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    (Original post by TheFlyingDutchman)
    Some parents are just ****. People don't think enough before becoming parents if you ask me.

    Your bf has no excuse. "Something maybe going on" is not an excuse. Relationships only work when people communicate. If you have problems and so does he you can both get through them at the same time by talking to each other. Your bf sounds like a moron. If you were my sister I'd of smacked him already and your "old friend".

    Yeah my parents are pretty good. Just hope that I can carry on the tradition

    Good luck with everything
    If there's anything I've learnt from my parents, it's to never treat my kids like that if/when I have them. If anything positive comes out of the way they've treated me, that's it.

    We're (hopefully) going to have a chat tomorrow so I hope he'll open up about whatever it is (if there's anything going on) and he'll be understanding about my situation. He is a good guy, I'm sure he is. If he continues this behaviour, then that'll have to be the end of it but for now, I'll see what happens when we talk.

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    sounds like you're having a terrible time big hugs!!!
    I'm sure your boyfriend would be livid if he knew someone had done that to you. and people do care about you. nobody would be heartless enough to not take your call if they knew someone had tried to rape you. they probably never imagined it was something like that
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is going to be long so if you can't be bothered to read it, don't. Also I don't need people telling me to 'man up' or make stupid jokes right now.

    I know there are worse things going on in the world, it's not the end of the world, etc. but I still feel like absolute crap.

    Firstly, there's my parents. I don't have that relationship with my mum where she's like my best friend and I find it really hard to talk to her and anything I tell her, she just tells my dad straight away so they can have a little joke about it. I can take a joke but some things I just don't need being made into a joke. And they're usually really nasty about it and pick it apart over dinner. So I stopped talking to her and she just started making things up and telling my dad about things I hadn't even done! My dad's not exactly the nicest man. He's constantly telling me to piss off and leave him alone when all I've done is walk into a room. Or he'll say how he wishes I was never born for stupid little things. He once threatened to kick me out because I was apparently talking to him in a rude tone of voice - I wasn't even being rude to him, I just had a rough day and was tired so there was no enthusiasm in my voice. That's it.

    Secondly, my boyfriend's being a bit...confusing, really. I feel like he's trying to avoid me by 'forgetting' about when I ask to talk to him and just walking away or being really, really blunt with me when he knows I'm already feeling low and just making me feel worse. But when we do talk usually, he's nice and he's his normal self. I keep thinking there's something wrong and he's not talking to me about it but I don't want to push him and make him talk about it. The thing is, whenever he rings me 'just to talk', I always make time for him and listen to him but if I ring him because I just want to speak to him, he always says he's busy and that he'll ring back but he never does. And if I see him the next day, he won't even ask what the problem was - he's not nasty about it but he just acts as if I never even rang him. I love him and there are so many things about him that I adore but this recent behaviour is just really confusing me. We've been together just over a year and we've known each other for 18 months and I know this isn't normal behaviour for him. He's been like this for the past month or so. I know that he is actually busy this time of year but he's busy for most of the year and he's not been this distant. I don't mind giving him space but it'll be nice to feel like he's not just putting up with me or seeing me when he wants to.

    Every time I try and talk to my closest friends about things, they just go on about their own problems instead. One friend has been refusing to talk to me because the birthday card I sent her arrived on the wrong day...I can't control the post and I did write the date of her birthday on the card plus I rang her up on the day so she knows I know the actual date. Not only that, but every year for the past 9 years, she has forgotten my birthday - she still can't even remember when it is - but I don't say a word to her about it and don't hold it against her especially if she needs me.

    Recently, a close male friend tried to rape me and he probably would have succeeded had he not passed out from being too drunk. We were walking through a park and he pushed me up against a tree and shoved his hand down my knickers and started fingering me so roughly I was bleeding. He only got to unzipping his jeans and pulling my knickers down before he passed out. I never expected someone like him to behave like that and I just didn't know what to do. I just called one of his housemates to come and get him as I walked back home. On the way home, I rang my boyfriend in tears and he just said 'not now, I've got work to do' and when I said I really needed to see him, he just said he can't now and that I should go round to his in the morning. He could tell I was upset but he just didn't get that I'd never ask to see him urgently unless I really had to. I felt let down when I really needed him. I still haven't told him what happened. I rang one of my friends up instead so I could talk to her and she just had a go at me for ringing her when she's doing her essay at the last minute. I said 'sorry I wouldn't ring unless it's urgent' and she just said 'stop being so selfish, all you do is talk about yourself', which is just not nice when all I've ever done is be there for her, listen to her and she's just never been there for me, ever. So I just kept walking home, ignored my parents, and ran into my bedroom and locked the door. I felt so betrayed by everyone I thought I could count on and it hurt so much. It sounds so pathetic and I never thought I'd be the kind of person to do this but I just cried myself to sleep that night. The next day, I just tried to pretend nothing had even happened. There's no point. No one would care either way.

