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    (Original post by blush.ox)
    This just made me lol
    some of us might approve of the messy look :sexface:

    :lol:
    wow really, well then u can holla ne tym ;-)
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    My mum does actually occasionally tell me that I need to get laid (I'm 18) and has been saying it every now and then since I was like 15 ahaha

    I don't think she's too worried tbh because she knows I'm not exactly guy mad and don't go out with anyone who asks me so she gets that I haven't exactly had any real opportunity.

    She probably more concerned about my much older brothers who both may or may not be virgins but are both losers.
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    (Original post by Jamil1987)
    wow really, well then u can holla ne tym ;-)
    i thought i just did ini :ninjagirl:
    :lol:
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    Lol my family and my good friends look down on people who've lost their virginity before the age of 19. It's all about relationships for life.

    Makes me feel bad that my ex was someone I could nevr bring home! Oh well! :P
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    (Original post by abc101)
    You think that being a virgin = missing out on life?

    If so, your life must be pretty pathetic.
    Yes, of course you're missing out on life. I think it's quite sad really.
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    (Original post by blush.ox)
    i thought i just did ini :ninjagirl:
    :lol:
    lol after stalking i see ur pakistani, so where abouts u 4rm?
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    I'm a 21 year old male virgin. I wouldn't say it's out of choice but down to self confidence/appearance issues which have plagued me ever since i can remember. "Sex" isn't really a subject which is talked about much in my household - not for any cultural or religious reasons, it just isn't. I have a couple of friends i see at weekends but other than that i'm always in my house and never out socialising as such.
    When i was about 17-18 i cared alot more about being a virgin and how that would look amoung my friends and peers, but now i don't really care about it that much.
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    24 and not sure if my parents know about me being a virgin, probably have some idea though due to the fact that I have never shown any interest in a girl...ever.

    I've been asked a few times by family members about it usually say something like:

    "So have you got a girlfriend yet?"

    "No"

    "Why not?"

    "Don't want one"

    And that's the end of that conversation.
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    (Original post by ShowMeYourSpine)
    24 and not sure if my parents know about me being a virgin, probably have some idea though due to the fact that I have never shown any interest in a girl...ever.

    I've been asked a few times by family members about it usually say something like:

    "So have you got a girlfriend yet?"

    "No"

    "Why not?"

    "Don't want one"

    And that's the end of that conversation.
    Next time they will ask you: "why don't you want one"?
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    lol if you've gone beyond 20 and you're still a virgin, uve minced up at life.
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    i turned 23 one month ago and im still a virgin.
    since i was about 16 and they knew i was still one my parents would occasionally tease me about my lack of effort with the opposite sex.

    within the last few weeks i started being close to a guy, and just a few days ago had my fist kiss with him and now have him as my boyfriend :'D however, sex-wise he's keeping me waiting deliberately; this weekend he agreed to let me shave his face (it was my idea of bonding session), and when i got to styling his right sideburn i accidently chopped off a fair chunk of his eyebrow........and celibacy is the resultant punishment.

    ........for my sake as well as his, i hope his eyebrow grows back, ASAP |:
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    (Original post by NOBODY MOVE!)
    i turned 23 one month ago and im still a virgin.
    since i was about 16 and they knew i was still one my parents would occasionally tease me about my lack of effort with the opposite sex.

    within the last few weeks i started being close to a guy, and just a few days ago had my fist kiss with him and now have him as my boyfriend :'D however, sex-wise he's keeping me waiting deliberately; this weekend he agreed to let me shave his face (it was my idea of bonding session), and when i got to styling his right sideburn i accidently chopped off a fair chunk of his eyebrow........and celibacy is the resultant punishment.

    ........for my sake as well as his, i hope his eyebrow grows back, ASAP |:
    You wanted to shave his face? Why? :lolwut:
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    (Original post by History-Student)
    You wanted to shave his face? Why? :lolwut:
    he had stupid facial hair and he thought it was cool.

    ...i disagreed. U_U
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    You make us sound like we're milk gone off.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    'Overdue' virgins? Theres no such thing - people should lose their virginity because they feel ready to lose their virginity, not because they've passed some sort of expiry date.. :s anyway to answer the question my parents don't care that I'm a virgin - I don't understand why being a virgin at twenty-something is a bad thing?
    Once you've had sex a few times with a girl(s) that you are attracted to or care about, then you'll know what you've missed out on (and regret it probably, unless you've chosen to wait until you're married on religious grounds).

