Painful sex

you can have operations to change its characteristics

Ok, am hoping this isn't too much info for anyone but I'm pretty open about these things and am quite curious..

I have really quite a small vagina. I mean, it stretches, but it just is naturally narrow or something. As you may have read before in my posts on H+R, I never used to be able to get a tampon in despite being relaxed etc, there just wasn't any room, and first time sex was complete agony despite my hymen already being broken, just cos of the stretching.

Nowadays, since I started having sex things are easier, tampons are no problem and usually sex is painless too. However, now I'm in a long distance relationship I see my boyfriend every 5 weeks or so, so I'm getting a lot less sex than I was used to before. The trouble is, I seem to be sort of, closing up again. Sex is painful again, not as painful as my first time obviously but it's the same sort of pain, and it can be quite bad. I don't think I'm tense at all, and after a few days I get used to it again, but I'm generally really tight. Good for my boyfriend I guess, not so good for me.

Anyone else get this or have any idea what I could do? It's slightly annoying when I want to jump into bed but we have to take it really slowly . Will it ever be as small as it used to be again? Sorry if anyone's eating or whatever!

Cxx

Wow, I have the same problem.

I have never used a tampon because I can't fit it in and it's really, really painful. The only "slight" penetration I've ever had was from my boyfriend's tip of his pinky, and that was painful. I yelled at him to stop.

I don't really have any advice considering I can't get over my pain, except be happy you're not a loose cow--because that's much worse--and maybe take some pain killers, get drunk, or take a brick to the head to have sex.

I am definitely planning on one of those when I lose my virginity and penetrate my vagina for the first time because if the tip of a pinky hurts, I bet a 7 inch penis will stab me to death.

lol sorry!! you poor thing, its just i have visions of you screaming like a banshee while your poor boyfriend tries to make love tenderly to you!!
oh god im so sorry, i know this is a serious subject

Your words hold more truth than you realize, especially the "screaming banshee" bit.

There is an actual medical condition can vaginitis or something (sorry, not a med student, just an avid Cosmo reader!!) that affects the muscles surrounding the vaginal walls which means it is effectively closed up, as if tensed, all the time. It can be so bad that tampons cannot be used, as you have described. Go see your doctor, it'll probably be sorted out in no time xx

true, but lack of lube might well be the problem. it sure doesn't 'fit' if i'm not 'ready' anyway.

Ok, am hoping this isn't too much info for anyone but I'm pretty open about these things and am quite curious..

I have really quite a small vagina. I mean, it stretches, but it just is naturally narrow or something. As you may have read before in my posts on H+R, I never used to be able to get a tampon in despite being relaxed etc, there just wasn't any room, and first time sex was complete agony despite my hymen already being broken, just cos of the stretching.

Nowadays, since I started having sex things are easier, tampons are no problem and usually sex is painless too. However, now I'm in a long distance relationship I see my boyfriend every 5 weeks or so, so I'm getting a lot less sex than I was used to before. The trouble is, I seem to be sort of, closing up again. Sex is painful again, not as painful as my first time obviously but it's the same sort of pain, and it can be quite bad. I don't think I'm tense at all, and after a few days I get used to it again, but I'm generally really tight. Good for my boyfriend I guess, not so good for me.

Anyone else get this or have any idea what I could do? It's slightly annoying when I want to jump into bed but we have to take it really slowly . Will it ever be as small as it used to be again? Sorry if anyone's eating or whatever!

Cxx