Turn on thread page Beta
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    I've got dyspraxia, on top of that an anxiety disorder, mild depression, OCD tendancies and chronically low self esteem - I think I've just never learnt how to be confident or how to like myself, if that makes any sense.

    I've just been started on escitaplopram by my GP and am in the process of trying to sort out therapy - I was getting CBT but it wasn't working and am trying to change therapist.

    Thing is, my friend has asked me to move into her flat next year. This is more than I can afford, but staying in halls for the 3rd year wouldn't help me - I can sit in my room for 24hrs a day on my laptop not moving and not talking to anyone. GP, mum, uni advisor are all in agreement that moving would really help me. I can't afford it though. I've never worked - my mum and sister are both disabled and i spend a lot of my home time helping them. They rely on benefits as my mum's not fit to work, plus she's a full time carer to my sister who's quite severly disabled. Dad took off years ago. There's no jobs in the area and no reliable cheap bus service - if I worked out of the village I'd be spending all my money on buses.

    I get some money from my grandma at present but she's 81 in September and I'm aware she won't be around forever, my other grandparents buy me a bus pass every year too so that helps. But I rely on my student loan right now to pay my rent and buy me food - next year the loan wont even cover the rent, let alone food and that too - they have a landline phone, tv licence and broadband that I'll have to contribute to.

    I know a lot of you think its wrong to claim benefits and selfish, but I'm at a complete loss of what to do - other than see about DLA. Thought about putting an advert in the shop offering to babysit or something? There ARE jobs but they are given to friends/relatives of the employers.. Villages are like that :rolleyes:. I can't see any major employer taking on someone who can only work for three months anyway? And as soon as I tell employers I have dyspraxia they run a mile in the opposite direction

    I can't get a highly paid job over the summer anyway - as I was told last year, if I do I become the household breadwinner and my mum's housing benefit etc gets stopped - I'd be responsible for paying rent on a 2 bed house plus bills and all that.

    Basically I feel a bit lost - I don't know who to contact or what to do. My advisor mentioned a "discretionary fund" but I doubt that will pay for my rent all year?!

    So just seeing if any of you have any advice at all? x
    • PS Reviewer
    Offline

    20
    ReputationRep:
    PS Reviewer
    DLA is given for care and/or mobility needs. In your post you haven't mentioned either of those.

    To get the care component of Disability Living Allowance (DLA), your disability must be severe enough for you to either:

    * need help with things such as washing, dressing, eating, getting to and using the toilet, or communicating your needs
    * need supervision to avoid you putting yourself or others in substantial danger
    * need someone with you when you are on dialysis
    * be unable to prepare a cooked main meal for yourself (if you have the ingredients), if you are aged 16 or over

    To get the mobility component of Disability Living Allowance, your disability must be severe enough for you to have any of the following walking difficulties, even when wearing or using an aid or equipment you normally use:

    * because of a physical disability, you are unable or virtually unable to walk without severe discomfort, or at risk of endangering your life or causing deterioration in your health by making the effort to walk
    * you have no feet or legs
    * you are assessed to be both 100 per cent disabled because of loss of eyesight and not less than 80 per cent disabled because of deafness and you need someone with you when you are out of doors
    * you are severely mentally impaired with severe behavioural problems and qualify for the highest rate of care component
    * you need guidance or supervision most of the time from another person when walking out of doors in unfamiliar places

    Taken from here.
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Juno)
    DLA is given for care and/or mobility needs. In your post you haven't mentioned either of those.

    To get the care component of Disability Living Allowance (DLA), your disability must be severe enough for you to either:

    * need help with things such as washing, dressing, eating, getting to and using the toilet, or communicating your needs
    * need supervision to avoid you putting yourself or others in substantial danger
    * need someone with you when you are on dialysis
    * be unable to prepare a cooked main meal for yourself (if you have the ingredients), if you are aged 16 or over

    To get the mobility component of Disability Living Allowance, your disability must be severe enough for you to have any of the following walking difficulties, even when wearing or using an aid or equipment you normally use:

    * because of a physical disability, you are unable or virtually unable to walk without severe discomfort, or at risk of endangering your life or causing deterioration in your health by making the effort to walk
    * you have no feet or legs
    * you are assessed to be both 100 per cent disabled because of loss of eyesight and not less than 80 per cent disabled because of deafness and you need someone with you when you are out of doors
    * you are severely mentally impaired with severe behavioural problems and qualify for the highest rate of care component
    * you need guidance or supervision most of the time from another person when walking out of doors in unfamiliar places

    Taken from here.
    OK yeah it was my mum who thought I might be eligibile - probably not then, a lot that doesn't apply to me. I can do a lot of it but with difficulty. Ah well.. Not sure what to do then!
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    Juno is absolutely right, how DLA is awarded depends on how your health troubles affect you in your everyday life. Unless you can prove that you meet the criteria listed above it is unlikely you will be able to claim DLA. To meet the criteria you do not need to have a physical disability though. For example, someone who had severe learning difficulties and can't walk outside on their own without risk to themselves or others (e.g. they might walk in front of a car without someone keeping an eye on them) would qualify for the mobility component. Someone with depression who needs to be watched throughout the day and be given moral support just so that they can face getting out of bed may qualify for the care component - which level of mobility or care would depend on exactly how much the person was affected.
    • PS Reviewer
    Offline

