In answer to the highlighted part, firstly having a w*** is different to using dildo/vibrator as your toys are more pleasurable than sex whereas having a w*** is nowhere near as pleasurable as sex so its not as satisfying as it is for girls. Secondly she's the one who's choosing to wait not him, and if she's not willing to satisfy his needs then why should her needs be met? Thirdly she doesn't want to have sex for religious reasons (most likely christian) and even the word "dildo" was banned for decades by the church of England because christians do not encourage masturbation.(Original post by Jabblez)
This. I'm sure you have a w*** so why can't she?
You've been together for three years, so talk to her about it, she may think that it's tit for tat essentially, if you can do it, why can't she. Waiting until you're married to have sex isn;t about not being ready to, it's about old values I suppose, and how it's meant to be sacred. Respect her wishes as they don't seem likely to change anytime soon.
That said, it does seem slightly weird, generally don't people who don't want to have sex before marriage avoid masturbating? or is that completely wrong? :s
It's obviously not sacred to her otherwise she wouldn't have had sex with a piece of plastic before a man.
OP i have no problems with girls using toys in general but if she was choosing it over me then i wouldn't stick around.
What do you think?