Boyfriend worries

I have been going out with my boyf for 2 years and he moved away to uni in september. Im not the jelous type, so the fact hes on a floor with girls doesnt bother me but what does is that we dont have as much to talk about anymore. When he was at home we used to talk for hours on the phone, now its really much more difficult cos im still at school and living the 'old life' and hes got a new one and the two dont combine so great in convo. When we meet up at weekends we talk brilliantly. Can neone recommend a way of getting us to talk more over the phone? xxxx

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just talk about random things and have a laugh with him over the phone!!

talk to him about how you feel he might be feeling the same and trying to think of different things to talk about!!

Reply 3

-TMG-

9

Maybe I should start talking to my girlfriend more on the phone...MSN isn't as good really is it?

*Scratches what's left of his beard* :P

Reply 4

mistress mayhem

OP

yeh msn is crappy. see the problem is that he knows that we dont talk as often on the fone and its made him 're think' our relationship. i think we are making a mountain out of a molehill cos when i look at the whole picture there is nothing wrong in the relationship, its just that we dont talk as much. arg i dont wana loose him over something so minor!

Reply 5

El Scotto

15

Dont answer the phone next time he calls, or the second time, which'll make him call you more often, and in between he'll worry that hes done something wrong so it'll subconsiously make him want to speak to you more, and when he does speak to you he'll be so relieved everything is fine, that you'll have a good chat.

Reply 6

elr_moran

2

El Scotto

Dont answer the phone next time he calls, or the second time, which'll make him call you more often, and in between he'll worry that hes done something wrong so it'll subconsiously make him want to speak to you more, and when he does speak to you he'll be so relieved everything is fine, that you'll have a good chat.

Don't do that. If he starts worrying over nothing he'll feel hurt when he realises what you did. And you will feel bad (I would imagine) having not answered the phone when he calls.

Try and think before you speak to him, or during the day, what you want to say to him.

Reply 7

La Trampa

18

El Scotto

Dont answer the phone next time he calls, or the second time, which'll make him call you more often, and in between he'll worry that hes done something wrong so it'll subconsiously make him want to speak to you more, and when he does speak to you he'll be so relieved everything is fine, that you'll have a good chat.

no then he might think u're with some other guy n that'll just complicate thing.my bf n i broke up n got back together we had trouble talking for a while.it was like we had nothing to say to each other.i know it's not the same situation but i think it's just a phase and it'll fade.but try to talk about everyday stuff..nothing relating to ur environments so no one thinks they have anything in common.hope things getter better. :biggrin:

Reply 8

lovelee-jublee

12

Next time you talk to him ask him how he's getting on at Uni, how his course is going etc. He'll be glad you've shown an interest, and hopefully will take more of an interest in you!

Reply 9

ciara

13

If you're sure you want to stick together, you need to be a part of his new life. Meet his friends, ask him lots about his course and everything. I guess the reason there's less to say is because a lot of what has happened to him (eg "Sam got with Dani even though she has a boyfriend" shock horror etc) you won't actually know the people involved, so he won't bother saying it cos it will mean nothing. You can make things work, it just takes a lot of effort.

Cxx

Reply 10

Tarts_n_Vicars

13

I wouldn't worry about it too much, if you have loads to chat about at weekends it might just be that not much goes on for him during the week. Plus you won't know a lot of his new mates so telling stories won't be as easy as it used to be.

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