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    As o'm not exactly the most normal looking guy over the years i've got the odd bit of bad treatment. I'm 5 foot 8", my personality is a bit diff from the norm, i'm a bit of a loner and i'm white (so many people think they can just make stuff up because I don't have a possy of bro's to back me up).

    However, what I dont get is how girls, in there friendship groups or w/e, wherever it be secondary school, college, university always somehow always 'fear' me when I have done absolutely nothing. Normally it starts with them just teasing, perhaps my appearance and how I look different or don't fit in. I you know ignore it but it does kinda bug me if i'm near girls who say that, thus I act a little bit differenctly, a bit more cautious. However, in my caution it always feels like it leads to something really wierd and scary where girls are visabily scared of me. I seriously don't get it. Most people and guys make eye contact with lots of people. I make barely any eye contact with people in my hope of not getting worse (my eyes are very stary cos I feel threatened), and you'd think they'd only get scared if I was like starring at them.

    This is come to ahead cos theres these 2 silly girls on my course who are in my lectures and seminars. I talked to them once at the start of the year as in small talk, haven't done anything weird to them at all, just treated them like I would anyone else but now there always turning looking at me, having body language which shows their noticably scarred etc. I mean i'm not the most happiness of guys (the circumstances in which i'm at uni are not very nice which makes me quite upset) but I just turn up my lectures and seminars to sit down, shoot some **** with friends if they turn up and learn some stuff so I can get a good degree. On the other hand it just feels like some guys enjoy making themselves scarred of certain boys on such superficial things. I know you can put it down to being nervous and wanting to feel superior to people but isn't a bit silly to go around saying that a guy is 'scary' because thats just going to piss them off and increase the chance of that guy actually doing something which would make them scarred e.g. staring at them with hatred or assaulting them (I mean you might hit a guy if he was saying that you were a 'rapist').
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    Another thing I don't get is how many guys, espically tall, sporty ones will literally stare at girls and make LONG eye contact with everyone, no facial emotion, just blank stare and somehow these guys are 'safe' and 'hot' but some 5 foot 8" guy standing around waiting for a lecture or seminar who isn't making eye contact is a 'freak'
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    You must be doing something to make people think your weird. Maybe you do look at people funny without realising? Sometimes I look angry when I'm not, I'm just deep in thought.
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    I thought this was going to be about watching horror movies or something. I have no idea what you are talking about.
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    This is so stupid I can't even joke about it.
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    Scared* :sigh:
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    (Original post by Yawn11)
    This is so stupid I can't even joke about it.
    Well of course it's hard to comprehend when your sitting happidly in your own room, in comfortable surrondings on a nice chair and stuff. Also, maybe you've never been a victim of this, you've always been in a social situation or people that girls wouldn't think such bad things. You have to make a difference between how people say they would intelligently react on something like TSR than how many people react in real life in everyday circumstances.

    Yeah, it does seem like a joke, why would girls 'frighten' themselves and cause negative emotions for no reason? However does that explain why for many years groups of girls have gone round calling me a 'pervert', 'rapist', 'weirdo', 'monster' etc for doing ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Yeah, in a true liberal mind you wouldn't do such a thing but somehow in 'normal social situations' that I go through day to day where im in kinda indirect contact with others e.g. standing outside a lecture or seminar or even sitting down in one or walking home I get these really weird things of girls being scarred of me, just as an individual when i'm just trying to get to point A to point B.
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    Take for example when girls on TSR talk about their 'perfect guy' and list points A, B, C etc and some guys wonder "well i fit the bill, why not me?" What they don't include is that the guy needs to look like he has loads of friends around him. Personality doesn't mean anything unless you got atleast another bud who you can talk **** too.

    Yeah on TSR you can say 'thats a joke', or 'that never happens LOSER' but hey were not all confident, in many situations were confined. When i'm waiting for a lecture or seminar in a small place I cant really do much unless I have a bud with me, I just have to wait. But somehow im targetted by this crap when I just want to go about my day.

