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    there was this guy at a group i attended. he seemed cute. he was nice enough. he was a year younger but, hey, thats not much. he still is all of that. we went on a few dates.
    he was boring. like wish-i'd-brought-a-book-along boring.

    the thing is, he is actually a nice guy and i cant find it in my heart to say to his face 'i dont like you' but he is being so persistant. he kept texting me for a bit and when i stopped going to the group he used to run to catch up with me and ask me why i wasnt going. he kept asking me out again. the other day he caught up with me in the street to ask why i hadnt texted him back.

    it sounds bad, but its actually a handful of incidents over a year or so - but you'd have thought a 17 yr old would take a hint by now, surely? the thing is; do i tell him outright, hurt the feelings of a guy who's nice enough but only crime is to be a bit slow, or do i wait until october and sneak quietly off to uni, because he's really bugging me now.
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    Buy a rape alarm and activate it whenever you see him.
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    (Original post by Aack)
    Buy a rape alarm and activate it whenever you see him.
    LOL!!!

    On a serious note, you could just tell him you don't want a long distance relationship in uni so you'd rather not take this relationship further and you want to focus on your studying to meet your uni offer
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    poo in a cup and throw it at him
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    Tell him; better than stringing him along.
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    Tell you wasn't born a female, am pretty sure he'll be running away from you every time he sees you.
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    set him straight, its not meant to work with everyone! anyway.. let him take it as a learning curve and he might start picking up the hints when it comes to other girls..
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    Outright tell him do not contact me again or am gonna call the pol-ice!!:hmmm: he'll get it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    there was this guy at a group i attended. he seemed cute. he was nice enough. he was a year younger but, hey, thats not much. he still is all of that. we went on a few dates.
    he was boring. like wish-i'd-brought-a-book-along boring.

    the thing is, he is actually a nice guy and i cant find it in my heart to say to his face 'i dont like you' but he is being so persistant. he kept texting me for a bit and when i stopped going to the group he used to run to catch up with me and ask me why i wasnt going. he kept asking me out again. the other day he caught up with me in the street to ask why i hadnt texted him back.

    it sounds bad, but its actually a handful of incidents over a year or so - but you'd have thought a 17 yr old would take a hint by now, surely? the thing is; do i tell him outright, hurt the feelings of a guy who's nice enough but only crime is to be a bit slow, or do i wait until october and sneak quietly off to uni, because he's really bugging me now.
    I think your really cruel and a coward! This can be interpreted as stringing someone along! I can't believe you think its acceptable to treat someone like this, especially if he is as you say 'a nice guy'. He's going to be crushed because its gone on so long, I really can't feel sorry for people who don't nip this sorta thing in the bud straight away. That poor boy! You should meet with him on his own asap and appologetically explain to him in as nice as possible way what your position is!

    I can tell you you're selfish behaviour will have made ths boys life a misery. I know only too well. You really do disgust me!
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    just tell him....

    as a guy....I would much rather be told and know where I stand than constantly chasing a girl and not knowing if she likes me or not....
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    Tbh it might not be the nicest way of doing things, but easiest and most efficient would be just to tell him.

    Say blunt to his face that you just aren't interested in him in that way

    Excuses to be used can include: age gap, think of him as just a friend, not your type, your a lesbian

    Choose whichever you like the most
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    Just tell him the truth.

    "You're a nice guy, but I'm just not into you, Sorry". He'll probably feel a bit embarrassed, but it's better to just have your freedom and let him try his luck with some other girl.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    there was this guy at a group i attended. he seemed cute. he was nice enough. he was a year younger but, hey, thats not much. he still is all of that. we went on a few dates.
    he was boring. like wish-i'd-brought-a-book-along boring.

    the thing is, he is actually a nice guy and i cant find it in my heart to say to his face 'i dont like you' but he is being so persistant. he kept texting me for a bit and when i stopped going to the group he used to run to catch up with me and ask me why i wasnt going. he kept asking me out again. the other day he caught up with me in the street to ask why i hadnt texted him back.

    it sounds bad, but its actually a handful of incidents over a year or so - but you'd have thought a 17 yr old would take a hint by now, surely? the thing is; do i tell him outright, hurt the feelings of a guy who's nice enough but only crime is to be a bit slow, or do i wait until october and sneak quietly off to uni, because he's really bugging me now.
    Describe what your vagina smells like on a hot day that should get rid of him
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    Its your fault for stringing him along; if you didn't act like a whore, he wouldn't still be interested
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    Over a ****ing year?

    It's hardly intensive stalking is this. Why haven't you just told him!
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    and som girls just suck at giving hits and expects guys to read their minds.. We`re not all Patrick Jane in The Mentalist..
 
 
 
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