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    Well I guess I should start by saying that there were two girls at work who I fancied. Of the two, one girl was more friendly and ok in terms of looks, the other girl was still friendly but better looking. I went to try my luck with the latter but unfortunately we didn't "click". I guess looks aren't everything...

    On Saturday night the other girl posted on her FB page that she now had a boyfriend and changed her relationship status. Not sure why, but I felt like crap after this, I guess she meant more to me than I realised. But on Sunday I had to pop into where she worked, not to see her or talk to her, but to pick up some shopping. And during this brief visit she saw me and said, "Hi, how are you?"

    I totally blanked her and walked past her. To be honest I don't know why I did this, I guess it is down to how I was feeling in the sense of choosing the wrong girl to ask out. Anyway, she then said, "Are you ok? Or didn't you hear me?"

    She placed a hand on my shoulder and I turned round and said, "I'm fine..." then shrugged her off. She said "You don't sound it, what's up?", then I said off hand "None of your business, leave me alone." She just shook her head and told me "Fine be that way."

    Thinking about it now, I am unsure whether I treated her wrong. On the one hand I was unhappy with what had happened, and was trying to protect myself; but on the other hand, she has always been fine with me and was being friendly, and I treated her like crap. So I've got two questions;

    Was I wrong to treat her this way?

    And what should I do now?

    I know I can't change her choice of boyfriend. But I don't know whether to be honest with her as to why I treated her that way, or simply outright lie...
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    you were unnecessarily rude to her. you went for the better look, now your backup is unavailable. your loss.

    also, why would you want her back if she was "okay" lookswise. i would never want to be with a guy who thought he was 'settling' by being with me.

    sounds like you just want what you can't have.
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    Yes you were wrong to be that way to her, that was pretty rude. Just talk to her again sometime, apologize and say why exactly you did what you did. She'll respect you for being honest.
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    Lol, you ****ed it.
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    douche!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well I guess I should start by saying that there were two girls at work who I fancied. Of the two, one girl was more friendly and ok in terms of looks, the other girl was still friendly but better looking. I went to try my luck with the latter but unfortunately we didn't "click". I guess looks aren't everything...

    On Saturday night the other girl posted on her FB page that she now had a boyfriend and changed her relationship status. Not sure why, but I felt like crap after this, I guess she meant more to me than I realised. But on Sunday I had to pop into where she worked, not to see her or talk to her, but to pick up some shopping. And during this brief visit she saw me and said, "Hi, how are you?"

    I totally blanked her and walked past her. To be honest I don't know why I did this, I guess it is down to how I was feeling in the sense of choosing the wrong girl to ask out. Anyway, she then said, "Are you ok? Or didn't you hear me?"

    She placed a hand on my shoulder and I turned round and said, "I'm fine..." then shrugged her off. She said "You don't sound it, what's up?", then I said off hand "None of your business, leave me alone." She just shook her head and told me "Fine be that way."

    Thinking about it now, I am unsure whether I treated her wrong. On the one hand I was unhappy with what had happened, and was trying to protect myself; but on the other hand, she has always been fine with me and was being friendly, and I treated her like crap. So I've got two questions;

    Was I wrong to treat her this way?

    And what should I do now?

    I know I can't change her choice of boyfriend. But I don't know whether to be honest with her as to why I treated her that way, or simply outright lie...
    You know what I'm sorry I'm going to say this but you acted like a total prick towards her. It wasn't like she was in a relationship with you. She had the right to choose whoever she wanted and besides, you had a chance before and didn't take it so there was no need for this attitude.
    You shouldn't do anything right now, give it a couple of days, then phone her or see her in person (don't fb message or text) and sincerely apologise and say you were stressed because of something. At least you could have stayed friends but you went too emotional.
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    That was VERY rude, tell her your sorry and resume normal conversations with her later on.
 
 
 
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