    If you don't put yourelf in the slightly apprehesive day to day situations your instead think about everything in your liberal, super confident TSR form then you are no help.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    on a nice chair and .
    I think the nice chair is especially important. Serious, this isn't a normal thing, so you're clearly doing something to make people 'frightened' of you. So, be nice, or, because I'm pretty sure I've seen a thread by you before, because it was basically the same, and you used the phrase 'shooting the ****' why don't you maybe make an effort if it gets to you, get new clothes etc. I'm not saying you should change how you are for people, but you don't seem very happy, and people don't take the piss out of people for being different, there has to be an active divergence on your part.

    But anyway, I don't care.
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    There are 2 guys in my form at college like this.
    One in particular thinks he's right about everything, doesn't wash, and stares constantly.

    In answer to your question op,
    I don't think girls enjoy scaring themselves no. They're just insecure, and don't know how to reacct to you.
    To test the ground & boundaries they come out with what they do. Ignore them
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    Lol at the I'm white so I don't have the bros to back me up. Never heard that one before.
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    What the hell?

    Threads on TSR no longer amuse me.

    EDIT: OP is at uni?! I have no idea what he's even going on about.
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    (Original post by Orwell)
    I think the nice chair is especially important. Serious, this isn't a normal thing, so you're clearly doing something to make people 'frightened' of you. So, be nice, or, because I'm pretty sure I've seen a thread by you before, because it was basically the same, and you used the phrase 'shooting the ****' why don't you maybe make an effort if it gets to you, get new clothes etc. I'm not saying you should change how you are for people, but you don't seem very happy, and people don't take the piss out of people for being different, there has to be an active divergence on your part.

    But anyway, I don't care.
    rofl, so much for the annoymance feature...

    I mean I am nice when people talk to me and i'm naturally extremly courteous and chivalrous and stuff but I cant really do that around ppl my own age or girls cos it makes me look submissive, weak or lacking confidents or something. And yes, I know my outlook on things isn't so happy, I guess i'm just a bit pissed to an extent
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    (Original post by babygirl110)
    Lol at the I'm white so I don't have the bros to back me up. Never heard that one before.
    Well from my experiences if your black and your on your own, perhaps on a row of your own in a class or lecture your 'cool' and 'respected' because their black and you wouldn't want to mess with them or say stuff about them and they don't want to appear racist. It happens alot at places, if your smiling and black then everyone excepts you and wants to be your mate, more so than if your white. Anyway thats a total different thing...

    However, if your some white guy sitting on your own or standing on your own then somehow your open to all the **** because no one thinks some middle class white kid is a threat. Also, as (predominatly) white girls cant exactly be racist to a white guy (it looks normal, not racially motivated) then they do it.

    Same with asian guys, i've seen many asian guys be the BIGGEST perves (not calling asian guys any more pervy btw, majority are very decent people) towards white girls but they don't get any bother becuase there with their mates and stuff. However, to these people somehow i'm worse than them even when I have not looked at girls IN THAT WAY for friging years.
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    (Original post by DominF)
    No, but people enjoy pointing out awkward people because it makes them feel more normal.

    If you're looking to change things, I'm fairly certain your problem is over-thinking everything.
    I know I do over think everything. When i've got the odd mate I can shoot some stuff with its cool. My whole socialising with people is very much geared towards laughter and funny stuff rather than the typical, "I saw this, I thought this...", "I watched the game, Gerrards free kick was...". However, when I dont have that outlet or distraction I get this **** going on. I can't exactly make myself laugh or say funny stuff to myself (that will make it worse!) so in these situations where i'm confined and I get this kinda stuff it makes me very upset.

