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Men/ Women out there, are you happy with your, or your boyfriends penis size?

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Reply 180
Perfectly happy.
Reply 181
Original post by philbphil
if you cant tell the difference then how come most dildos are above average size? and they might not be able to guess how big you are from the feel but im guessing you can tell the difference between different sized penis'?

ok im not particuarly worried myself, im in a long term relationship and im quite happy with myself and my own performances, im talking about the male population on the whole.

ok lets go through these:
"will he think im fat" majority of men are more obese than women and we'd rather you have some fat as it shows you're not unhealthily skinny.
"should i moan, will i sound wierd" all sounds made in the bedroom are sexy unless its shouting rape.
"am i too hairy" if you are you can always shave/wax/trim.
"are my boobs too small/saggy" so long as you have boobs most of us will be happy.
"is my vagina ugly" i've yet to see a vagina that wasn't attractive to me in real life, google blue waffle then tell me yours is unattractive.
"will he think im bad in bed if i dont go ontop" for guys position really doesnt make that much difference to how good a girl is in bed.

however i know a guy who has been asked if he was in yet, and another who has been dumped because he wasn't good enough in the bedroom, very few guys will dump a girl because her boobs are too small.

im not saying girls dont worry at all, but most of your worrying is silly but as in those two instances above and the fact that guys are more comparable guys have more to worry about in the bedroom.


I don't think that most dildo's (that girls actually own) are that much above average although I admit a lot that are on sale are. Yet maybe they are above average to make up for the lack of everything else tat is important in sex (i.e the man). Plus I don't think that women actually expect a man to be as well hung as the dildo's they see.

Fell for the trick of google-ing blue waffle before! Yuk! haha
I know all the worries that I said are silly myself yet I know that women still think things like this, especially younger less experienced ones.

I think maybe women are just a bit more honest then. I have two older brothers so growing up I was always around the typical teenage boys. They were very harsh about girls when talking to each other and a lot of them would finish a girl for being bad in bed or not attractive enough. They just wouldn't tell her that, although some less sensitive ones did lol.

All I'm saying is that I think it is pretty much the same for both sexes.
Reply 182
Original post by bloomblaze
i stand by my original point, women have it easy, its hard being a man.


ill give them that they do have periods but theres alot more pressure and hard work for the man.
Yeah I'm happy. Plus I've taught him well.

:sexface:
Reply 184
Original post by Smophy
I don't think that most dildo's (that girls actually own) are that much above average although I admit a lot that are on sale are. Yet maybe they are above average to make up for the lack of everything else tat is important in sex (i.e the man). Plus I don't think that women actually expect a man to be as well hung as the dildo's they see.

Fell for the trick of google-ing blue waffle before! Yuk! haha
I know all the worries that I said are silly myself yet I know that women still think things like this, especially younger less experienced ones.

I think maybe women are just a bit more honest then. I have two older brothers so growing up I was always around the typical teenage boys. They were very harsh about girls when talking to each other and a lot of them would finish a girl for being bad in bed or not attractive enough. They just wouldn't tell her that, although some less sensitive ones did lol.

All I'm saying is that I think it is pretty much the same for both sexes.


Maybe it is to compensate for lack of a guy but the fact that a girl uses a larger toy than the guy shes dating since buying the toy, can effect the guys confidence and makes us think "would she rather me be that size" which just adds to our worries, but if a man did this about the things a girl's insecure about and made her worries worse (eg, if he called you fat once for everytime you masturabated) he'd get dumped or at the very least all her friends would tell her to dump him.

Ok when guys talk like that to each other we're usually joking. I talk like that with friends but i'd never actually dump a girl because she wasn't as good as a previous partner in bed, i mean men usually still get to orgasm even if the girl just lies there.

