I can flirt with men I'm not interested in, but when it comes to guys I actually like, I just can't do it! In fact, I can't flirt with anyone in a noticeable way, even when drunk. This is probably because I used to be incredibly shy, and I haven't had the best experiences with men.
Problem is, there's a guy I've liked for quite a while, and he flirts with me frequently, but because I can't flirt with him, he obviously has no idea. A good friend who knows us both has told me she's noticed him flirting with me in a pretty obvious way on numerous occasions, but has NEVER seen me flirt with him. I'm told I act like I like him in a friendly way, but I don't act like I'm interested in him beyond that.
I worked up the nerve to ask him out for a drink about a month ago via text, and his response was basically 'Hey, what for? I'm really really busy with work and uni atm.' I know this is true - he is very stressed out. Bear in mind, we know each other through being on the board for a uni society, and whilst we're friends, we don't know each other that well, and don't normally hang out alone. I responded that 'I thought it'd be fun to hang out with you away from the society, that's all!' Probably made it sound a lot more casual than I actually intended.
Anyway, neither of us has brought it up since then, but he continues to flirt with me. I'm left thinking my only option is to suggest going out again, but make it explicit that I mean it as a date. My problem is that I'm pretty terrified by having to make it so obvious, and I find myself sitting here over-analysing the situation.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can fix the situation?
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- Thread Starter
- 25-03-2011 02:35
- 25-03-2011 02:47
Just get one of your mutual friends to inform him that you like him, that saves you from the embarassment of saying it bluntly to him...
tbh, I can't think of anything else.
- Thread Starter
- 25-03-2011 03:07
I'm 22, not 14! I don't think I can get away with that anymore!
- 25-03-2011 09:47
- 25-03-2011 10:02
Then just talk to him. You don't need to be flirtatious. Just make normal conversation like anyone else. TBH Just ask him if he wants to go out somewhere with you sometime so you guys can get to know each other etc
I know this may not be much help as I don't find it hard flirting with guys I like but yea...
- 25-03-2011 21:57
"My mate fancies you" works at any age!!
Just flirt with him like you would any normal guy?! Text him with lots of winks, make cheeky plays on words, joke with him/tease him - it's fairly easy! And be confident when saying you want to go out with him - don't ask him if he fancies it, just say, "We should go for a drink one night. Next week maybe?"