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    I'm 20 tomorrow. I'm spending tonight in tears, locked in my bedroom with my possessions in bags at the door (my mother wants me to leave in the morning). I have one 'sort-of' friend, no boyfriend, and no idea what to do with my life.
    No-one cares, and I can't explain how much that hurts.

    I've only got one friend. We just got back from holiday where I enjoyed socialising, trying new things, and spending a lot of time walking around the beautiful city. She spent half the time with a sad look in her eyes complaining that a week was seeming too long because she missed TV, facebook, and her boyfriend.

    My retail job sucks. People who have worked 30-odd years say they have never worked somewhere that gives it's employees so little respect.

    Haven't had a relationship. Thankfully still have at least enough respect for myself to hold out for someone not after a ONS.

    I spent an hour or two researching clubs in my area/jobs/etc. It's sad enough that I have to do this, but I wanted to go into my birthday knowing I had a plan for a positive future. Sadly it didn't really help. Then my mother suddenly decided she wanted to use the laptop, but since I don't want her knowing I've had to resort to this I asked for five extra minutes (to delete the history,etc). She went mental, we argued and well now all my belongings are packed in binbags. Just as well, I can't cope with the constant rows she causes over nothing.

    I feel like I'm missing out on life. All I've ever wanted is a nice group of reliable friends, a loving boyfriend, and a job that I don't hate that gives me enough money to live on. That's hardly much to ask, is it? I mean I'ld enjoy traveling around Europe for abit but..... well I know this sounds pathetic, but that wouldn't make me as happy as feeling loved. I'm not just talking romantically loved, but even just as a person and as a friend too.
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    Make amends with your mum, first. You don't wanna be homeless..
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    I don't understand. What's wrong with researching clubs and jobs? Why the hell is your mum chucking you out for that :|
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    ye i mean, its just one more day to be fair, not the be all and end all

    that said, assuming you have spare time on your hands, set up a small business, thatll keep you occupied

    additionally, just save up some money and go to work somewhere abroad for a few months, just do something without putting any thought into it whatsoever, the outcome will most likely be good, you'll make friends along the way, will be a good laugh

    better than what you're doing now, surely?
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    Have some dopamine released by my positive rep
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    Are you my sister?
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    (Original post by pippa90)
    I don't understand. What's wrong with researching clubs and jobs? Why the hell is your mum chucking you out for that :|
    She doesn't know what I was doing. She thought I was 'taking advantage' by having 5 more minutes. This is just one example of the everyday **** she puts me through, any excuse to have a go at me and she will. I'm fed up of being shouted at for nothing, after a while it really grinds you down.
    I geniunely love her; but this I can't cope with this, on top of everything else it's just too much.
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    happy birthday for tomorrow
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    If ur not happy at ur job then get out of there fast. Go to ur local jobcentre and get urself some interviews. If u write uo a decent CV and sell urself well u shouldnt have a problem finding a new job provided u arent fussy about what u want to do. I was recently in a similar situation where i was unhappy in my job and my life in general. U just have to stop complaining about the bad stuff and actually find solutions.

    In my case that involved leaving my job, applying to about 50 jobs online before going into a couple of recruitment agencies and getting a job at the second attempt. I am now living 200 miles from home, i love my job, its only a call centre job but the ppl i work with are really nice and ive made some really good friends and although i dont have a bf i dont feel the need for one coz im happy and doing things i enjoy. So if ur not happy with ur life, do something about it u will only live once so make the most of it.
    Good luck, u can do it, i managed and im two years younger than you.
    If u want any advice about finding a new job etc u can PM me anytime
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    (Original post by matt608)
    Have some dopamine released by my positive rep
    Haha thank you, that made me smile
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    Hey I'm 20 tomorrow too! Do I have a secret twin...?
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    (Original post by SteveCrain)
    Are you my sister?
    Only if you're my 30 year old sister? Don't see why she would call herself steve though...
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    (Original post by trig)
    Only if you're my 30 year old sister? Don't see why she would call herself steve though...
    I always wanted to be a man
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    worse things happen at sea you know
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    travelling sounds the best idea. and it might not feel better than being loved but it will open ur eyes to a lot.. show u different perspectives and also, how do u kno u wont meet a great group of friends or a great man on ur travels?
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    move out!!!! Move to the coast. It could be the start of you whole new life!

    I wish I was 20 again. Best year of your life! Woohoo!
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    Aww bless you, I can't imagine how that must feel if you ver need someone to talk to or anything at all give me a PM and we can chat or w/e, sounds like you need cheering up if you don't feel like it, then I hope things start looking up x
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    (Original post by lolololol)
    Hey I'm 20 tomorrow too! Do I have a secret twin...?
    ...maybe?:eek:

    (Original post by surina_xxx)
    happy birthday for tomorrow
    Thank you!
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    (Original post by trig)
    She doesn't know what I was doing. She thought I was 'taking advantage' by having 5 more minutes. This is just one example of the everyday **** she puts me through, any excuse to have a go at me and she will. I'm fed up of being shouted at for nothing, after a while it really grinds you down.
    I geniunely love her; but this I can't cope with this, on top of everything else it's just too much.
    :console: What a *****! Do you know where you could live? Do you have enough money to rent a place? You can turn your life around, you're only 20 after all! Moving out will be a good start as long as you can afford it. Happy birthday for tomorrow btw
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    Well......do something about it.
    Sitting on a forum, looking for sympathy aint gonna help your case.
 
 
 
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