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    right, there's this guy i kind of like and we've met probably about 6-7 times so far and have been texting eachother quite a lot, we went to the cinema one time and it was really good but last time i saw him it was with quite a few other people and it was noisey in there i.e. not conducive to conversation, so i didn't hear a lot of what he was saying and vice versa and we didn't talk that much, also cos we were with quite a few others, anyway he left kind of early and hasn't text afterwards so i'm beginning to err on the side of i bored him by not being witty social enough etc. plus i feel kind of nervous around him which doesn't help... so now he's given up on me and probably won't want to see me again - yes i am kind of paranoid too! should i just wait for him to get into contact with me - bearing in mind he might not, or should i text him, not sure what to say though.. anyway i'd appreciate some comments
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    Uhh....text him.
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    ^what she said.
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    If you leave it it'll just fade away.
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    yeah i guess although i'll probably see him around sooner or later... but i'm not sure what to say, somehow "i'm sorry for being boring, can we replay that evening?" doesn't have a ring to it somehow... i'm hopeless!
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    try - "how about getting together somewhere that we can actually talk sometime?"
    shows you want to see him and will hopefully mimick his frustrations at the occasion - easy.
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    Like the mild humour as well. Good suggestion!
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    yea...bit of humours always good...
    thinking about it again - change talk for chat...its more informal and fun.
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    Ok a reply here from a guys point of view. He probably still likes you as much as ever. The thing is guys are terrible at remembering or motivating ourselves to do anything! It almost certainly just hasn't crossed his mind to text you since.

    Text him asking to go anywhere for a chat and take it from there. Don't mention anything about the other night, thats over, don't bring it up. If there even was a problem he'll have forgotten it by now!
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    well when i say the other night, i mean it was actually only yesterday and as i hadn't seen him in a month thats what he's going to be remembering... im chatting to my friend on msn about it and he reckons leave it a couple of days to see if he texts before deciding to do anything...
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    It was only yesterday and your worrying cos he hasn't text yet??!!!?

    Ok just give it a couple of days, then text him. Everything I said above still applies though, he almost certainly didn't have a problem with how you acted last night.

    Hey he probably left because he really did want to talk to you but it was too loud. Texting him and saying lets meet somewhere a little quieter for a chat is going to make his day.
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    just don;t mention it and ask him if he wants to go out somewhere and make sure it is somewhere you can at least have a conversation, it can;t be the end of the world it was one time that went wrong!!

    don;t give up on it if you think something good can come out of it!!
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    (Original post by Lirael Abhorsen)
    right, there's this guy i kind of like and we've met probably about 6-7 times so far and have been texting eachother quite a lot, we went to the cinema one time and it was really good but last time i saw him it was with quite a few other people and it was noisey in there i.e. not conducive to conversation, so i didn't hear a lot of what he was saying and vice versa and we didn't talk that much, also cos we were with quite a few others, anyway he left kind of early and hasn't text afterwards so i'm beginning to err on the side of i bored him by not being witty social enough etc. plus i feel kind of nervous around him which doesn't help... so now he's given up on me and probably won't want to see me again - yes i am kind of paranoid too! should i just wait for him to get into contact with me - bearing in mind he might not, or should i text him, not sure what to say though.. anyway i'd appreciate some comments
    Let him get intouch with you
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    I think what you're failing to realise is that guys do not tend to dissect everything the way girls do. Whilst you're agonising about it and thinking, "Oh my god, we didn't talk! I didn't talk to him, he didn't talk to me....maybe he thinks I'm not interested....or maybe he thinks I'm boring! Or maybe he doesn't like me....or maybe...." he's probably thinking, "Shame we didn't get a chance to talk, maybe next time." That's if he's thinking anything at all. Sometimes I think guys think a hell of a lot less than we do. They just don't have so much floating around inside their heads.
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    (Original post by Happy Cycling)
    If you leave it it'll just fade away.
    True, that happened to my friend recently. Yeah just text him, what the others said hehe. Be yourself, and try to stay cool, calm and collected - you should be fine - good luck!

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