    Sorry this has been so long but I just needed to let it all out. Advice/whatever is welcome.
    you could report the attempted rape and sexual assualt to the police. That would get some attention, if you want to do it.
    You could have posted the birthday card a bit earlier, but then she could have complained that it came too early. That's bad too. Tell her that if she wants her ****ing card on time she can send it to herslef and then stick it up her ass.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is going to be long so if you can't be bothered to read it, don't. Also I don't need people telling me to 'man up' or make stupid jokes right now.

    I know there are worse things going on in the world, it's not the end of the world, etc. but I still feel like absolute crap.

    Firstly, there's my parents. I don't have that relationship with my mum where she's like my best friend and I find it really hard to talk to her and anything I tell her, she just tells my dad straight away so they can have a little joke about it. I can take a joke but some things I just don't need being made into a joke. And they're usually really nasty about it and pick it apart over dinner. So I stopped talking to her and she just started making things up and telling my dad about things I hadn't even done! My dad's not exactly the nicest man. He's constantly telling me to piss off and leave him alone when all I've done is walk into a room. Or he'll say how he wishes I was never born for stupid little things. He once threatened to kick me out because I was apparently talking to him in a rude tone of voice - I wasn't even being rude to him, I just had a rough day and was tired so there was no enthusiasm in my voice. That's it.

    Secondly, my boyfriend's being a bit...confusing, really. I feel like he's trying to avoid me by 'forgetting' about when I ask to talk to him and just walking away or being really, really blunt with me when he knows I'm already feeling low and just making me feel worse. But when we do talk usually, he's nice and he's his normal self. I keep thinking there's something wrong and he's not talking to me about it but I don't want to push him and make him talk about it. The thing is, whenever he rings me 'just to talk', I always make time for him and listen to him but if I ring him because I just want to speak to him, he always says he's busy and that he'll ring back but he never does. And if I see him the next day, he won't even ask what the problem was - he's not nasty about it but he just acts as if I never even rang him. I love him and there are so many things about him that I adore but this recent behaviour is just really confusing me. We've been together just over a year and we've known each other for 18 months and I know this isn't normal behaviour for him. He's been like this for the past month or so. I know that he is actually busy this time of year but he's busy for most of the year and he's not been this distant. I don't mind giving him space but it'll be nice to feel like he's not just putting up with me or seeing me when he wants to.

    Every time I try and talk to my closest friends about things, they just go on about their own problems instead. One friend has been refusing to talk to me because the birthday card I sent her arrived on the wrong day...I can't control the post and I did write the date of her birthday on the card plus I rang her up on the day so she knows I know the actual date. Not only that, but every year for the past 9 years, she has forgotten my birthday - she still can't even remember when it is - but I don't say a word to her about it and don't hold it against her especially if she needs me.

    Recently, a close male friend tried to rape me and he probably would have succeeded had he not passed out from being too drunk. We were walking through a park and he pushed me up against a tree and shoved his hand down my knickers and started fingering me so roughly I was bleeding. He only got to unzipping his jeans and pulling my knickers down before he passed out. I never expected someone like him to behave like that and I just didn't know what to do. I just called one of his housemates to come and get him as I walked back home. On the way home, I rang my boyfriend in tears and he just said 'not now, I've got work to do' and when I said I really needed to see him, he just said he can't now and that I should go round to his in the morning. He could tell I was upset but he just didn't get that I'd never ask to see him urgently unless I really had to. I felt let down when I really needed him. I still haven't told him what happened. I rang one of my friends up instead so I could talk to her and she just had a go at me for ringing her when she's doing her essay at the last minute. I said 'sorry I wouldn't ring unless it's urgent' and she just said 'stop being so selfish, all you do is talk about yourself', which is just not nice when all I've ever done is be there for her, listen to her and she's just never been there for me, ever. So I just kept walking home, ignored my parents, and ran into my bedroom and locked the door. I felt so betrayed by everyone I thought I could count on and it hurt so much. It sounds so pathetic and I never thought I'd be the kind of person to do this but I just cried myself to sleep that night. The next day, I just tried to pretend nothing had even happened. There's no point. No one would care either way.

    Sorry this has been so long but I just needed to let it all out. Advice/whatever is welcome.

    Don't worry hun, just look foward,
 
 
 
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