But ok lets say so far all the worries are even, we then have premature ejaculation ontop of all the others, and if we cant get it up its our fault and yet if the woman isn't wet enough is still somehow our fault, and we're expected to put in at least 15 minutes foreplay in everytime we have sex and (although alot do) i've also dated some who just dont give any back.
Original post by philbphil
Maybe it is to compensate for lack of a guy but the fact that a girl uses a larger toy than the guy shes dating since buying the toy, can effect the guys confidence and makes us think "would she rather me be that size" which just adds to our worries, but if a man did this about the things a girl's insecure about and made her worries worse (eg, if he called you fat once for everytime you masturabated) he'd get dumped or at the very least all her friends would tell her to dump him.

Ok when guys talk like that to each other we're usually joking. I talk like that with friends but i'd never actually dump a girl because she wasn't as good as a previous partner in bed, i mean men usually still get to orgasm even if the girl just lies there.

But ok lets say so far all the worries are even, we then have premature ejaculation ontop of all the others, and if we cant get it up its our fault and yet if the woman isn't wet enough is still somehow our fault, and we're expected to put in at least 15 minutes foreplay in everytime we have sex and (although alot do) i've also dated some who just dont give any back.


Is having a relationship with a woman/having a girlfriend even worth the effort/hassle???
Keep anon.

I have micropenis. Needless to say I cannot have any quality of life whatsoever. I'm only about 4.5 inches erect. :frown:
Reply 187
Original post by bloomblaze
Is having a relationship with a woman/having a girlfriend even worth the effort/hassle???


its not that much hassle tbh i dont stay with girls who give me grief, expect me to pay for everything and expect me to be at their beck and call.
Reply 188
Original post by philbphil
Maybe it is to compensate for lack of a guy but the fact that a girl uses a larger toy than the guy shes dating since buying the toy, can effect the guys confidence and makes us think "would she rather me be that size" which just adds to our worries, but if a man did this about the things a girl's insecure about and made her worries worse (eg, if he called you fat once for everytime you masturabated) he'd get dumped or at the very least all her friends would tell her to dump him.

Ok when guys talk like that to each other we're usually joking. I talk like that with friends but i'd never actually dump a girl because she wasn't as good as a previous partner in bed, i mean men usually still get to orgasm even if the girl just lies there.

But ok lets say so far all the worries are even, we then have premature ejaculation ontop of all the others, and if we cant get it up its our fault and yet if the woman isn't wet enough is still somehow our fault, and we're expected to put in at least 15 minutes foreplay in everytime we have sex and (although alot do) i've also dated some who just dont give any back.


Well that isn't the same. That would be the same if a girl said your not big enough but not the same as you just thinking she may think that. I think a better comparison is how girls will often think you are comparing them to what you see in porn. You think we are comparing you to dildos and we think you are comparing us to porn stars.

I know that lads are usually joking but it doesn't take away the fact that a lot of them were not. I had the joy (lol) of spending most of my days around nearly all boys all discussing sex and porn etc. I knew when some were joking and the ones that weren't. I suppose I had a bit of a rare insight as being a lass I got the female perspective and the conversations that lads don't usually hear but I was never excluded from the lads despite what they may be discussing. So I think I have a pretty even perspective and I have to say I think that in terms of anxiety and of judgement of sexual partners males and females are pretty even.

If a lad can't get it up a lot of the time the lass will think it is her fault but I do get your point. Women don't really have a definite failure like not getting it up.

But a lot of lads don't bother with foreplay either or they just expect to receive it but not give any.
Reply 189
Original post by philbphil
ill give them that they do have periods but theres alot more pressure and hard work for the man.


Maybe that is to make it more even. I mean women get periods, pregnancy and are the poor sods that have to give birth. Men just get the pleasure of the sex so maybe a bit of pressure and hard work is fair lol
Reply 190
Original post by Smophy
Well that isn't the same. That would be the same if a girl said your not big enough but not the same as you just thinking she may think that. I think a better comparison is how girls will often think you are comparing them to what you see in porn. You think we are comparing you to dildos and we think you are comparing us to porn stars.

