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    Hummm, not exactly political views, but as everything ends up in politcs anyhow...
    I'm a vegetarian. I would never date, for example, a hunter or someone perfectly capable of hurting or killing animals without any sense of compassion or even worries about the planet. I could date someone who ate meat if they tried to understand my beliefs and not deliberately do something that would completly go against it. But if they ate meat there were doing something that would. So I'm confused. I hope London is a nice resource of vegetarian, intelligent guys so I don't have to think this much about it.

    (Original post by Bellissima)
    i'm not religious but i also couldn't date an extreme atheist who kept making fun of religious people and calling them stupid/narrow minded or an extreme theist who kept quoting the bible every 5 seconds since i'm kind of in the middle.
    I don't think I could date someone religious at all. I sound much more radical than what I though I was. None of my friends are religious, mainly because in Portugal you don't have as much as a multicultural background as there is in the UK, for example. Here you have a lot of christian , adult people that came from smaller towns in the interior of the country, where the religious traditions can be found more often. In the city I would say, among young people, 90% have either a strong atheist position or don't care that much about religion at all. In my class, for instance, of almost 30 people, none of them are religious. Some of them have parents who are but understand their position. But again, I study in the city, so maybe I'm just analyzing the small world I'm in.

    I'm a very pragmatic person and while I'm not super radical (I understand why people follow certain traditions and ideologies, just can't be a part of that because I don't believe the reasons that are behind), I don't think I'll be able to be with someone connected to any kind of religion. I think I'll be super boring and start asking all kinds of questions, and then get angry and then ruin everything.

    I'm sorry for any mistakes, I'm typing quite fast, and I'm late. I just wanted to say this before I forget everything.
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    (Original post by No Future)
    Yes, as long as they weren't a racist bigot or had completely idiotic views
    I wouldn't date anyone that had a certain position without logical reasons. Racism is not logical, it's just a stupid generalization of race.
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    I'm not sure I could, tbh. I had a semi-stalker at uni who was like that, though he seemed to think we were completely compatible. It was serious :lolwut:
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    It depends, if they were centre right, I wouldn't mind, it would be weird if my boyfriend or husband agreed with me about everything, but I could never court a tory, or anyone really far right!
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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    Naive idealism... what idealism would that be? Apart from being a member of a (mainstream) party, I really don't know where you're getting that from.. :curious:
    The idealism that (realist types believe) underpins liberalism/libertarianism peut etre?

    I know what he's talking about.. I don't mind naive pretty young things holding charming views such as your own, in-fact I would find them holding extreme views to the contrary rather ugly.. but I would find it hard to get my head around someone truly intelligent/educated believing in blanket laissez faire-ism in 2011

    (Original post by yaravel)
    I would never date, for example, a hunter or someone perfectly capable of hurting or killing animals without any sense of compassion or even worries about the planet
    I'm not a hunter as such but I've killed fish/birds and advocate certain types of hunting (mainly for population control) yet I only eat poultry and fish as I don't feel comfortable with the idea of having mammals slaughtered. I'm also passionately pro-sustainability but see the merits in certain facets of globalisation! Unpick that contradictory mess! hehe

    (Original post by yaravel)
    I don't think I could date someone religious at all
    What about someone who was spiritual but not religious e.g. a Jesu-moralist agnostic quasi-spiritualist
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)

    I'm not a hunter as such but I've killed fish/birds and advocate certain types of hunting (mainly for population control) yet I only eat poultry and fish as I don't feel comfortable with the idea of having mammals slaughtered. I'm also passionately pro-sustainability but see the merits in certain facets of globalisation! Unpick that contradictory mess! hehe

    What about someone who was spiritual but not religious e.g. a Jesu-moralist agnostic quasi-spiritualist
    Well, I can see you are aware of your actions and maintain logical reasons than lead you to act a certain way. I think that is a bonus. I can predict very long conversations about the subject(s) and depeding on those we might get along

    Hum...I think the main reasons why I wouldn't date someone religious are still there. But let me put it this way: The physical world, for me, is all that matters. As long as the person in question wouldn't live his entire life wondering about his future life or his actions influencing it, doing things in order to follow x number of "rules" someone else wrote, maybe I would give it a shot.
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    And the flexible me takes part in this thread
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    Depends how right wing they were. If they were thatcherites then no, if they were fairly moderate then :yes:
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    (Original post by S129439)
    Yeah I could. I use a very strange system I have devised to find out if I could get along with others. It's called 'The Pub Test'.