    My general mood is not helped by the fact that one of the people that have git stuff to do with alot of this bull**** that i've been getting over the years is at the same bloody uni as me doing a really similar course (so i'm like within 100m or so of that person like everyday). I mean it's weird cos like her freinds say really bad **** which just makes her even more scarred of me and ****. So basically when some people are scarred of me it reminds me of all that...which reminds me that someone who I really don't want to see is at the same uni like close by. All this when I just want to go to a lecture to learn some stuff.
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    Awh, i'm really sorry this has happened to you and is still happening. In my form class in high school there would always be the odd 3/4 boys that wouldn't really fit in because they weren't like the norm and they were prone to a bit of teasing, but i always found those boys to offer better conversations because they were so different and they had a different outlook on things. Well towards the end of the year 11 everyone started loving them, because as we grew up they realised they were the real gems of our form class and now they have come out of their shell.

    I think the problem is a lot of people fit in to the norm and if you don't then that makes you an easy target and these females that stare at you and stuff its not that they're scared of you, its more of an image thing, they point you out so that they can feel better about themselves being 'normal'

    I suggest you just go about your business and be you and be confident to be you, because there's not another YOU in this world. Be it if your sitting by yourself, eating by yourself, walking by yourself. Just be confident, because why on earth should you feel the need to be concious of every step you take because of some small time bullies who haven't really grown up.
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    (Original post by QStah)
    Awh, i'm really sorry this has happened to you and is still happening. In my form class in high school there would always be the odd 3/4 boys that wouldn't really fit in because they weren't like the norm and they were prone to a bit of teasing, but i always found those boys to offer better conversations because they were so different and they had a different outlook on things. Well towards the end of the year 11 everyone started loving them, because as we grew up they realised they were the real gems of our form class and now they have come out of their shell.

    I think the problem is a lot of people fit in to the norm and if you don't then that makes you an easy target and these females that stare at you and stuff its not that they're scared of you, its more of an image thing, they point you out so that they can feel better about themselves being 'normal'

    I suggest you just go about your business and be you and be confident to be you, because there's not another YOU in this world. Be it if your sitting by yourself, eating by yourself, walking by yourself. Just be confident, because why on earth should you feel the need to be concious of every step you take because of some small time bullies who haven't really grown up.
    Thanks, thats pretty cool what you wrote
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    Lol @ the nice chair.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know I do over think everything. When i've got the odd mate I can shoot some stuff with its cool. My whole socialising with people is very much geared towards laughter and funny stuff rather than the typical, "I saw this, I thought this...", "I watched the game, Gerrards free kick was...". However, when I dont have that outlet or distraction I get this **** going on. I can't exactly make myself laugh or say funny stuff to myself (that will make it worse!) so in these situations where i'm confined and I get this kinda stuff it makes me very upset.

    My general mood is not helped by the fact that one of the people that have git stuff to do with alot of this bull**** that i've been getting over the years is at the same bloody uni as me doing a really similar course (so i'm like within 100m or so of that person like everyday). I mean it's weird cos like her freinds say really bad **** which just makes her even more scarred of me and ****. So basically when some people are scarred of me it reminds me of all that...which reminds me that someone who I really don't want to see is at the same uni like close by. All this when I just want to go to a lecture to learn some stuff.
    I don't think it's because you're white, maybe you stare at people too much Try to avoid eye contact I guess, if you don't want people to think you're a creep. Ignore them :dontknow:
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    (Original post by amsie/)
    I don't think it's because you're white, maybe you stare at people too much Try to avoid eye contact I guess, if you don't want people to think you're a creep. Ignore them :dontknow:
    Well I try to make absolutely 0 eye contact with anyone and I try dam hard to ignore those people. However, because It subconsiously gets to me so much if i'm like walking into somewhere with lots of people I always seem to unconsiously make sharp, brief eye contact with them and as they are 'scarred' of me they notice me. Odviously in those situations we both see each other as a threat, she's somehow scarred for her physical well being while i'm scarred (and a bit pissed off tbh) that now I have to act so I avoid any kind of contact with them and have to 'ignore' then while they slander my integrity and make future relationships with other people more difficult.
 
 
 
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