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    My ex-bf was making a big deal out of my lack of willingness to go down on him. I'd been with other guys before him but they never made a big deal of it, maybe they were just being polite?

    Is it really just 'the norm' in a sexual relationship to perform oral too?
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    I'd say it was the norm. Never met a guy who wouldn't go down on me, or who didn't expect the favour to be returned.

    Obviously enthusiam for giving, and receiving, oral depends on the person. Some people love it so much that not having it or not being able to give it would be a deal-breaker. For others, it isn't important.

    My current boyfriend rarely gives me oral, he likes it but I rarely ask and have told him receiving is nice but doesn't really do it for me often in a big way. He also seems less keen on receiving than my ex. But even my ex, for whom receiving oral was the pinnacle of all things sexual, had been out with women who wouldn't give it. He didn't push the issue, but I think he really missed it from what he's said.

    I see oral both ways as pretty essential, at least occasionally, but then that's me.
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    It probably is the norm nowadays, prob porn is to blame.

    However if you dont want to do it then dont feel pressurised into doing it.
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    Yeah I'd say it's probably the norm. Doesn't mean you have to do it though, don't get pressured.
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    Yeah, most people do it. But you shouldn't do it if you don't want to. Does he go down on you?
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    I've found that many men expect me to go down on them but they won't go down on me. My boyfriend is the only person who has shown any willingness to go down on me and he does so without me asking, just how I give blowjobs without having to be asked.

    I think oral is a fun addition to my relationship and definitely the 'norm'. Although where we do oral isn't always in places considered the 'norm'
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    Oral sex existed before Twitter.
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    Oral sex doesn't stop once you get in a relationship...
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    I think it is the norm in a relationship now but that by no means that you should feel pressured to do it if it makes you uncomfortable. I find anything sexual would be pretty unenjoyable if you knew your partner wasn't comfortable/didn't want to do it.

    Anywho, I've never understood what all the fuss was about with blowjobs... really overrated. At least in my experience of them
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    Yes.
    But that doesn't mean you have to do it.
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    I think a lot of people find it more intimiate than intercourse. It is pretty standard I think, but a sexual relationship can take infinate paths depending on the people involved, you aren't expected to be comfortable with everything or obliged to do everything. It is important that you talk openly with your partner about it, it does make it much more relaxing and open.
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    It's the norm, but as with any normal distribution, there are exceptions
    nothing wrong if you're one of them
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    I dunno if it's a norm or not, but from what I gather most couples do it, but I don't believe there's any obligation to.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've found that many men expect me to go down on them but they won't go down on me. My boyfriend is the only person who has shown any willingness to go down on me and he does so without me asking, just how I give blowjobs without having to be asked.

    I think oral is a fun addition to my relationship and definitely the 'norm'. Although where we do oral isn't always in places considered the 'norm'
    where do you consider not the norm? haha
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    Oral sex is not an obligation and if you are health conscious you should know that Oral Sex is not healthy and it is also called Dirty Sex. I did not do that and I never expect my partner to do that kind of sex.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My ex-bf was making a big deal out of my lack of willingness to go down on him. I'd been with other guys before him but they never made a big deal of it, maybe they were just being polite?

    Is it really just 'the norm' in a sexual relationship to perform oral too?
    Yeah OP its pretty much normal.
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    I find it a much bigger deal than straight up sex, haha. I think so long as both partners are on the same page opinion-wise then it's fine. Also, you can't expect to receive it if you won't give it...
 
 
 
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