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    On a side note, if he's gonna cheat, saying something about how you feel and not saying something isn't gonna change that. You've just gotta trust him.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know this is a bit pathetic but it's bugging me.

    My boyfriends going away for a week at the weekend with his uni mates on a society trip. There's about a 70:30 girl/boy ratio.

    I trust him. He'd never cheat. But I know the girls, they're touchy feely, the kind who grind on their boy friends and hold hands with them and think nothing of it. They're also really gorgeous.

    They're going on pub crawls, clubs (most of which apparently have topless dancers in) and there's talk of strip clubs. It's making me feel sick. I don't want to say anything but I'm genuinely feeling sick with jealousy and worry at the thought.

    Please help before I explode and say something to my boyfriend
    Obviously this is a lie otherwise it wouldnt be bugging you so much.

    Why dont you just go with them
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    Get a grip, is all.
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    (Original post by Shippy)
    I think she meant boy friends, not boyfriends.
    Really? OMG sluts!!!!!!

    Its hardly a cardinal sin to hold hands with a friend
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    (Original post by failingatm)
    They hold hands with their boyfriends? OMG sluts.
    She said 'boy friends'
    not 'boyfriends'

    (EDIT: Really sorry, didn't refresh the page and saw that someone else had picked up on this!)



    (Original post by silverbolt)
    Really? OMG sluts!!!!!!

    Its hardly a cardinal sin to hold hands with a friend
    It's very inappropriate to hold hands with a boy who has a girlfriend. Most of my friends are guys with girlfriends, and I would never do this.
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    This is an excelent tash to gash ratio
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    Oh right, sorry OP.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I trust him. He'd never cheat.
    Then stop worrying and let him have a good time.

    Perhaps you can spend some time doing something you've wanted to do for a while, or with your friends or whatever?
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    I would feel the same and if you talk to him about it it could go two ways:
    1) He is really understanding, reassures you and you feel a little bit better.
    2) He freaks out and calls you paranoid.

    I had a similar thing with my bf, spoke to him about it and unfortunately got reaction 2. He was really upset I didn't seem to trust him.

    My suggestion therefore would be to trust him and let him go. He will respect you more for it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know this is a bit pathetic but it's bugging me.

    My boyfriends going away for a week at the weekend with his uni mates on a society trip. There's about a 70:30 girl/boy ratio.

    I trust him. He'd never cheat. But I know the girls, they're touchy feely, the kind who grind on their boy friends and hold hands with them and think nothing of it. They're also really gorgeous.

    They're going on pub crawls, clubs (most of which apparently have topless dancers in) and there's talk of strip clubs. It's making me feel sick. I don't want to say anything but I'm genuinely feeling sick with jealousy and worry at the thought.

    Please help before I explode and say something to my boyfriend
    Sorry, but these do not go together. You either trust him, in which case you would be fine with it, or you don't trust him and you are then obviously feeling jealous. Worrying is a completely pointless human emotion anyway. What's the worst that can happen? He will cheat on you, in which case you saved yourself a lot of grief in the long run knowing that he isn't trustworthy or values your relationship.

    Next!
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    Talk to him about it, but in a really round about way, so you can get the reassurance, without him feeling accused. Like: I'm going to be thinking about you so much when you're gone. (or whatever, I'm not so great at that kind of thing, luckily, neither's bf ^_^)

    The key word is subtly. Not: I'm worried about you with all those girls, unless you think you can pull it off as a joke. But: I'll miss you, can't wait til your back, we'll have to do something *extra* special (or whatever you feel comfortable with there)
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    I would feel the same as you, and anyone who says they wouldn't is a liar. Anyone would be worried about this. I think you should talk to him about it, tell him your concerns.
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    (Original post by SummerAnthems)
    Just suck it up I'm afraid. If you really trust him, why are you questioning whether or not he'll cheat on you in the next sentence?

    Plus strip clubs or topless bars mean nothing, its just like watching porn.
    Why did people neg rape this?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    And say what though? There's nothing he can say really. He can't not go to those places when all his friends are, not dance with his friends, not join in conversations about how hot the girls are It's just me being jealous.
    Why not? Especially the last one, where there's a lot less peer pressure to join in.
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    You obviously don't trust him.
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    How are strip clubs the same as watching porn? The girls are right in front of you, it's a lot easier to have sex with a stripper than a porn star seeing as you'll never meet the porn star....not that the stripper would have sex with the guy or anything, I'm just saying.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know this is a bit pathetic but it's bugging me.

    My boyfriends going away for a week at the weekend with his uni mates on a society trip. There's about a 70:30 girl/boy ratio.

    I trust him. He'd never cheat. But I know the girls, they're touchy feely, the kind who grind on their boy friends and hold hands with them and think nothing of it. They're also really gorgeous.

    They're going on pub crawls, clubs (most of which apparently have topless dancers in) and there's talk of strip clubs. It's making me feel sick. I don't want to say anything but I'm genuinely feeling sick with jealousy and worry at the thought.

    Please help before I explode and say something to my boyfriend
    my man is going away with his friends in the summer. i know he wont cheat, we have had several chats about it. tell him your worried and how you feel then see that he says
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    But I know the girls, they're touchy feely, the kind who grind on their boy friends and hold hands with them and think nothing of it. They're also really gorgeous.
    wut?

    Also I love the "I have trust in him, but I am worried he will cheat" business you got going on, there.
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    i find it weird that people think that you can't feel jealous about something even though you know the person wouldnt cheat on you. i get where you're coming from but i really dont think you should be on here talking about it. talk to your boy..
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    You said you trust him and he'd never cheat, this thread is completely contradictory to that.
 
 
 
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