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    I respect all aspects of my religion and think that there aren't any flaws with it ... I also respect everyone on my uni course who obviously do things that islam doesn't accept e.g consuming alcohol, casual sex etc ... These people are even my friends along with my muslim friends as I believe when living in such a diverse society there is definitely a need to integrate ... Problem is that I respect my values and don't drink, which is much of what uni culture is about ... believe it or not my muslim friends are all out there also which leaves me standing in such an awkward position .. I mean is clubbing, boozing, casual sex etc the only thing people have in common to talk about 80% of the time... What do you do in such a situation? You obv do get an urge to go out clubbing etc but my conscious wont let me because i kow its wrong.... This thread is by no means to hate on Islam (it doesn't promote killings and terror) etc .. Its simply here to show that there are muslims who are modern and banterful just not out there drinking like the rest .. This is what I believe seperates cultural differences .... Any advice would be great ... And btw I amn't a very religous person .. i just respect the values that i have learned from islam ...
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    Would you be able to go out to the club and not drink?
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    Don't compromise on your values. Never compromise on your values, or you'll regret it.
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    (Original post by Insomnia)
    I respect all aspects of my religion and think that there aren't any flaws with it ... I also respect everyone on my uni course who obviously do things that islam doesn't accept e.g consuming alcohol, casual sex etc ... These people are even my friends along with my muslim friends as I believe when living in such a diverse society there is definitely a need to integrate ... Problem is that I respect my values and don't drink, which is much of what uni culture is about ... believe it or not my muslim friends are all out there also which leaves me standing in such an awkward position .. I mean is clubbing, boozing, casual sex etc the only thing people have in common to talk about 80% of the time... What do you do in such a situation? You obv do get an urge to go out clubbing etc but my conscious wont let me because i kow its wrong.... This thread is by no means to hate on Islam (it doesn't promote killings and terror) etc .. Its simply here to show that there are muslims who are modern and banterful just not out there drinking like the rest .. This is what I believe seperates cultural differences .... Any advice would be great ... And btw I amn't a very religous person .. i just respect the values that i have learned from islam ...
    Lot's of people don't drink at university, even more don't drink to excess at all. You'll be fine, any normal person will respect your decisions.
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    (Original post by Picture-Perfect)
    Would you be able to go out to the club and not drink?
    Yeah i can do that, however my desires my get the better of me ...
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    I hate it when the conversation revolves around something you can't at all relate to. Its kind of depressing.
    I'm not in uni yet but good thing for shining the light on this issue. The rational answer is to mingle with some other people too. Don't completely ditch your old friends of course but for the sake of your contentment and your oath to Islam, make some new friends whose lifestyles you can become a part of easily.

    Edit: and the last comment you made about your desires. Its completely acceptable to have them. But (someone please elaborate or represent this via an Islamic quotation) Islam recommends/tells/advises us we should keep our distance from anything prohibited. Lets face it, sometimes we cant help ourselves.
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    (Original post by Insomnia)
    I respect all aspects of my religion and think that there aren't any flaws with it ... I also respect everyone on my uni course who obviously do things that islam doesn't accept e.g consuming alcohol, casual sex etc ... These people are even my friends along with my muslim friends as I believe when living in such a diverse society there is definitely a need to integrate ... Problem is that I respect my values and don't drink, which is much of what uni culture is about ... believe it or not my muslim friends are all out there also which leaves me standing in such an awkward position .. I mean is clubbing, boozing, casual sex etc the only thing people have in common to talk about 80% of the time... What do you do in such a situation? You obv do get an urge to go out clubbing etc but my conscious wont let me because i kow its wrong.... This thread is by no means to hate on Islam (it doesn't promote killings and terror) etc .. Its simply here to show that there are muslims who are modern and banterful just not out there drinking like the rest .. This is what I believe seperates cultural differences .... Any advice would be great ... And btw I amn't a very religous person .. i just respect the values that i have learned from islam ...
    The moment you start to fall off that's it so try not to. Join an ISOC. Surround yourself with Muslim friends as well. Make new ones. Talk to people who aren't Muslim but don't drink etc.
    Try to slip other conversations when you don't like the direction the convo is heading.......
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    (Original post by navarre)
    Don't compromise on your values. Never compromise on your values, or you'll regret it.
    couldn't have said it better :cool:
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    just do what I intend to do.....

    go to clubs etc....but don't drink
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    Well by being religious I think you are kind of hindering your current life to have a better afterlife. You can't have your cake and it it too, if you get what I'm saying.
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    (Original post by Picture-Perfect)
    Would you be able to go out to the club and not drink?
    Have you ever been to a club and not had a drink? It's deathly boring.
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    Clubbing doesn't have to be about drinking. You could go to join in with the socializing and dancing to the music. And just drink Red Bull, if you like it? Not everyone who goes clubbing will be getting hammered.
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    (Original post by gradbio)
    Have you ever been to a club and not had a drink? It's deathly boring.
    Yes, lots of times. I think it's a pretty bad sign if you can't go on a night out and not drink.
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    Sometimes its difficult being surrounded by a certain group of people...Stick to your values..I think its great!
    Soon enough you'll find friends who share the same values as you..and it will be a lot easier..Good luck
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    (Original post by miss_p)
    Clubbing doesn't have to be about drinking. You could go to join in with the socializing and dancing to the music. And just drink Red Bull, if you like it? Not everyone who goes clubbing will be getting hammered.
    Yeah this!
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    (Original post by Picture-Perfect)
    Would you be able to go out to the club and not drink?
    No,

    going to a club :dance: leads to temptation of drinking :cheers: being drunk could lead to :sexface:

    By the end of the night, all the rules are broken ..

    The whole point of being a Muslim is not to go around clubbing to socialise and dance to the music in a unisex environment, let alone not drink. If you don't drink what's the point of doing all the rest, might as well be faithful to yourself and stick to your values properly rather than dodge and juggle :beard: I know people are not going to like this but don't call yourself a Muslim if you do any of those things seriously, you either follow Islam or you don't. Stop compromising. :facepalm:
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    i dont understand? why would going to a club be wrong if you didnt drink, and drinking isnt wrong, only in your and your religion is it classed as wrong
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    I know a couple of Muslims at uni and they go out all the time and have a great time but they don't drink / get with girls. It is possible to go out and not drink.
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    (Original post by gradbio)
    Have you ever been to a club and not had a drink? It's deathly boring.
    lol or maybe you just can't socialise and dance without a drink? I have tonnes of fun without drinking.
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    (Original post by Bec89)
    Interesting topic =)
    Your university experience will and should always be what you make it.
    Whilst you talk here about desires and being faced with the fact that, quite frankly, the stereotypical uni experience is centred around drinking, my housemate actually found Islam during uni and recently converted. It's just about who and what you surround yourself with. You needn't exclude yourself from non-Muslim friends, nor compromise your beliefs and practices to be around them.
    I like this!
 
 
 
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