I know that lads are usually joking but it doesn't take away the fact that a lot of them were not. I had the joy (lol) of spending most of my days around nearly all boys all discussing sex and porn etc. I knew when some were joking and the ones that weren't. I suppose I had a bit of a rare insight as being a lass I got the female perspective and the conversations that lads don't usually hear but I was never excluded from the lads despite what they may be discussing. So I think I have a pretty even perspective and I have to say I think that in terms of anxiety and of judgement of sexual partners males and females are pretty even.

If a lad can't get it up a lot of the time the lass will think it is her fault but I do get your point. Women don't really have a definite failure like not getting it up.

But a lot of lads don't bother with foreplay either or they just expect to receive it but not give any.


Except that we're not having sex with the porn stars...

I'd say not because guys dont often talk to each other about bedroom problems like premature ejaculation.

Exactly my point, men who struggle with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction or even those who cant please their woman in bed (i know you've said orgasm isnt the main result for women but because it is for men most assume its the same for women) feel like failures.

The majority of men will give more foreplay than they recieve though.

In the end i think we're going to have to agree to disagree.
Reply 191
Yeh..
Reply 192
Original post by Smophy
Maybe that is to make it more even. I mean women get periods, pregnancy and are the poor sods that have to give birth. Men just get the pleasure of the sex so maybe a bit of pressure and hard work is fair lol


Yes but you get a child out of the childbirth so thats definatly worth it and during pregnancy and periods whilst we might not be in the same physical state you're in but we have to put up with hormonal women, which sometimes isn't to bad, but I've dated girls who would snap at me for the tiniest little things and even things that weren't my fault.
Original post by Eveiebaby
Happy. I seem to have been quite lucky in that respect with my boyfriends. All have been a decent size. Yummy!


It's a bit odd that my happiness has been negged.....
I unsuprisingly expect they're from men who are quite insecure about their penises. Haters gonna hate :smile:
Original post by bloomblaze
women have it easy in life. Women here say they arent happy with their partners size etc and say it in real life too.
Men have this burden of needing to have a big cock to please a woman. It sucks to be smaller as you know it wont satisfy her as much as if it was big, as indicated by this thread.

I mean when do you hear guys complain about their gfs vagina size?? Like i said, women have it easy


What about the fascination that many men have with big boobs????
Women are dying under the knife for the sake of trying to satisfy an 'image of perfection' that doesn't even exist.

Trust, we're equal when it comes to these things. :yep:
Original post by Eveiebaby
Happy. I seem to have been quite lucky in that respect with my boyfriends. All have been a decent size. Yummy!


How do you know you only like big willies(in your sig) if you have only had decent sized cocks?:hmmmm:
Original post by bloomblaze
i stand by my original point, women have it easy, its hard being a man.

Original post by philbphil
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If you'd stop putting so much pressure on yourselves, it wouldn't. Women understand that there are many factors that cause premature ejaculation, not being able to get an erection etc. You're the one who is coming up with this nonsense.

I've heard of men complaining about a woman's performance in bed more than the other way round. Some women aren't confident about their bodies or they are sexually inexperienced so they have to rely on the man, and they get criticised for it. There's more pressure on women to have big boobs and perfect bodies, than men to have large penes.
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Reply 197
Original post by philbphil
Yes but you get a child out of the childbirth so thats definatly worth it and during pregnancy and periods whilst we might not be in the same physical state you're in but we have to put up with hormonal women, which sometimes isn't to bad, but I've dated girls who would snap at me for the tiniest little things and even things that weren't my fault.


lol good point. I plan on being a complete bitch to my bf during pregnancy just so he can suffer too and he will be my personal slave for 9 months :tongue: He has orders to be there during birth so I can take my pain out on him haha He WILL suffer as much as me, I am determined!! haha

But in all seriousness lol Men also get a child out of birth but don't suffer so it still isn't fair although it is worth it.
Is 12 inches too big? :s-smilie:
Original post by JCC-MGS
The motion of the ocean does not mean **** if your boat is not big enough; nobody ever crossed the Atlantic in a dinghy.


Someone crossed the atlantic in a canoe, actually.

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