girls problems (girls and guys please help!!!)

so ,theres this girl ive had my eyes on for the last three weeks. i'm pretty sure she like me and i like her. BUT she doesn't like smokers, which i started again 2 weeks ago, after quitting for 3 weeks. we seem to have a lot in common but she is reeeeeeally shy. so shy that when i talk to her she doesn't seem to say much. she has texted me saying generally whats up, but i know for sure shes playing hard to get.

should i forget about her and get on with my life or do everything i can to get her to be mine.

i dont want to but the strand of alpha male in me is saying fogettaboutit, plenty more fish in the sea. while the more dominant beta male says you've been lonely too long man, plus shes really hot.

Reply 1

hanadeka2002

Hmm it depends to what extent she dislikes smokers.

If it's an 'Oh my god even if he's the love of my life it's a no..' then forget.

I don't like smokers but I'd 'tolerate' it if I really liked the guy.

Reply 2

Invocation

im willing to do what i can to give up. for my own benefit. n yeh she hates em

Reply 3

Poison Ivy

Do what you feel right!

Ask her if she does like you or you tell her.

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Oh and smoking is a waste of money and life think of the things you could treat her to with that money if you do go out with her :smile:

Reply 4

MNBStyle

kornkamper

should i forget about her and get on with my life or do everything i can to get her to be mine.

Yes forget about her and move on mate, if you been lonely for too long then you got no time for games,
find a girl whos bit more mature and wants a relationship rather than one who is playing school girl games.
Like you say plenty more fish in than sea many better than her :wink:

Reply 5

Invocation

we both know we like eachother, me more than her. and i dont know what to do. im so confused !! :frown:

Reply 6

Doops

Honestly... if u like her jus ask her - theres nuttin more gutting than finding out later wen either of u got someone else that she did.

Reply 7

Invocation

i forgot to say i have already asked her out and said no. her friends tell me that shes really shy and like me though

Reply 8

MNBStyle

kornkamper

i forgot to say i have already asked her out and said no. her friends tell me that shes really shy and like me though

So shes playing games, and shes said no???
Just forget about her and find someone better and more mature and ready for a relationship.
No time for games your obviously more mature than that

Reply 9

L i b

Um, mate--

She doesn't like smokers, doesn't speak much to you, is 'playing hard to get' and has turned you down when you asked her out...

... I don't know much, but from what you've said it sounds like you may need to re-examine the situation here.

Reply 10

Poison Ivy

She probably thinks it's a crush she's having.

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Or she may be scared of beign hurt etc.

Reply 11

ebonyphoenix

If she says "no" to you for whatever reason, then ditch her! Honestly, any girl who isn't upfront about her feelings and is playing hard to get just isn't worth it. I really don't understand the logic at all behind playing hard to get... it makes no sense to me... hmm... I'm interested in this guy, so why don't I ignore him?! :rolleyes: