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    I went to an all girls school and in year 8 we got taught about sex ed. Everything we were told was about the man; how blood rushed into his penis to make it hard and how once he's pleasured enough he will orgasm and that's that. We were never taught that it was enjoyable for men AND women, nor that women orgasmed. I had no idea that masturbation could be enjoyable for the woman until I was in year 10 or 11 or that women could even orgasm. The only thing we were taught about women was the menstrual cycle which I still don't understand completely because it was so scientific and technical in the way I was taught.

    Looking back I feel angered that sex ed is all about the scientific aspects of sex and not the social aspects. Yes, I now know exactly what happens when the egg is fertilised, but I'd much rather have known that if the condom breaks, there's something called 'the morning after pill'. I also would have liked to known exactly what the pill does or even that condoms may break and aren't foolproof.

    We were very much taught sex ed with the philosophy that sex makes babies and you only have sex if you want babies. I don't think the science behind sex was enough for me to understand everything that happened. I'd rather have had practice putting a condom on a banana and learning about different contraceptions. I'd like to have known that it's normal for girls to become wet when turned on, and that playing with nipples can increase sensitivity. I'd like to have known that there is something called a clitoris and a G-spot and that they give pleasure to women too. I'd like to have known about the hymen breaking and the vagina expanding during sex. All these small things that I had to find out by myself.

    How were you taught sex ed? Did you find it beneficial? Do you wish you were taught things differently or are you pleased with what you found out?
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    One dark night down an alley. I was forced to learn pretty quick .
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    Practically.
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    I was taught at my local church.

    The priest was very hands-on.
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    I went to a mixed comprehensive and it was the same. Very biological, very technical, the mechanics of menstruation, of copulation and of conception. presumably to keep teenage pregnancies low.

    I suppose I strongly disagree with you. We weren't taught about masturbation or orgasm and I'm very glad about that. I'd have hated for my teachers to teach me about that stuff. That's personal, I would have felt quite violated to be told this stuff by some stranger in a room full of children. That's something a parent should teach a child.
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    i never got the chance to attend sex education. my parents wouldn't give me permission to go to these classes, and signed a form to withdraw me from them. :/

    everything that i do know about the reproduction side of nookie comes from studying science/biology classes......but that's about it.
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    Monkeys.
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    (Original post by NOBODY MOVE!)
    i never got the chance to attend sex education. my parents wouldn't give me permission to go to these classes, and signed a form to withdraw me from them. :/

    everything that i do know about the reproduction side of nookie comes from studying science/biology classes......but that's about it.
    hahaha keeping it within the family I see.
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    Johnny Condom!
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    i was 5 years old, i picked up a health magazine and started reading about sex. i then asked: mummy what's sex? she explained everything in detail and i never needed to ask anything from anyone again.
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    Through a very vivid demonstration.

    Active participation was encouraged too.
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    By nuns

    Still very angry the a nun had a sex ed class in my school; at least the science department also taught it (separately thankfully)
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    Year 5, the last day before the summer holidays, watching a video in school for the whole day that included a father, mother and their son and daughter walking around the house naked.

    :facepalm:

    FML.
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    I still rememebr my year 5 sex ed..

    That cartoon girl coming out of a swimming pool and exploring her vagina.

    Only now i realise how that's wrong on so many levels:

    Level 1) This was year 5
    Level 2) She was swimming naked
    Level 3) It was a public pool
    Level 4) She came out of the pool and just started fingering herself with a confused face
    Level 5) Someone drew that
    Level 6) After we learnt about the girl, a boy did the same thing, but he started playing with his penis
    Level 7) He was naked too
    Level 8) It was the same pool
    Level 9) They were both about 10 years old
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    Ours was really quite a lot about the emotional side. In year nine we started a sixth form led programme and it was stuff like 'how to say no' which involved some v. awkward role plays and believe it or not types of foreplay! I distinctly remember us having a conversation with our teacher about nurses outfits :facepalm: I'm starting to think it was all a bit inappropriate
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    My mum taught me the basics at 5 - I came home from school and asked her what gay people were, so she explained a few things. Also walked in on a male friend on the loo (at age 4 or 5) and was rather confused so she explained a few things!

    Friends and I taught ourselves a few more things when we read a first aid manual at age eight - we used to pour over the "naughty" bits for hours...

    I then taught myself more through the wonders of Mizz Magazine and a Family Health Encyclopedia - by age 11 I knew all about puberty, periods, sex and all the rest of it. I remember a girl asking me in the latter years of primary if I'd ever had crabs (!) - I asked my mum that night, who sighed explained and then said "I suppose they've been going on about orgasms too" - and so suddenly she had to explain that one as well..

    Sex Ed in school was more funny than anything else - it didn't teach me anything I didn't really know. I think in 3rd year we had an odd lesson on contraception - and remember a lad sticking a femidom into his mouth for a laugh. We also got the sciency stuff in biology - starting off with basics before doing all the different hormones and exact processes in higher human (age 17).

    Learnt the more "kinky" stuff through conversations with friends I think!

    I kind of guessed it was meant to be pleasurable from the descriptions I had read.

    I think the thing about sex though is that it should be about exploration - noone wants to go in knowing exactly what will happen and when. I mean, yes you should know about STIs and how to look after yourself/avoid rape etc - and have a good knowledge of contraception if that's something you want - but I'd think it might ruin the fun if you knew absolutely everything about it.

    ... Remember the school nurse telling us not to douche as well now - and how to look at yourself in a mirror.. Oh my.
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    pretty much got shown a porno....and was then asked if we had any questions at the end
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    Very poorly.

    We watched a video of a woman giving birth from about the 60s in year 8 and that was about it.
    Urban Dictionary has been my Sex Ed. teacher :yep:.
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    Internet and friends
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    I wasn't :O
 
 
 
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