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    I met a girl during the first week of uni. We clicked completely, I've never gotten on wiht someone that easily before. She was having trouble settling in at uni, and we ended up spending a LOT of time together, since her halls are abt 2 minutes away from mine.

    We became completely inseperable, and soon enough we became more than friends. However, she decided we couldn't date, since i come from a muslim family, although am not muslim myself, and she is a tamil with a hindu family. I found this hard to accept, and stupidly pushed it, and we carried on. We basically dated for about a month or 2, although we knew it was going nowhere and never called it dating. But if
    we had been dating we wouldn't really have been doing much differently at all.

    I was a complete idiot, and realised that it wasn't going anywhere, and that i was going t get hurt. I developed a crush on another girl at uni, who wasnt interested anyway, and tried to move on and push her away. It never went anywhere, and simply caused trouble between us, but i realised i was only doing it because i was scared - i'd fallen for a girl that i could never have.

    she began to develop genuine feelings for another guy, just before xmas. he claerly liked her, and for some stupid reason, i told him to tell her how he felt, since he IS tamil and hindu, so they'd have a real shot. god knows why i did it, i was just depserately trying to get out of the hole i'd dug for myself i think.

    anyway, they actually hit it off, and whilst they're not together now, they're very close. he's replaced me as her best friend really, he's a lot taller and better looking (superficial i know), a lot funnier, and a lot more cultured than i am, jsut a better fit for her in every way. I've been trying to accept things, and to make it easy for them, even though they're not actually together. But i don't want to stand in the way of something good for her. It's culminated in us growing apart, trying to keep our frienship up, and tonight i rang her up and told her i can't do it, and that i need a break over easter, no contact etc.

    She told me no break, i won't get a second chance. I said so be it. Now i'm sitting here having deactivated my fb and deleted her number, and i can't sleep at all.

    My life has become a massive mess. I've not got a home to go back to since my parents won't let me stay over easter due to the whole religious issue, so i'm stuck in uni for 4 weeks with one my mates for company. Just needed to vent. I know i brought a lot of this upon myself, and that she deserved a heck of a lot better. I know i was selfish and foolish. I also now know why they call it heartbreak lol
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    why not just man up, put all these ethnic/religious differences aside, and go for her if she's what you want? I know you want to seem noble and do the 'right' thing, but sometimes you've just got to be selfish and think about what would make you happy. it also seems she quite likes you and doesn't want to lose you.
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    This is the best advice most probably anyone can give you ... Always ensure you tie the internal bonds in your family before you tie any external ones .... You will never be happy unless you have your parents blessing ... If I were you, i'd make every amend possible with your parents ... Remove your pride and save your dignity by apologising to your parents! Moreover can i stress no one out there is better than you .. At least you shouldnt think that... Keep ur head held high and ur confidence will shine ... There are plenty more woman, just ensure you find the right one and yeah you brought this upon urself unfortunately
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    Awwwwww. I can understand how this feels trying to let someone go, but as has been said on another thread: I wouldn't take advice from tsr people at 4 in the morning.

    As hard as it is, you gotta move on... :/
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I met a girl during the first week of uni. We clicked completely, I've never gotten on wiht someone that easily before. She was having trouble settling in at uni, and we ended up spending a LOT of time together, since her halls are abt 2 minutes away from mine.

    We became completely inseperable, and soon enough we became more than friends. However, she decided we couldn't date, since i come from a muslim family, although am not muslim myself, and she is a tamil with a hindu family. I found this hard to accept, and stupidly pushed it, and we carried on. We basically dated for about a month or 2, although we knew it was going nowhere and never called it dating. But if
    we had been dating we wouldn't really have been doing much differently at all.

    I was a complete idiot, and realised that it wasn't going anywhere, and that i was going t get hurt. I developed a crush on another girl at uni, who wasnt interested anyway, and tried to move on and push her away. It never went anywhere, and simply caused trouble between us, but i realised i was only doing it because i was scared - i'd fallen for a girl that i could never have.

    she began to develop genuine feelings for another guy, just before xmas. he claerly liked her, and for some stupid reason, i told him to tell her how he felt, since he IS tamil and hindu, so they'd have a real shot. god knows why i did it, i was just depserately trying to get out of the hole i'd dug for myself i think.

    anyway, they actually hit it off, and whilst they're not together now, they're very close. he's replaced me as her best friend really, he's a lot taller and better looking (superficial i know), a lot funnier, and a lot more cultured than i am, jsut a better fit for her in every way. I've been trying to accept things, and to make it easy for them, even though they're not actually together. But i don't want to stand in the way of something good for her. It's culminated in us growing apart, trying to keep our frienship up, and tonight i rang her up and told her i can't do it, and that i need a break over easter, no contact etc.

    She told me no break, i won't get a second chance. I said so be it. Now i'm sitting here having deactivated my fb and deleted her number, and i can't sleep at all.

    My life has become a massive mess. I've not got a home to go back to since my parents won't let me stay over easter due to the whole religious issue, so i'm stuck in uni for 4 weeks with one my mates for company. Just needed to vent. I know i brought a lot of this upon myself, and that she deserved a heck of a lot better. I know i was selfish and foolish. I also now know why they call it heartbreak lol
    Stopped reading there to be honest
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    As unfortunate as it is to accept, she has moved on. In fact you won't accept this for a while. You're going to feel shi*ty like this for a while. Depending on the person it lasts between 1-3 months and then the shi*tiness lessens and it isn't so bad. I know you don't feel like it, but you have to re-activate fb, make new friends and socialise because if you don't you will be opening the doors of depression for yourself and before you know it it will be too late. Busy yourself, focus on uni work, your job etc. Learn from this and try your hardest to move on. This just means you're wiser when you fall in love again. :hugs:
 
 
 
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