    Basically, if you can talk to each other and get along fine in a pub and agree(mostly) upon the things you talk about, then you could go out together.

    Things like politics and religion, while very interesting, are not things you would mention in a pub. These views are often deep-set and you are unlikely to change each others mind, only causing conflict. I find it's best to focus on your similarities and not worry about your differences.

    The only way politics would ever be a problem if they were really preachy and had a problem with you about it. As long as you can see past those differences and be at peace with them, then it's no problem.
    I think you speak a lot of truth here.
    Although I think the pub test could be applied to more than just relationships.
    One of my friends is a committed Marxist, but I still get on with him. We all poke fun at him and his beliefs every now and then, but not in a malicious way. Similarly, I can get on with people from the far right without too much of a problem (although in a university there are far fewer far righters than far lefters!). I suppose it helps that they would see me as being 'racially pure' etc while I believe that there really isn't much of a place for hatred against someone because of their beliefs. Perhaps for their actions which are dictated by belief, but not solely because they believe something different to me.
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    As a Muslim i'd love get married to a member of the BNP
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    (Original post by Manitude)
    I think you speak a lot of truth here.
    Although I think the pub test could be applied to more than just relationships.
    One of my friends is a committed Marxist, but I still get on with him. We all poke fun at him and his beliefs every now and then, but not in a malicious way. Similarly, I can get on with people from the far right without too much of a problem (although in a university there are far fewer far righters than far lefters!). I suppose it helps that they would see me as being 'racially pure' etc while I believe that there really isn't much of a place for hatred against someone because of their beliefs. Perhaps for their actions which are dictated by belief, but not solely because they believe something different to me.
    Yeah, I have a friend who is an EDL member, and we give him a bit of jip about how he looks like Hitler, and that he hates gay people (which he doesn't ofc). It's just a joke, as long as you are tolerant then it's ok.
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    Oooh, yes.

    Imagine the heated debates followed by a nice make-up session :sexface:.
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    Definitely! I have done before

    It makes for interesting conversations. I wouldn't like to go out with someone who likes the BNP, I do draw the line there.
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)

    I'm not a hunter as such but I've killed fish/birds and advocate certain types of hunting (mainly for population control) yet I only eat poultry and fish as I don't feel comfortable with the idea of having mammals slaughtered. I'm also passionately pro-sustainability but see the merits in certain facets of globalisation! Unpick that contradictory mess! hehe
    And just noticed that that would be a "gray area" , not an opposite as the title of the thread says. Not sure if I'm making sense
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    The idealism that (realist types believe) underpins liberalism/libertarianism peut etre?

    I know what he's talking about.. I don't mind naive pretty young things holding charming views such as your own, in-fact I would find them holding extreme views to the contrary rather ugly.. but I would find it hard to get my head around someone truly intelligent/educated believing in blanket laissez faire-ism in 2011
    This post is so patronising I don't even know where to begin.

    It's not idealism to have a political stand point, but that asides, my comment that I wouldn't mind going out with a Libertarian, in a post about going out with someone who's politically different to us, should indicate that I am not a Libertarian myself - no?

    Don't use French words in an attempt to look intelligent, and then misspell them. The word is 'peut-être'

    You have no idea what my political views are, please don't try and speak with authority when in reality you're clueless.
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    Yeah, unless they're a vegetarian communist or a zionist.
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    Probably not. It'd depend though if it was just going on dates and casual conversation, or if it was serious.

    I'd like to think I wouldn't, but tbh, I'm acquaintances with people who are pretty racist, even though I've always said if I found out someone was racist I'd just stop talking to them. But now it just seems almost juvenile to refuse to talk to someone because of their views, either that or naively idealistic.

    Granted, acquaintanceship and dating are different, but as I said, if it was just meals and going to the cinema, and we had similar personalities, I do wonder. But if it was anything beyond that then I'm pretty sure I wouldn't because personality's a big thing for me, and I like to at least think that I'm fairly political.

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    If she let me bork her she could vote BNP for all I care - coming from a darkie.
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    Maybe. I think it depends more on what we agree/disagree on. If it's something I feel strongly about and he's completely opposed to my point of view, it could cause a bit of friction. Even more so if this relates to a lot of my views. But if there's a mutual respect of opinions it could work fine.

    My current partner and I agree on most things but we still have a few minor disagreements here and there although it's nothing that damages the relationship. We're both left-wing though so I guess that explains it :p:
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    yeah, i could date a tory.

    if we're talking the extreme end of the spectrum, like the BNP, then no. absolutely not.
 
 
 
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