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    Best way?

    Had two dates with this girl now but decided I don't find her physically attractive enough. Has asked to do something next week, so what do I say?

    LIE: I'm busy etc.

    TRUTH: I just see her as a friend

    Or other?
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    Well if you say you're busy, she'd prolly ask you again the week after and then you're gonna keep having to lie until it becomes very messy.

    Tell her the truth and save the girl some trouble, don't lead her on. ITS THE RIGHT THING TO DO. :blah:
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    Ok so how would you phrase it?
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    (Original post by Reflexive)
    Ok so how would you phrase it?
    She will respect your honesty. Just say "Ive had a great time with you but im not ready for a relationship" If you still want her as a friend then tell her that,
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    if she doesn't no where you live just let her ring out
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    (Original post by NGC773)
    She will respect your honesty. Just say "Ive had a great time with you but im not ready for a relationship" If you still want her as a friend then tell her that,
    Yea I pretty much did that. To be fair, I wish more girls were like that with me after dates rather than some of the shyte I've heard, or just ignores.
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    lol are u blind bro ?

    after 2 dates u finally realised that she's ugly as **** ?
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    (Original post by NGC773)
    She will respect your honesty. Just say "Ive had a great time with you but im not ready for a relationship" If you still want her as a friend then tell her that,
    So when a guy says that he basically means the girl isn't attractive enough? Someone just recently said that to me :cool:
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    (Original post by jenny.chu)
    So when a guy says that he basically means the girl isn't attractive enough? Someone just recently said that to me :cool:
    Same. Life goes on :/
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    (Original post by littlemissm)
    Same. Life goes on :/
    I don't understand though. Like how can you go from dating to them suddenly just saying "I'm not ready for a relationship". Has he moved onto someone prettier? Gone off me/the girl?..
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    (Original post by jenny.chu)
    I don't understand though. Like how can you go from dating to them suddenly just saying "I'm not ready for a relationship". Has he moved onto someone prettier? Gone off me/the girl?..
    The first date when I saw her I thought, hmm I don't really fancy her, but she's alright. Let's see how it goes, she might be perfect in every other way. As the drink flowed, she looked more attractive, and we had a good chat, but I expected she was a bit straight-laced for me. But I decided it was worth another date, because on balance I thought it went alright.

    Cue the second date and I see her and think 'Do you know what, I just don't find her attractive enough'. And her lack of banter and innocent nature consolidated that decision.

    Anyway, she thanked me for my honesty. So a note to the girls, please do the same, cus it's a bloody headache when you get mucked about.
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    (Original post by jenny.chu)
    So when a guy says that he basically means the girl isn't attractive enough? Someone just recently said that to me :cool:
    You cant make someone attracted to you. I know its harsh but thats life, it could have been thousands of different reasons why he doesnt want a relationship with you. Atleast he didnt string you along for months hiding his true intentions! Life sucks but noone should let it beat you down.
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    (Original post by jenny.chu)
    I don't understand though. Like how can you go from dating to them suddenly just saying "I'm not ready for a relationship". Has he moved onto someone prettier? Gone off me/the girl?..
    I wish I knew! I just know I'll find someone better who's with me for the right reasons
 
 
 
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