I am almost 18 years old, and for as long as I can remember I go red talking infront of people, or even walking somewhere on my own. I thought as I grew up, it would probably ease, but it feels like it's getting worse. For example, the other day a year 8 dropped a bottle of water beside me, and I turned red. I know it's so silly, and I tell myself, no everyone isn't staring at you just relax, but it just happens instantly.
As well as always going red, sometimes I get so nervous, I start shivering. I normally do this when i'm with my boyfriend, even though we've been going out 6 months! He always asks me why I'm not comfortable & it really bothers him. I have no idea what is causing the anxiety and nerves.
Sometimes I feel like I'm about to faint in crowded areas, it's at school I feel most uncomfortable, and I don't sleep very well as I feel stressed and anxious.
Is this just a case of being shy or should I go to a doctor? I feel silly going, and that he might just say I am shy?
Shy or social anxiety? Watch
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Last edited by SingMeALullaby; 23-03-2011 at 17:46. Reason: spelling mistake
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- 23-03-2011 17:52
This seems to be a very common problem. And sounds like social anxiety - fear/embarassment in front of other people. I've also had it/still have it myself. It can ruin your life if you let it! When i was 15/16 it got so bad that I didn't want to speak to anyone but it made it far worse in the end by avoiding the problem.
You need to do things to increase your self-esteem and confidence which does sound a lot easier than it is. Constantly try and put yourself in suitations that you avoid and it will improve in time. One thing i've noticed though is you have to keep doing it - its not a case of you've done it and don't go red anymore you have to keep doing it.
If its getting really bad may be worth going to doctor who can prescribe anti-anxiety medication which isn't always a good route to go down though also counselling could help.