    20
    ReputationRep:
    PS Reviewer
    (Original post by daisydaffodil)
    OK yeah it was my mum who thought I might be eligibile - probably not then, a lot that doesn't apply to me. I can do a lot of it but with difficulty. Ah well.. Not sure what to do then!
    There is a tiny chance you might be able to persuade them that you can't go out without somebody, as you mentioned you'll sit at home if people let you. But the lower rate is only £18.95 a week so may not help enough. The forms are also quite long winded to fill in, you'll be given a renewal date if they think there's a chance you'll get better, and also they might be changing the benfits soon anyway.
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Juno)
    There is a tiny chance you might be able to persuade them that you can't go out without somebody, as you mentioned you'll sit at home if people let you. But the lower rate is only £18.95 a week so may not help enough. The forms are also quite long winded to fill in, you'll be given a renewal date if they think there's a chance you'll get better, and also they might be changing the benfits soon anyway.
    Yeah £18's not a lot! I don't know how much difference that would really make - although any money's better than nothing. Yeah I remember watching my mum do her's and my sister's, took her hours to do - plus all the supporting evidence they needed etc. Might see what my GP says when I see her soon, thanks for the advice though
    • PS Reviewer
    Offline

    20
    ReputationRep:
    PS Reviewer
    (Original post by daisydaffodil)
    Yeah £18's not a lot! I don't know how much difference that would really make - although any money's better than nothing. Yeah I remember watching my mum do her's and my sister's, took her hours to do - plus all the supporting evidence they needed etc. Might see what my GP says when I see her soon, thanks for the advice though
    I think you need to make a rough budget and then see how much your shortfall is likely to be. I don't think DLA is the answer even if you are eligible. The sooner you know how much you need the sooner you can get it all sorted - it will give you more time to look into funding and possible jobs.
    Offline

    16
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Juno)
    There is a tiny chance you might be able to persuade them that you can't go out without somebody, as you mentioned you'll sit at home if people let you. But the lower rate is only £18.95 a week so may not help enough. The forms are also quite long winded to fill in, you'll be given a renewal date if they think there's a chance you'll get better, and also they might be changing the benfits soon anyway.
    That's the thing. From what I remember, the form does ask whether you need encouragement to do every day tasks (washing, self-care, shopping) and what will happen if someone isn't around to do this. This is key for the OP's potential claim.

    Providing he/she is being truthful, the OP can state that, when living alone, he lacks the motivation to do thse things.

    Without going into too much detail, my claim went like this: -

    * Difficulty with cooking, organisation, following instructions, poor co-ordination causes me to drop things (particularly jars) and impaired concentration means I sometimes forget to turn the gas cooker off. This meant that I failed the cooking test which I think meant I was automatically entitled to lower rate care.
    * Depression meaning that I am at risk of causing harm to myself (gave recent examples) and find it difficult to motivate mysef so need encouragement to get up, go shopping, eat. I can be at particular risk in the evenings, especially dark nights.
    *When outside I often get anxious. As a result of the dyspraxia/Aspergers I am oversensitive to light and noise. This can make supermarkets (with people, bright lights, noise) very intimidating and disorientating places. Ideally I either need to do an online shop, or have a friend to be with me (being with someone I know can help as a distraction and can help me carry shopping back).
    *As a result of the dyspraxia I have poor sense of direction and lack confidence with using public transport.

    I haven't included the bits related to epilepsy (which is controlled anyway) as it's not relevant. But the difficulties I've described above are related to dyspraxia, depression and social anxiety. Although everyone is affected differently and to different degrees it won't surpise me if at least some of the above is applicable to the OP.

    All of it has an element of truth although I admit parts are exaggerated. None of it was lies though. It's just often the case that things need to be spelt out, and you need to give examples of how you are on your worst day. To help highlight my point, I tried to use examples of what has happened in the past.

    In short, when filling in the form really try and highlight the problems living alone has and that you need encouragement to go do things and socialise with people. Try and use recent examples of days when you haven't had this support, or have had it, and what effect it had on you. Although think about any other problems you have with every day tasks, e.g. cooking, shopping.


    (Original post by daisydaffodil)
    Yeah £18's not a lot! I don't know how much difference that would really make - although any money's better than nothing.
    It is, even if it isn't enough for the shortfall in rent, you can possibly use it in some way to try and help yourself build your confidence, or to encourage you to go out.

