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    Ok, so it's usually most guys fantasies to have a threesome with 2 girls, I get the whole 2 girls is better than one and watching them perform lesbian actions would be a massive turn on etc.

    Here's the thing. Would you suggest it to your girlfriend? How many of you have actually done this (ask your girlfriend) and what is your view on bringing another person into the sexual side of your relationship - do you not think it could cause problems from your girlfriends perspective?

    My boyfriend said it's a fantasy he'd like to fulfill 'in his life'. We had this discussion the other night (because i don't mind watching lesbian porn whilst he has sex with me), but because he knows I like that, he's thinking I should 'act out my fantasy'. Its all good and well watching it on the net/TV etc, but its another thing involving another person - something i dont want to do. He said that it's something he wants to do in his life with someone he cares about, i.e. his girlfriend and another girl - just getting off on watching me with another girl. I dont want to do it but he seems pretty adamant its something he wants to do. Hes pretty sure of the fact that there are girls out there (of relationship material) who'll be willing to have sex with another woman in the relationship - i think that would be a very very very small section of the female society to be honest with you.....
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    Don't ever let him pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. Don't let him make you think it's a normal or realistic thing to expect from you either. No means no.
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    I think more girls would be up for it than let on, but although in a fantasy I'd love it, I couldn't do it with someone I love and somebody else because surely it would bring tension, jealousy etc.. I bet very few people end up doing it.
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    I think i do feel a bit of pressure because its clearly something he wants to do in his life and i think the longer we stay together, he might potentially resent me because i wont do it. I definitely dont want to do it because im quite a jealous person and I could bare to even think he'd find her more of a turn on than me and i read somewhere that, whats to say he'd want to get involved? I said to him he'll find it hard to find another girl (of girlfriend material), to agree to do something like that because for women, it's such a massive emotional thing to agree too. Its hard for women to separate sex from emotions.
    I mean, wouldnt you think me watching lesbian porn whilst touching myself was ENOUGH!!!!?? lol Its because he knows its a fantasy i get off on, and he thinks all fantasy's should be acted out - which is *******s, there's a reason why its called a fantasy. If he brings it up again, i'll say to him that i dont want to do it, and if he's not happy with that, then he should look somewhere else. I said to him 'why didnt you just go and find two ****s and do it that way when you were single?', but he said it would be better with someone he cares about, getting off on that. He said he just wants to watch, but i wouldnt even be happy with that because hed probably want to get involved. Pft.
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    you have to sacrficie and comproimise
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    I would be up for it if i knew 100% i wouldn't get jealous, but i am of a jealous nature (not in a bad way, but i dont believe in bringing other people into the relationship) and it would destroy the relationship. I do admire couples though that can do that, i dont know what it says about their relationship though...........

    Im pretty realistic that sex can get a bit monotonous after a number of years with the same partner, obvioulsy, but for some people to suggest that it can spice up the sex life, i dont know.......................... where love is concerned, how can people do that? hmmmm
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    (Original post by BradfordCityJoss)
    I think more girls would be up for it than let on, but although in a fantasy I'd love it, I couldn't do it with someone I love and somebody else because surely it would bring tension, jealousy etc.. I bet very few people end up doing it.
    depends how comfortable you are with ur partner and hw much trust you have
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    (Original post by ScouseEmma28)
    I would be up for it if i knew 100% i wouldn't get jealous, but i am of a jealous nature (not in a bad way, but i dont believe in bringing other people into the relationship) and it would destroy the relationship. I do admire couples though he can do that, i dont know what it says about their relationship though...........

    Im pretty realistic that sex can get a bit monotonous after a number of years with the same partner, obvioulsy, but for some people to suggest that it can spice up the sex life, i dont know.......................... where love is concerned, how can people do that? hmmmm
    are you saying that love is all about sex. it can be as much about how you talk to each other and what other things you do for each other.
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    sacrifice - means taking a risk that my boyfriend wouldn't want a repeat performance and/or want to have sex with the girl.


    **** that for a joke.
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    Cringe, would you (if you're in a relationship) want your girlfriend to do it, and if she didnt, would you feel you were 'missing out' in your life?....

    For men its EASY to seperate love from sex. Yes of course they'll still adore their girlfriends and have sex with them, but it's like having his cake and eating it. Yet its not so easy for men to agree to their girlfriends having sex with another guy whilst they watch is it? Hmmm, double standards...
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    say you want to do it with 2guys! am pretty sure he wouldnt like it!
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    no i wouldn't do it with 2 guys because i'm not of that moral fabric, but what im saying is my boyfriend wouldn't like it though even though he said it wouldn't really bother him which is *******s. Im old fashioned in that i believe when it comes to a relationship, sex is between two people, not three or thirty. There's plenty of other ways to spice up the sex life visually and not necessarily physically involving another person.
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    just ask yourself , do you really wanna do this or you just want to please him ?
    you need to have a talk with him , tell him how you feel and find the way out that suit both of you =)
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    I would do it if I wasn't in a relationship. I don't think I could do it with my boyfriend.
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    (Original post by Cringe)
    are you saying that love is all about sex. it can be as much about how you talk to each other and what other things you do for each other.
    Well yeah ofc but I wouldn't want to risk it. Plus I know my girlfriend and she would get jealous methinks.
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    LA LA LAND, yeh you're spot on - next time he suggests it, i'll say 'well i want sex with another guy with you watching ...first'. I think his morals/values aren't in sync with mine...
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    if i were to do it, it would be for him and not me. It needs to be for both for it to work, id just get jealous.

    Its because he knows I like fantasizing about two women and I don't mind watching it - porn wise with him, so that's almost gave him the idea that I SHOULD fulfill my fantasy otherwise it's just a waste. Funny how my current boyfriend is completely opposite of my ex when it comes to sex - my ex wasn't hardly interested in sex (not adventurous or passsionate) and then i meet current boyf and he's like ****ing sex mad (he's 23 so may explain it)!! Is there a happy medium from any bloke?? lol
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    Do it, then run off with the girl ha
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    (Original post by ScouseEmma28)
    I would be up for it if i knew 100% i wouldn't get jealous, but i am of a jealous nature (not in a bad way, but i dont believe in bringing other people into the relationship) and it would destroy the relationship. I do admire couples though that can do that, i dont know what it says about their relationship though...........

    Im pretty realistic that sex can get a bit monotonous after a number of years with the same partner, obvioulsy, but for some people to suggest that it can spice up the sex life, i dont know.......................... where love is concerned, how can people do that? hmmmm
    It's quite obvious that the thought of it makes you very uncomfortable. I say don't do it because it's the sort of thing that can make the least jealous person jealous. If he leaves you because of it then it wasn't meant to be. Relationships often involve compromise but that shouldn't make you feel uncomfortable or involve doing things you really don't want to do.
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    Will you feel comfortable doing it? Don't do anything you don't wanna do
 
 
 
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