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    Although I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 6 months, I still feel incredibly uncomfortable and insecure around him. It annoys him that I am so anxious, which just makes me feel more anxious in turn. If he even holds my hand I begin shaking. I feel like such an idiot, and cannot pinpoint the reason I am so anxious. Should I end the relationship, or can I get over this anxiety? Has anyone else had a similar experience?
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    sorry to bump this, but can anyone give me advise?
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    yhh i felt that once but i carried on as normal at it all worked out
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    i have social anxiety too and ive been seeing a therapist and im getting much better its only been a month! you need to do something called CBT with a therapist. go to your gp and he/she will refer you. there are self-help books but you wont get anywhere without professional help. dont break up with your BF and in the mean time go to the GP.
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    You shouldn't end it, because it sounds like it's not him, it's 'you'.
    By that i mean, it may be the same with any other boy, so if you like him, i don't see why it should end.

    I don't know much about it, but this does sound quite bad, thus i'm gonna have to suggest the old 'doctor' routine. Whether that be some kind of GP, or therapist or whatever :P
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    Meh, I get very very shaky too when I'm nervous. Have you talked to him about feeling anxious? It's not a reason to end the relationship imo, it's taken my boyfriend and I a LONG time to be in that happy place devoid of insecurity, and we still have our moments. Depends if you think he's worth it or not, if you're willing to make the effort to figure out what's bugging you then it's solvable. Talk talk talk to him.
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    How the hell did you get a boyfriend with social anxiety? I had it and still do to a small extent and nobody likes me. They all think i'm a ****ing snob and never talk to me or help me at all.

    Anyway to answer your queston, go see a therapist it will really help. Search moodgym online. It's a website with free CBT. See a doctor too and they might prescirbe medication if necessary.
 
 
 
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