    It's one thing for a girl to remain a virgin but I doubt any of the men on here do so at their own choice (if you've convinced yourself that you are it's probably because your ego has cocooned itself in defence mode). It's not always easy to meet someone and even to have the courage to have sex for the first time, but to try to convince yourself that you want to be a virgin when you don't is probably a bad idea.

    Use it or lose it is the way I see it. No guts no glory. The longer you leave it the more risk you run of becoming increasingly unattractive and unable to find a mate. Most people aren't lucky enough to be like a fine wine and get better with age.

    I'm not having a go, but I really think that as men you need to be assertive and not try to intellectualise everything. A big part of youth is having sex and being involved in relationships/dating. If you miss out, you're only robbing yourself. You only get these years once after all.
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    (Original post by Stefan1991)
    Yes, of course you're missing out on life. I think it's quite sad really.
    Are you being serious? Goodness me.

    I think it's sad that you have such a close-minded opinion. Is sex that which you take most pleasure from in your life? I think enjoying family and friends, bettering yourself and helping others is what makes life worthwhile - not one physical activity. You could die a virgin and still have lived a life full of love and happiness. There's no way anyone could be missing out on life by not having sex, unless sex is all you care about.
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    i'm 25 and still one. my mom is pleased for me to wait until i am married. ths is the expected way in our country. however she got married at 19, and my nans got married at like 15. so yeah im overdue. so she thinks is weird and keeps nagging me to find a husband and get married
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    (Original post by abc101)
    Are you being serious? Goodness me.

    I think it's sad that you have such a close-minded opinion. Is sex that which you take most pleasure from in your life? I think enjoying family and friends, bettering yourself and helping others is what makes life worthwhile - not one physical activity. You could die a virgin and still have lived a life full of love and happiness. There's no way anyone could be missing out on life by not having sex, unless sex is all you care about.
    It seems I've touched a nerve... oh well. It's not a close-minded opinion, I had an open mind about it, but then I reached the correct logical conclusion. How can an opinion be closed minded anyway? That makes no sense. How I formulate my opinions is actually very open-minded.

    Rejecting experiences for no reason is not what I'd describe as "living life to the full", particular one as significant to the human condition, and as pleasurable as sex. Also I fail to see how you are bettering yourself, if you've never had sex you're obviously not getting any better at that... that's only going to hold you back in life.

    How can you live life having not experienced the one facet of unadulterated pleasure you are actually BORN with. It's common to all human beings and is referred to in almost all aspects of culture across all cultures. So yes, if everyone else is experiencing it and enjoying it, and you aren't, you are missing out. It's comparable to living a whole life without ever knowing what music sounds like, or the sunset looks like, or never seeing the sea.

    It's like going through life listening to your friends talking about what happened on the Simpsons last night but having never watched a Simpsons episode in your life. Have you ever watched the Simpsons? Do you know anyone who hasn't?

    Having nice friends and family is all very nice, but if you think that's all there is to life you're not really experiencing much of what life has to offer. Most people have nice friends and family, that's like entry level living.

    You could die a virgin and have lived a life full of love and happiness, but is that hypothetical situation even close to realistic? Most virgins die sad and alone.
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    (Original post by NOBODY MOVE!)
    he had stupid facial hair and he thought it was cool.

    ...i disagreed. U_U
    :lol: brilliant :yy:
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    (Original post by abc101)
    Are you being serious? Goodness me.

    I think it's sad that you have such a close-minded opinion. Is sex that which you take most pleasure from in your life? I think enjoying family and friends, bettering yourself and helping others is what makes life worthwhile - not one physical activity. You could die a virgin and still have lived a life full of love and happiness. There's no way anyone could be missing out on life by not having sex, unless sex is all you care about.
    The things that you listed are all valid ways of living a full and happy life. But you are still missing out on a big aspect of life (arguably from a Darwinian/Freudian perspective the only real objective of life - procreation). Also, if you've never had sex, how can you know what you are or aren't missing out on? Is it not you that is being closed-minded therefore?

    Sex is a huge motivation for a lot of what we do in life, whether you consciously realise it or not.
 
 
 
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