Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free
x Turn on thread page Beta
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by *Dreaming*)
    How are strip clubs the same as watching porn? The girls are right in front of you, it's a lot easier to have sex with a stripper than a porn star seeing as you'll never meet the porn star....not that the stripper would have sex with the guy or anything, I'm just saying.
    Quote me goddamnit.

    Have you ever been to a strip club? Do you even know how they work?

    Strippers don't just randomly have sex with their clientèle.
    Porn = look but no touchy
    Strip club = look but no touchy

    It really couldn't be simpler.
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by SummerAnthems)
    Quote me goddamnit.

    Have you ever been to a strip club? Do you even know how they work?

    Strippers don't just randomly have sex with their clientèle.
    Porn = look but no touchy
    Strip club = look but no touchy

    It really couldn't be simpler.
    Yeah, but some places (especially those abroad), are quite open to strippers offering "extra services" for abit more cash. But my point was, it's obviously a lot easier to pull a stripper than a porn star, as you'd never actually meet the porn star.
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by *Dreaming*)
    Yeah, but some places (especially those abroad), are quite open to strippers offering "extra services" for abit more cash. But my point was, it's obviously a lot easier to pull a stripper than a porn star, as you'd never actually meet the porn star.
    Well that would be up to him wouldn't it? If he won't cheat he won't pay for the 'extras' thereby negating the worry about strip clubs. Strippers aren't prostitutes.
    • #3
    #3

    (Original post by SummerAnthems)
    Well that would be up to him wouldn't it? If he won't cheat he won't pay for the 'extras' thereby negating the worry about strip clubs. Strippers aren't prostitutes.
    True, but in some places the lines are blurred....here there are certain "rules" in strip clubs, abroad (I'm not sure if the OPs boyfriend is going abroad or not), it's not uncommon for strippers to prostitute themselves aswell.
    Offline

    14
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I trust him.
    lol
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    dont worry about the stripclubs..there's no touching allowed so nothing will happen there. give him some brilliant sex before he goes so that he doesn't need any for the week...
    Offline

    16
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by 21stcenturyphantom)
    Sorry, but these do not go together. You either trust him, in which case you would be fine with it, or you don't trust him and you are then obviously feeling jealous.
    (Original post by MovingOn)
    You said you trust him and he'd never cheat, this thread is completely contradictory to that.
    I don't agree with this. She says she trusts that he wouldn't cheat, but she may still feel uncomfortable having his female friends grinding on him or him going to strip clubs even though that isn't cheating. It doesn't strike me about being whether or not he cheats, but her feeling jealous about him being touchy-feely with other girls.
    Offline

    10
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Drogue)
    I don't agree with this. She says she trusts that he wouldn't cheat, but she may still feel uncomfortable having his female friends grinding on him or him going to strip clubs even though that isn't cheating. It doesn't strike me about being whether or not he cheats, but her feeling jealous about him being touchy-feely with other girls.
    You see, I would say grinding with another girl is cheating. What sane person thinks its okay to grind their ass into a man's crotch if he has a girlfriend? When the OP said they knew he wouldn't cheat I took it to mean he wouldn't allow his friends to grind with him.
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    Watch the BBC series Sun, Sex, and Suspicious Parents. It'll reassure you
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know this is a bit pathetic but it's bugging me.

    My boyfriends going away for a week at the weekend with his uni mates on a society trip. There's about a 70:30 girl/boy ratio.

    I trust him. He'd never cheat. But I know the girls, they're touchy feely, the kind who grind on their boy friends and hold hands with them and think nothing of it. They're also really gorgeous.

    They're going on pub crawls, clubs (most of which apparently have topless dancers in) and there's talk of strip clubs. It's making me feel sick. I don't want to say anything but I'm genuinely feeling sick with jealousy and worry at the thought.

