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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I try to talk about it, but he gets angry about it and just starts shouting. That's how it turns into an argument.
    He sounds :bird:
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    He doesn't deserve you.
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    (Original post by charleswbcm)
    I'm afraid that's what you get for going out with a LAD
    A sheeetlad. Pipe down ladpedia.
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    dump him don't even think twice about it
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This might be a long post, so I am sorry in advance.

    I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 7 months. We kind of jumped head first into it, and fell in .....

    Advice please???
    it said "rate other members before repping this member again". Who the hell are you? I neg repped u before so i can't neg rep u again! :mad:
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    Dump him he doesn't sound very nice
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    You don't deserve him.
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    get rid honey, me and my last boyfriend were long-distance and hardly got to see each other and exactly the same, i was the one making most of the effort and when i told him this he thought i was being unreasonable blah blah blah, anyway so i got rid, or we got rid of each other, it was a bit obscure, and i'm so much happier, i bet you're walking on egg shells all the time around him and you're probably not happy in the relationship. Once you're out i promise you'll feel much better, you can do so much better than him...best way to get your own back on guys that are dicks to you is to move right on, i had a date lined up the day after me and my ex broke up and i was so smug
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    Dump him. Then you will save money, and can start looking for someone who actually appreciates you =).
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    he sounds like a ****. Get your own life and leave him. What a loser he is. Actually, if you stick with him, you're a loser too.
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    GET OUT
    You deserve better hun. If you stay in the situation you are going to get hurt more and more and be bled dry by him. You've fallen in love with him, ending it will hurt, but you haven't had a good thing to say about him.

    You need to find someone who treats you as a priority, not as just an option.

    You need to put YOUR health, wellbeing and happiness first.

    YOU DON'T NEED HIM
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This might be a long post, so I am sorry in advance.

    I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 7 months. We kind of jumped head first into it, and fell in love quite quickly. The problem was we lived 40 miles apart- which meant spending money to see each other. It has always been me spending the money and doing the travelling. I don't mind, because I wanted to see him. And he usually brought my food and made up the money.

    But now things have gotten a bit well, I'm not sure how to phrase it. He spends all his money on certain things, which means that we can't go out together and I'm stuck eating toast the whole time I stay with him. But that isn't really the problem. He doesn't really appreciate what I do anymore. I have started a few arguments about various things, such as:

    1. I am bottom of his priorities list- he always says when hes with me that he wishes he was with "the boys". The fact he has no money for us to go out together because he spends it on this shows that too.

    2. The fact he doesn't appreciate the travelling I do. He even told me that if it was the other way round he wouldn't do it.

    3. He is always checking out and remarking on women when he's with me, telling me who he'd like to shag, and talking about porn. I don't really find it appropriate that he tells me this....he also boasts to me (and his mates) about bedding this girl that was underage.

    And he's always shouting at me/getting angry. Whatever I do. I went to see him, and he told me he doesn't want me there doing what I normally do, "moping", because he goes on msn and forums for hours, and I just sit there. He got angry at me and I cried, and felt so silly.

    He says that me starting arguments is making him think it would be easier if we broke up, making him question if it's worth it. This made me cry again, it's silly but if we broke up, I would have no one. All my friends went to uni and he's the only one I've got really.

    That day I thought having sex would fix it (yes, it's stupid), and ended up crying during it, although he didn't see/notice. Later I tried to initiate sex again but he wouldn't do it with me, again in the morning he shouted at me when I tried to kiss him.

    I feel like the relationship is falling apart because of me. Because I started these arguments. Maybe I was overreacting. I'm trying to do everything to fix it, I buy him stuff, I let him talk about other girls, I let him spend all the time when he's with me on msn talking to people. I feel like if I was perhaps a better girlfriend he would treat me better It sounds nuts, but that'show I feel.

    Sometimes I feel I deserve better. But I probably wouldn't find it or find anyone for that matter.

    Advice please???
    PEE PEEE PEEADO!!!:rolleyes: BANG! :007:
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    Wow this is like bad relationship bingo.

    Distance, more money and effort from you. Pays you no attention. Bottom of his priorities. Laments the time you spend with him. Tells you he wouldn't bother going to see you?! Shows you absolutely no respect by talking about other women and porn! Admits to ****ing an underage girl. Gets angry at you. Blames you for everything. Makes you cry.

    You have low self esteem. "He's all I have" and he will be as long as you put up with being used and treated like ****e.

    We see this so, so many times.. what is wrong with girls..?!

    DUMP HIS ARSE.
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    (Original post by ForensicShoe)
    Wow I want to be you!




    Not.
    And as if id ever want to be the guy who spends more than four grand a year flying 7000 miles to see a girl who didnt really ever appreciate him (as if i expect people to care?)

    No, im much happier being me now. At least I have friends and maybe i can meet someone on a night out who'll appreciate me a little bit. If only for one night and breakfast.
 
 
 
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