Good evening people,
It’s a sad fact of life that I’ve been reduced to venting out my problems on TSR, but here goes …
Currently, I’m in the final few months of year 13 preparing for my A-levels, completing coursework and praying that my grades will be good enough to ensure me a place in university. Year 13 has passed by so quickly that I can barely believe it and in less than 6th months, I will be leaving my old time friends and meeting a whole new group of people – I don’t think I’ve quite got my mind around that fact yet.
Looking to the present however, I find myself in an uneasy and difficult social situation. After the Christmas break, and the round of January exams I began to sense that soon, the friends I have were going to part their ways. Instead of drawing me closer to them, I’m feeling increasingly detached and ambivalent towards my friends.
A number of changes that have taken place over the last three months have pushed me to the periphery, but I feel horribly guilty at times – its as if I’m incapable of appreciating friendships with interesting and brilliant people and naturally, at the back of my mind I do worry that this is the beginning of a pattern.
I spoke to my older sister (who is currently in university) and she reckoned that the way I’m feeling is natural – the result of being on the precipice of a massive life change, stating that she felt the same way as I did when in the final year of sixth form.
I’m not really looking for answers or solutions to my dilemma, I doubt that there are any … just does anyone feel the same way?
Thanks for reading
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Friend dilemma watch
- 28-03-2011 21:36
- 28-03-2011 21:47
But but but I wanted to give an answer to your dilemma
- 28-03-2011 22:00
- 28-03-2011 22:13
(Original post by Wings27)
- 28-03-2011 22:24
I felt exactly the same. The further i got through the year the more detached i got from my friends. I'm at uni now and i do still keep in touch with some of them but others i dont because it just felt like time to move on.
(Original post by Anonymous)
- 29-03-2011 22:52
And it's easy to make friends/connections in university? I'm not really worried about drifting away from people but I'm just worried its the beginning of a wider social pattern?
- 29-03-2011 22:55
I wouldn't isolate your school friends if you're really close now just because you think you might grow apart - I'm still as close with most of mine - it's amazing what Facebook/texting can do plus you're home for an awful lot of time in holidays.
There have been times where I've really really appreciated my home friends - just because in the first few weeks you still don't know uni people that well and it's great to be able to have someone to talk to.
- 29-03-2011 23:23
definitely feel the same way. It's kind of sad but I guess this is growing up? And good times with new friends are sure to be in the future!!
- 29-03-2011 23:32
Why do so many people like to suffer in advance? Enjoy things now and worry about it when you have to!