Ok so, I am really concerned about my best friend, we usually speak everyday and see each other so frequently, however he has a new girl friend who does want him to speak to me anymore?
Last time we spoke he was really upset about something but he couldnt speak becasue his girlfriend was constantly phoning/ texting him so we just left it. I am really confused as to why hes not allowed to talk to me, its not like im competition because I have my own boyfriend. I just dont like knowing hes upset and doesnt feel he can talk to me?
Its gotten rather extreme recently, he has deleted me from msn/facebook, wont answer the phone or text back. This is all in the space of about 2 weeks.
What I want to know is have any of you told your boy/girlfriend they cant speak to their best friends and why?
And what do you think I should do? Do I leave him be for a bit or do I try contact him and find out whats going on?
Thanks in advance.
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- Thread Starter
- 23-03-2011 11:58
- 23-03-2011 12:00
Leave him till he grows a back bone and speaks his mind..
- Thread Starter
- 23-03-2011 16:12
- 23-03-2011 16:26
I've been in a similar position to your friend but it's never been a close friend that my boyfriend was worried about and asked me to stop talking to.
He must feel really strongly for her and not want to do anything to hurt her. Weird how suddenly he's dropped you though seeing as it's a new relationship... It's hard to know how willing he was to cut you off as well. If he didn't put up any fight I'd question how highly he considered your friendship and I wouldn't bother with him anymore. Chances are though, if you guys are really close, he didn't want to end contact with you, he just didn't want to hurt his girlfriend.
You can't really know unless he speaks to you...
If he makes an effort you should be there to listen, but if he doesn't then I'd leave him to it - you can't force someone to speak to you.
He's also probably feeling awkward about accepting a call from you or anything now cos he doesn't want to have to explain himself, he's probably ashamed, so leave it to him to contact you when he's ready.
- 23-03-2011 16:32
If it's just him you're worried about, you're best off leaving him to it and just making sure he knows you're there if she ever stops this madness
It must be upsetting for you too though, no-one likes to lose a close friend, never mind this abruptly!