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    Ok, this will probably be wrong, but it still bugs me.
    Before I went to uni (I'm finishing my 2nd year now), I had a best friend called Kim from school. When I started looking and applying to unis, she got funny with me. She basically was quite selfish
    She said things like "what about me?" and "can't you just go to a uni near here so you can live at home"... And when I explained that I had to go to the best uni for my course, and that I'd still visit, it wasn't good enough for her.
    She was really not supportive at all, and whenever I mentioned an interview or something she'd change the subject. So all of this made me really not want to hang around with her any more.

    On top of that, at our joint new years party (in my last year of 6th form), I had a guy come up to me, indicate to my boyfriend and say "if he ever touches you again, you tell me." It turns out she'd told lies to all our friends that my boyfriend has hit me.

    ^After this I didn't contact her. She texted me in the middle of the summer asking to meet up, and I just said I was busy.
    I didn't feel I wanted to be friends with someone who 1. didn't support me at all in something so important to me, and got angry at me for going to uni, and 2. told lies about me, I thought we were closer than that.

    Sorry for the length of that, but it still bugs me and I wonder if I was wrong for reacting the way I did and if I should have made more of an effort after starting uni.
    I've made some amazing friends at uni, and am still close with other friends from home, but after a few comments from her since (online) about me being selfish for going I've just stopped contact, blocked her etc.

    Was I wrong? :confused:
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    (Original post by Emaemmaemily)
    Ok, this will probably be wrong, but it still bugs me.
    Before I went to uni (I'm finishing my 2nd year now), I had a best friend called Kim from school. When I started looking and applying to unis, she got funny with me. She basically was quite selfish
    She said things like "what about me?" and "can't you just go to a uni near here so you can live at home"... And when I explained that I had to go to the best uni for my course, and that I'd still visit, it wasn't good enough for her.
    She was really not supportive at all, and whenever I mentioned an interview or something she'd change the subject. So all of this made me really not want to hang around with her any more.

    On top of that, at our joint new years party (in my last year of 6th form), I had a guy come up to me, indicate to my boyfriend and say "if he ever touches you again, you tell me." It turns out she'd told lies to all our friends that my boyfriend has hit me.

    ^After this I didn't contact her. She texted me in the middle of the summer asking to meet up, and I just said I was busy.
    I didn't feel I wanted to be friends with someone who 1. didn't support me at all in something so important to me, and got angry at me for going to uni, and 2. told lies about me, I thought we were closer than that.

    Sorry for the length of that, but it still bugs me and I wonder if I was wrong for reacting the way I did and if I should have made more of an effort after starting uni.
    I've made some amazing friends at uni, and am still close with other friends from home, but after a few comments from her since (online) about me being selfish for going I've just stopped contact, blocked her etc.

    Was I wrong? :confused:
    Short response: No.
    And I think you know you didn't do anything wrong either
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    Your friend is a *****.
    She sounds immature, in the way girls at are the beginning of secondary school, not at the age to go to university.

    You did nothing wrong.
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    Nope. The university thing was forgivable had she apologised but the lie she made up is like crossing the line. Like she overlapped that line.

    Had you lived elsewhere, your boyfriend could have gotten seriously hurt for not doing jack.
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    (Original post by penguin-)
    Short response: No.
    And I think you know you didn't do anything wrong either
    Well I thought I didn't, but when people ask me "have you seen kim recently", and I say no, and they wonder why, it makes me worry that I could have over reacted.
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    No. I can't believe you even call her a friend
 
 
 
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