because of my parents. As in, I genuinely think that I have psychological problems due to them.
    Same!
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    my parents have greatly messed up my life
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    I wouldn't say my mum has defined me, were completely different people.
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    Nope, I am glad they raised me the way they did, I wouldn't want to be anyone else!
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    I'd be more inclined to blame my peers in primary school and high school.
    My parents do the best they can, although perhaps had we lived somewhere else, closer to town, I wouldn't be so socially backward.
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    Just a little bit, although it's probably also a bit of my fault. As I was the first child, it was all new to them. But I've moved on and do what I can
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    (Original post by screenager2004)
    Nope, I am glad they raised me the way they did, I wouldn't want to be anyone else!
    Same here. I know my parents have done their best to strike a balance between steering me in the right direction and letting me make my own decisions. They both work hard but still have as much time as my sister and me need from them.

    I can't remember the last time they really did something just for themselves
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    To a certain extent, but I think my friends and general experiences have had just as much impact, particularly recently. They are pretty relaxed about what I do, as long as I'm happy and healthy and not sitting on my behind doing nothing. Judging by some of the posts on here though, I think I got lucky
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    Someone's been watching too much of the new rubbish Skins.
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    Yes. After much counselling its been discovered that my dad is pretty much the cause of my mental health problems...
 
 
 
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