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    Ive been with my bf for just over a year and havent really done anything sexual. Im having trouble cos I feel like I want things to happen but then at the actually moment I cant go through with it im guessing this means im not ready but I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to explain this or how to say no in the first place please help
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    Just change the lyrics of this song to make it relevant then, voila.

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    Well, if you've been with him for a year then you're naturally going to want intimacy. But if it pushes your boundaries too far, then you're not ready.

    As for saying no, it's not really hard. Just say you're not ready yet.
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    As for saying no, it's not really hard. Just say you're not ready yet.[/QUOTE]

    you're right but when I say no i feel like im letting him down and should be allowing these things. i just dont know how to explain it
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    You might actually be ready as you say you want things to go further but your nerves make you feel you aren't. I think this is a case of just going with the flow and doing it, but if you are 100% sure you aren't ready then all you need to say is you aren't ready and he'll understand!
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    Maybe you should give it a go but start really slowly just to make sure its what you really want.
    I'm sure he'll understand if he's been with you a year, and will want to make sure its what you want!
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    (Original post by Sunshine & Showers)
    You might actually be ready as you say you want things to go further but your nerves make you feel you aren't. I think this is a case of just going with the flow and doing it, but if you are 100% sure you aren't ready then all you need to say is you aren't ready and he'll understand!
    this how old are you?
 
 
 
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