    Please help before I explode and say sometching to my boyfriend
    Go with him or deal with it!
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by GGekko)
    Watch the BBC series Sun, Sex, and Suspicious Parents. It'll reassure you
    In before me- I think it was Rhys who promised to stay 'loyal' but was caught on camera stripping and grinding girls lol.
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by kbountra)
    In before me- I think it was Rhys who promised to stay 'loyal' but was caught on camera stripping and grinding girls lol.
    Haha he's the exact guy I was thinking of! Yeah, like in one night he was saying how he never cheats and then later on he was in that dry humping club showing off his sex moves on some topless girl haha.
    Offline

    16
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by MovingOn)
    You see, I would say grinding with another girl is cheating. What sane person thinks its okay to grind their ass into a man's crotch if he has a girlfriend? When the OP said they knew he wouldn't cheat I took it to mean he wouldn't allow his friends to grind with him.
    A stripper? I assumed when the OP mentioned them going into strip clubs, this is what she would have a problem with. If this is cheating then he's already suggested he's going to cheat by telling her they may be going to strip clubs.
    Offline

    14
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know this is a bit pathetic but it's bugging me.

    My boyfriends going away for a week at the weekend with his uni mates on a society trip. There's about a 70:30 girl/boy ratio.

    I trust him. He'd never cheat. But I know the girls, they're touchy feely, the kind who grind on their boy friends and hold hands with them and think nothing of it. They're also really gorgeous.

    They're going on pub crawls, clubs (most of which apparently have topless dancers in) and there's talk of strip clubs. It's making me feel sick. I don't want to say anything but I'm genuinely feeling sick with jealousy and worry at the thought.

    Please help before I explode and say something to my boyfriend
    Tell him you're worried, but make sure you don't sound too clingy/paranoid.

    If something happens, then he's not worth it.
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's just me being jealous.
    There's nothing you can do right now except fish for assurance from him, which he'll probably find irritating. If he's a cheater, he'll cheat. If he's not, he won't. There's not much you can do to affect this. If he does cheat, then unleash your mighty, mighty wrath.

    Also: These girls hold hands with their boyfriends? They dance with their boyfriends??

    SURELY ****ING NOT.
    Offline

    16
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Fumblenuts91)
    Also: These girls hold hands with their boyfriends? They dance with their boyfriends??

    SURELY ****ING NOT.
    Already been answered - boy friends (ie. friends who are boys and have other girlfriends) not boyfriends.
    Offline

    10
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Drogue)
    A stripper? I assumed when the OP mentioned them going into strip clubs, this is what she would have a problem with. If this is cheating then he's already suggested he's going to cheat by telling her they may be going to strip clubs.
    No, I was referring to the girl friends he has who apparently grind on their male friends. I don't think going to look at strippers is cheating, just laddish.
    Offline

    16
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by MovingOn)
    No, I was referring to the girl friends he has who apparently grind on their male friends. I don't think going to look at strippers is cheating, just laddish.
    So it's cheating if a female friend grinds on you, but not if a stripper does? I can sort of understand this, though it seems a little artificial to me.

    But still, from what the OP posted, she seems to be suggesting that she trusts him not to do things she'd consider actually cheating, but isn't comfortable about him flirting with female friends or going to strip clubs.
    • #4
    #4

    (Original post by SummerAnthems)
    Plus strip clubs or topless bars mean nothing, its just like watching porn.
    I have to agree, and i'm also a girl. It's not a big deal, unless you also don't like him watching porn..

    Plus if you don't think he'll cheat, why do you care if the girls are touchy feely? And i'm also touchy feely with the guys i know, it doesn't mean i'm going to hook up with them, especially if i know he has a girlfriend...
    Offline

    10
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Drogue)
    So it's cheating if a female friend grinds on you, but not if a stripper does? I can sort of understand this, though it seems a little artificial to me.

    But still, from what the OP posted, she seems to be suggesting that she trusts him not to do things she'd consider actually cheating, but isn't comfortable about him flirting with female friends or going to strip clubs.
    No, I'd say it's cheating regardless of who does it. It's just there was a mention of the girl friends grinding on their friends in the OP.
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
Turn on thread page Beta
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: March 24, 2011
Poll
Are you going to a Festival?

The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

Write a reply...
Reply
Hide
Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.