    What I will say, and please no one shoot me down for saying this, is that IF you awarded DLA you might be entitled to Housing Benefit/Local Housing Allowance. First I must ask, are you a full time student? Normally full time students are not entitled to many benefits, certainly not Housing Benefit/Local Housing Allowance. One exception to this is a full-time student claiming Disability Living Allowance. So, if claiming DLA and a full time student, you may be entitled to housing benefit.

    If you're a part-time student then you also might be eligible for housing benefit, regardless of whether you claim DLA or not.

    Obviously housing benefit is means tested so your income will be taken into account. But by the sounds of it, and with the greatest respect, I'm assuming you don't have a great deal of money particularly savings (if you did then you'd be able to afford the house after all).

    The amount of Student Finance will be taken into account. However, even with a loan and grants, I'm assuming your total income is below 15k and, as a result, you may be entitled to something.

    So although the amount of DLA you get isn't much, it may prove to lead on to other benefits which, when combined together, will hopefully help.

    I'm not saying that, if your DLA claim is successful, you will get Housing Benefit. I don't know your living arrangements and your income (not to mention any future changes in the benefit system - though these are unlikely to come into place in the coming year). What's more, DLA claims can take a long time to process. Mine took six months (applied in January, rejected in April, I appealed and then was finally awarded it in late June). So you will possibly find yourself with a number of months before you know whether or not you can claim Housing Benefit.

    What I am saying is go to Citizen's Advice. As you're aware the forms can be quite long. Whether or not you get the benefit really depends, in part, on how well you can fill in the form and "jump through hoops". So Citizens Advice will hopefully be able to go through the form with you. They'll also be able to advise you about any other benefits you can get, Housing Benefit in particular.

    Finally, do what Juno suggests, sit down and make a budget and find exactly how much extra money you need (then try and add a little bit extra to this). For example, if you find you need an extra £45 a week, then ideally try and get £50. It gives you some safety net just in case bills are higher than you expect or you run into financial difficulty. Don't expect to get DLA (and certainly don't expect to get

    Finally, whether or not you move into the house, make sure that you inform the university should you experience financial difficulty. If you experience signifiacnt financial problems they will hopefully step in and help support you. As a student with multiple disabilities you should be a priority for Access to Learning if you ever need it.

    Also, if you do claim DLA, don't be surpised if you're rejected. Appeal the decision and try and provide more medical evidence.

    As mentioned my claim was rejected so I appealed. It then went to a specialist advisor who awarded me lower rate mobility and middle rate care (a total of around £65 a week). Obviously there is quite a difference between getting nothing, and getting £65 a week (middle rate care in particular).

    The problem is that many people, when they first submit the form, don't fill it in particularly well. My form was decent, but could've been better, and they didn't get medical evidence from specialists. Not until I appealed. So it's no unusual to be rejected and then later awarded something.

    Still, don't get your hopes up. But I hope you're able to work something out.
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    You will not get DLA.

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...ng-normal.html
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by River85)
    Without going into too much detail, my claim went like this: -

    * Difficulty with cooking, organisation, following instructions, poor co-ordination causes me to drop things (particularly jars) and impaired concentration means I sometimes forget to turn the gas cooker off. This meant that I failed the cooking test which I think meant I was automatically entitled to lower rate care.
    * Depression meaning that I am at risk of causing harm to myself (gave recent examples) and find it difficult to motivate mysef so need encouragement to get up, go shopping, eat. I can be at particular risk in the evenings, especially dark nights.
    *When outside I often get anxious. As a result of the dyspraxia/Aspergers I am oversensitive to light and noise. This can make supermarkets (with people, bright lights, noise) very intimidating and disorientating places. Ideally I either need to do an online shop, or have a friend to be with me (being with someone I know can help as a distraction and can help me carry shopping back).
    *As a result of the dyspraxia I have poor sense of direction and lack confidence with using public transport.
    Yeah - funnily enough all of what you have written there applies to me as well. Thank you for all the information you've written - really helpful will sit and read through it properly later but really good advice, thanks yeah my mum is offering to help me go through it, and am going to mention it to my GP as well when I see her in a couple of weeks, so hopefully will get somewhere. I really don't want to stay in halls, can't realistically live at home either (only 4 functional rooms - no space to do work) so this flat is my only option! x
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    Just thought I'd ask if your uni had an "Access to Learning" Fund? I'm not sure what the criteria are, but my uni helped me out my paying rent for me, as I didn't qualify for a grant but was short of money because I had to stay at uni in the holidays for health care. I think they help with things that put your uni education at risk. Might be worth researching it.
 
 
 
The home of Results and Clearing

3,215

people online now

1,567,000

students helped last year

University open days

  1. SAE Institute
    Animation, Audio, Film, Games, Music, Business, Web Further education
    Thu, 16 Aug '18
  2. Bournemouth University
    Clearing Open Day Undergraduate
    Fri, 17 Aug '18
  3. University of Bolton
    Undergraduate Open Day Undergraduate
    Fri, 17 Aug '18
Poll
Will you be tempted to trade up and get out of your firm offer on results day?

The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

Write a reply...
Reply
Hide
Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.