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    I'm a 19 year old guy, and I've never had a gf. I've never even kissed anyone...even on the cheek:kissing2:

    I know why this is, because I've never tried. I've never approached a girl, I've never given them attention - nor have I ever received any. The explanation for the former is my ugliness. I could never flirt or do anything like that because it's almost like a farce. It's like intruding into a world in which I don't belong. The world of love and romance is the preserve of the good looking. Trying to be flirty, seductive, sexy is like I am not aware of my ugliness and that I genuinely think I'm good looking while everyone laughs and thinks, "God, does he really think he's good looking enough to flirt?!" It's embarrassing, so I never do it. Like a pretence. Shamefully, the only suitable, yet rather contemporary, analogy is that Rebecca Black thinks she's talented whilst everyone laughs at her.

    Am I alone in this?
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    We're not all as gifted as Charlie Sheen. In actual fact, most of us aren't.

    Do you look at girls and judge them by their appearances by any chance? Maybe you should focus on your friends. You're 19. You've got a good 11 years on you before you need to start panicking. Who knows, you might decide relationships aren't for you by that point.
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    Right lets say your a 5/10

    Dress well, work out and become a confident person.

    Your now a 7/10

    Now learn how to "woo" women.


    You win.
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    (Original post by wm123)
    Right lets say your a 5/10

    Dress well, work out and become a confident person.

    Your now a 7/10

    Now learn how to "woo" women.


    You win.
    5/10 is rather generous.
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    Here's a tip, read a book by a guy called Neil Strauss called The Game.
    Its about a community of guys like you, who felt the way you do, who became PUAs or Pick Up Artists. Its a true novel, the guy was actually a jourlnalist before he stubled upon this group of guys.

    Anyway seriously you just have to change yourself if your not happy. Save up some ££ and buy some designer gear like Abercrombie and Fitch or River Island. Find a male model and try and buy clothes that immitate his.
    Self grooming goes a long way so get a nice haircut (like your model perhaps) and also make sure you smell good whereever you go, invest in some nice cologne and you will transform.
    You could probably do this very well for about £200, but i rekon you could aim for as low as 75.
    This will totally relax you, however the next part is down to you, you just gotta talk to a girl, find something in common, arrange to go out for coffee etc.
    but yeah grab that book its a powerful insight

    Good luck
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    (Original post by wm123)
    Right lets say your a 5/10

    Dress well, work out and become a confident person.

    Your now a 7/10

    Now learn how to "woo" women.


    You win.
    1. Dress well, work out and become confident.
    2. 7/10
    3. ??????
    4. Profit.
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    (Original post by wm123)
    Right lets say your a 5/10

    Dress well, work out and become a confident person.

    Your now a 7/10

    Now learn how to "woo" women.


    You win.
    Are you allowed porn on your sig?
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    Flirting is for losers. Real men slap their meat on every table they see, to provide the womenfolk with ample nourishment.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The world of love and romance self-confident flirtation* is the preserve of the good looking
    Everyone can find love, you just have to learn to accept and work with whatever limitations you face. For you it may be your appearance, for me it's chronic ill health, for the next dude it's having no legs..

    ..don't let whatever pitfalls you may face limit your life experiences. Of course always try to 'stay true to yourself', don't be false or push yourself too far but do be open minded, friendly, perky, positive, playful etc, always take the opportunity to meet new people/make new friends and you will find yourself clicking with various people
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    (Original post by Swarley Stinson)
    Flirting is for losers. Real men slap their meat on every table they see, to provide the womenfolk with ample nourishment.
    I shall test to see if this method is better than mine.
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    (Original post by spocckka)
    Are you allowed porn on your sig?
    Porn? :lolwut:

    Anyway, it's SFW brah.

    Actually on second thoughts, maybe not SFW but SFTSR :ahee:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a 19 year old guy, and I've never had a gf. I've never even kissed anyone...even on the cheek:kissing2:

    I know why this is, because I've never tried. I've never approached a girl, I've never given them attention - nor have I ever received any. The explanation for the former is my ugliness. I could never flirt or do anything like that because it's almost like a farce. It's like intruding into a world in which I don't belong. The world of love and romance is the preserve of the good looking. Trying to be flirty, seductive, sexy is like I am not aware of my ugliness and that I genuinely think I'm good looking while everyone laughs and thinks, "God, does he really think he's good looking enough to flirt?!" It's embarrassing, so I never do it. Like a pretence. Shamefully, the only suitable, yet rather contemporary, analogy is that Rebecca Black thinks she's talented whilst everyone laughs at her.

    Am I alone in this?
    OP As other posters have already said, all you need to do is make sure that you work what you have.

    That means getting a haircut which is both up to date and suits you. Go to a hairdressers rather than a barbers.

    Then sort your wardrobe sorted out as well and that includes shoes.

    Sort out any bad facial hair, bumfluff and monobrow you might have and ensure your breath and teeth are clean. Look after your skin and smell.

    You probably would have made a really significant improvement to your appearance and would get much more attention that you might have.

    Bad I know that people can be shallow, but if you just make the best of what you have, it will probably make you feel more confident and you'll come across more self-assured which is an added bonus.
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    (Original post by Willum Infanta)
    Porn? :lolwut:

    Anyway, it's SFW brah.
    For some reason I hit the wrong quote button. How embarrassing . Anyway I sure you noticed the naked women above...
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    (Original post by spocckka)
    For some reason I hit the wrong quote button. How embarrassing . Anyway I sure you noticed the naked women above...
    You quoted the right guy, I just answered his question.

    And yeah I did...had a very pleasant fap
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    dude, attraction is like subjective. don't get down on yourself. there's no such thing as ugly, it's a construct made by shallow, vacuous minds.
    just be confident, be happy, and get yourself out there and the women will come!
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    You need to grab women by the shoulders and give them your best 'rape' face.


    Then add a bit of teeth like this :teeth:


    Get it?
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    Pic?

    You maybe too harsh on yourself. I doubt you are ugly. Personality wise, you might be amazing...
 
 
 
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