straight or gay?

maybe you're asexual? do strawberry plants look appealing...?!

Reply 6

OP

emilymckay90

When you say having same sex terrifies me, do you mean that you wouldn't want to do it, or you would be very anxious about doing it?

I wouldn't actually want to do :redface:

Reply 7

Sexy Plexi

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don't think sexuality is something that u can define that easily, im most definatley straight- gotta love men :wink:

but i still find myself noticing fit girls. or does that make me bi? arrrgh, confusion. hope you suss it out, but seriously tho, don't worry about it, it'll all come right in the end, depends more on the person involved. x

Reply 8

Sheen

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grace

do strawberry plants look appealing...?!

huh?

Reply 9

OP

grace

maybe you're asexual? do strawberry plants look appealing...?!

What does that mean? yeah strawberry plants are appealing i guess :confused:

Reply 10

englishstudent

Labels are relatively unhelpful I think, no one here can tell you "what you are". You know yourself better than people here know you. You also understand your feelings and desires better than anyone else can. Don't be too quick to box yourself into a type. Follow your feelings and if you decide you like girls then go for it.

yeah, i'd tend to agree here. though of course it's not very helpful us saying we don't know. i would say you're probably straight but maybe you could be bi. the fact that same sex terrifies you suggests you aren't too keen with the lesbian idea. ask yourself where you want to be in 10 years time- i.e. same sex relationship- or having a family with a different sex. also if you have very little emotional feelings for girls in the way that one would for the opposite sex, then that may also suggest you're straight or bi. i would NOT categorize yourself as lesbian at all untill you are VERY sure, cos being bi you can swing from one end of the spectrum to the other and then find your position in the middle- whether u be predominately straight or predominantly lesbian. like with me, i am not totally straight, nor gay, nor really bi. i see myself somewhere in between straight and bi- just find the right position on the scale and then you can slide about to your hearts consent and no one will think the less of you, WHATEVER you choose. :wink:

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emilyemily

Sharp_Shooter

I would actually want to do :redface:

Then you're either bi or gay, but like englishstudent said, there isn't really any need to label yourself. If you like a girl, go for it, but that shouldn't stop you dating guys if you decide you like them too.

Reply 12

grace

no one got it. asexual. it's what plants are. they don't have sex to reproduce themselves. meh.

perhaps what i was trying to say is that maybe you're just not sexually *ready*. nothing wrong with that, these days people start drooling for sex when they're 13 but the fact is not everyone actually finds the idea appealing ...i have a friend who's almost 21 and has only just recently started to be attracted to boys (she wasn't attracted to girls before...just didn't really like the idea of sex in general, which sounds like you maybe?). so yeah, don't stress, and don't do anything because you feel like you have to experiment. when it feels right, with whoever, go for it :smile:

Reply 13

grace

no one got it. asexual. it's what plants are. they don't have sex to reproduce themselves. meh.

yeah, in terms of human people, being asexual means which ever sexuality preference you have emotionally- you don't have strong sexual atraction to either.... i think..

Reply 14

NatashaSW7

I'll kinda echo what some of the others have said, and say why bother labeling yourself?

You're not (or you shouldn't be) defined by labels such as gay or straight (or even bi or bi-curious). The problem probably comes with society defining everyone as striaght by default and so almost requiring people to redefine themselves so that society still has a label & box to put them in.

Most ppl at some time will have problems IDing sexually, it took me a year to realise I was bi even tho my best friend, who I'd shared a bed with about once a week for yeeeaaarrrsssssss, was constantly flirting with me.

Reply 15

NatashaSW7

I'll kinda echo what some of the others have said, and say why bother labeling yourself?

You're not (or you shouldn't be) defined by labels such as gay or straight (or even bi or bi-curious). The problem probably comes with society defining everyone as striaght by default and so almost requiring people to redefine themselves so that society still has a label & box to put them in.

Most ppl at some time will have problems IDing sexually, it took me a year to realise I was bi even tho my best friend, who I'd shared a bed with about once a week for yeeeaaarrrsssssss, was constantly flirting with me.

lol. sounds like fun! :rolleyes:

Reply 16

OP

Thanx guys for all your replies

Reply 17

OP

rich_

yeah, in terms of human people, being asexual means which ever sexuality preference you have emotionally- you don't have strong sexual atraction to either.... i think..

That might apply to me actually. i don't have a strong sexual attraction to either sex. Am just a bit worried about what to tell my parents, they are already asking questions as to why am not dating anyone and i think they will try to play match-maker this christmas :eek:

Reply 18

Sharp_Shooter

That might apply to me actually. i don't have a strong sexual attraction to either sex. Am just a bit worried about what to tell my parents, they are already asking questions as to why am not dating anyone and i think they will try to play match-maker this christmas :eek:

hmm ,that's wrong that your parents would do that. i am now dating another girl, tho they don't know about it and it's quite a new development, but they havn't been asking me cos i havn't had a string of girlfriends. i guess they're just anxious for you... and on the bi front, you could say you're bi-curious- that's less concrete than bi. :smile:

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devilgirl999