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    That's the strange thing though, you close your eyes during kissing so you'd think that sex would follow suit. Hmm...
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    I look at my partner feels more intimate that way
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    I think this is becoming more and more common, porn is influencing the way young people view sex and they're acting out fantasies/ways of behaving that fit with these more modern conceptualisations, often without thinking too much about how others may feel

    I am certainly not all that different from your partner in some of the things I do and I've had one or two partners who were so 'lights off!' and wooden about sex it was ridiculous. The key is to talk about these things, however embarrassing it may be to talk about, or however much you don't want to put your partner off.. it's about achieving a balance that rewards everyone involved on near enough every level most, if not all, of the time

    If you love your partner clearly it's not normal to be intimate without showing affection e.g. kissing and eye contact, on a regular/consistent basis. The flip side is, girls, don't expect every act of intimacy to be all about slowness, deep passion, closeness etc - give guys a bit of leeway - just don't let them take the piss..

    ..wow I sound like a teen-sex agony aunt

    To the OP, it's fairly normal for guys to shut their eyes or fixate on parts of your body during but not all the time, especially if you think they have feelings for you..
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This question is mainly for guys but girls can answer too.

    My boyfriend never really looks at me (as in my face). He either shuts his eyes or mainly looks down there at, well there's no other way for me to phrase it....at his penis thrusting into me. I asked him why he looks there and he said "because it's hot".

    I don't know if this is normal, that this is EVERY time we have sex....I don't really like the term "making love", but it doesn't feel like he is being intimate with me, seeing as he doesn't look at me, doesn't kiss me, doesn't say anything loving at all. All he says is stuff you'd expect to hear in a porn vid.
    Well at least he's not looking at repeats of Eastenders.
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    (Original post by It could be lupus)
    Most guys do a Patrick Bateman and look in the mirror or the camera. Nothing like flexing those biceps during sex...

    Foreplay? A discussion of the relative merits of Phil Collins' work will suffice.
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    My (now ex)boyfriend always looked in my eyes and kept saying he loved me, up to the point where it got a bit awkward. At times I was afraid he would propose to me afterwards, that's how big a deal he seemed to make out of it I understand your feelings OP, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that the other opposite isn't nice either! Perhaps you could tell him that you would prefer it to be a bit more intimate and romantic? Or perhaps he doesn't have much experience yet and is still a bit too impressed by what's going on to focus on you? Just talk to him about it, I'm sure he'll understand.
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    Eyes/vagina/boobs/mirror.
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    eyes, all the way.
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    The ceiling.
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    eyes closed, occasionally look at him/kiss him, his head is usually over my shoulder haha
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    I actually find it really awkward to make proper eye contact during sex. :erm:
    I either looked at his face in general, or closed my eyes. Or at the... "action" itself, which honestly is a hot thing to look at.
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    (Original post by No Future)
    Men like watching their **** penetrate things. *shrug*
    Assumably women like seeing their vagina being penetrated.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This question is mainly for guys but girls can answer too.

    My boyfriend never really looks at me (as in my face). He either shuts his eyes or mainly looks down there at, well there's no other way for me to phrase it....at his penis thrusting into me. I asked him why he looks there and he said "because it's hot".

    I don't know if this is normal, that this is EVERY time we have sex....I don't really like the term "making love", but it doesn't feel like he is being intimate with me, seeing as he doesn't look at me, doesn't kiss me, doesn't say anything loving at all. All he says is stuff you'd expect to hear in a porn vid.
    Always at her eyes.
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    Usually I always like to look at his face, but he looks at my face all the time so I had to shut my eyes because I feel awkward. I like it when he put his head on my shoulder or the chest part cos that way I wouldn't have to worry of how I look like when he's not staring.
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    I don't just look at one thing.
    I'll look at 'the action', his face, the ceiling, the time, my knees etc etc
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    At his back or the ceiling.
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    I look into his eyes or have my head in the pillow (depends what pos)
    He looks at me and/or enjoys watching down there, like you said watching his **** go inside
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    Haha. It's kind of distracting making eye contact. You're kind of busy for that! Funny that he makes noises like a porn star though..maybe he's thinking of porn vids and thats why he's not looking at you!
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    Aww :erm:

    Straight guys are silly, I'm pretty sure it's an inherent gene...or something...I'm no biologist. Still, talk to him about it; let him know that you don't want to be treated like a sex-doll, or a cheap whore from a porn movie If he doesn't want/try to listen, then close up shop for a while...for a nicer way of putting it :P
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    Would you prefer if he watched the telly and pushed your head out the way whilst he's drilling instead? Much ado about nothing
 
 
 
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