Why does he ignore me in real life? GRRRR.

Whats his personality like generally? It sounds like he needs a bit of alcohol to relieve him of any inhibitions and give him a boost of confidence. Its probably that you are more flirty when drunk too.

I believe the answer lies with your mirror.

The solution is simple...always carry a small bottle of vodka on you.

There was a guy at uni like this -

When I first met him he was really funny and friendly, then when we got drunk he got really affectionate and started holding my hand and hugging me and texting me saying I was so hot, how he really liked me etc.

Then when I saw him again sober he was really awkward and didn't speak to me much. I was really confused because I was sure he liked me when he was drunk but when sober it was like I was the last person he wanted to see.

Then we kissed one night out but because we had a mutual best friend who obviously had feelings for him, didn't get together.

Then eventually he plucked up the courage to say he really liked me - and we've been together since (2 years so far).

Basically - he fancies you and feels more confident when drunk. Text him when your sober and ask to go for coffee.

i am guy and used to be like this very much. generally i was fairly outgoing and confident - could talk to girls make new friends etc. but for some reason, if i ever liked a girl and thought that she liked me also (to the point where it seemed that it would turn into a 'proper' relationship) i just froze up. i can think of several situations where i liked a girl, and now thinking back on it, it's pretty clear they liked me too. i just didn't really know how to behave when it got to this point. so i basically treated the girl as one of my friends.

the reason i think that this guy is similar to this is that he seems affectionate when he is drunk (this is the same as i was) because it makes him more confident.

my advice to you is to be more forward - if you like him, why dont you take the innitiative? this view by girls when they are frustrated that they think a guy likes them but is not doing anything about it annoys me. no-one ever teaches guys how to make the first move, to me it sounds like you are both in the same situation here. why should you wait for him to act? its the 21st century... even just try being more flirty/suggestive when you are sober

hope this helps

Well I suppose everything is 'real life', but this guy only seems to show interest when he's/we're both wasted - he's all over me and I love it. And then when everything's normal and we're sober he doesn't strike up a conversation or seem into me at all.

Admittedly, I don't make any effort either... and have rejected sleeping with him twice (only when I first met him, we've made out since!!), but now I don't want to make a fool of myself and come onto him soberly, when it seems textbook 'I'm not into you'. I don't think it's a case of being embarrassed of me or something, i'm not hideous and he'll cuddle me publicly etc (when drunk...). It's just really infuriating when I think it's clear to him i'm now up for it.

Girls have you had this? I never usually have this problem with guys!! Yeah I know it's pathetic, but it's made me want him more, and I suppose now I have to accept that he's changed his mind or something?