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    Hey, I'm in the process of starting a relationship, its quite clear that we both want to be together and that well... touch wood but I've never felt like this before, if yo get me :-). Anyways were not together because of a temporary problem with geography but hes moving back to the UK soon. YAY!

    Anyways the few times that we've been able to see each other this past year, it ha been really special, really mmmm sensual! The problem is the sex side of things! Although we can't seem to keep our hands off each other, penis size is a problem!

    He heard from one of our friends back when we were just friends who secretly fancied each other (but couldn't act on it) that I was hung like a horse (perhaps a bit of an exageration - I'm 7.25inch when hard). He was really scared of me seeing him naked because he'd feel inadequate because of this. The first time we gave into the urge, he avoided his underwear coming off, althoug he couldn't get into mine quick enough! Anyways we sat up talking after he gave me a blow job and I talked him into letting me repay the favour.

    Anyways when I saw his, it really didn't bother me, I wanted it more and I really enjoyed it. Yes his penis does look particularly small, if you want to be childish about it, its atleast 2inches smaller then mine if not more. However its not small enough to cause any 'mechanical' problems! We were talking the other night and well he says he still has a complex about it, I just said well you hve no need to in my company. I'm struggling to think what to say to make him feel adequate. i really care about him and want to say the right things but at the same time I respect him enough not to lie.

    Other night he refered to mine as a '******' and I laughed it off and then said something like well I find it hard to leave yours alone either and hes like I cant see why. Being completely honest I am aware of the size difference but it does not bother me in the slightest, I am genuinely attracted to very single inch of his body and his mind as well. I have said all this to him and I regularly compliment him, in the most genuine of ways of course. My question is, how do I get him to believe and know that he is not inadequate and that through my eyes he is perfect? Because saying it isn't working :-S
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    Just keep reassuring him. Maybe something happened before to make him insecure? 5 inches is average length anyway
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey, I'm in the process of starting a relationship, its quite clear that we both want to be together and that well... Touch wood but I've never felt like this before, if yo get me :-). Anyways were not together because of a temporary problem with geography but hes moving back to the UK soon. YAY!

    Anyways the few times that we've been able to see each other this past year, it ha been really special, really mmmm sensual! The problem is the sex side of things! Although we can't seem to keep our hands off each other, penis size is a problem!

    He heard from one of our friends back when we were just friends who secretly fancied each other (but couldn't act on it) that I was hung like a horse (perhaps a bit of an exageration - I'm 7.25inch when hard). He was really scared of me seeing him naked because he'd feel inadequate because of this. The first time we gave into the urge, he avoided his underwear coming off, althoug he couldn't get into mine quick enough! Anyways we sat up talking after he gave me a blow job and I talked him into letting me repay the favour.

    Anyways when I saw his, it really didn't bother me, I wanted it more and I really enjoyed it. Yes his penis does look particularly small, if you want to be childish about it, its atleast 2inches smaller then mine if not more. However its not small enough to cause any 'mechanical' problems! We were talking the other night and well he says he still has a complex about it, I just said well you hve no need to in my company. I'm struggling to think what to say to make him feel adequate. i really care about him and want to say the right things but at the same time I respect him enough not to lie.

    Other night he refered to mine as a '******' and I laughed it off and then said something like well I find it hard to leave yours alone either and hes like I cant see why. Being completely honest I am aware of the size difference but it does not bother me in the slightest, I am genuinely attracted to very single inch of his body and his mind as well. I have said all this to him and I regularly compliment him, in the most genuine of ways of course. My question is, how do I get him to believe and know that he is not inadequate and that through my eyes he is perfect? Because saying it isn't working :-S

    I don't have much to say apart from that part made me chuckle.

    PS: I'm sure everything will be fine, just reassure him. Good luck to you both!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey, I'm in the process of starting a relationship, its quite clear that we both want to be together and that well... touch wood...
    :giggle:

    I apologise.
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    There's not much you can do really, you seem to have acted and responded in a mature manner. All you can do is continue being patient and reassuring until eventually, your lover will get over it because you'll have a lot of sex by then.
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    I guess just keep going on about how hot you find your bf? (Cos it's true right?)
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    reassure him that its not a problem, as someone said 5 is around average, there is nothing more that can be really done except build his esteem. as long as you have no problem an he knows that you all should be okay! best of luck on the budding romance.
 
 
 
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