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Don't know how to make him get the point...

THere's this guy I'm friends with at school, and for a long time now it's totally obvious he fancies me. He keeps asking me out to do stuff with just him and I keep saying no, but he doesn't seem to be getting the message. He's never said in so many words that he fancies me but it really is so obvious, everyone else has noticed too. When we go out he just clings to my side and won't go, everyone thinks we're now going out because of this but we're not!!
Anyway the thing is, I need to know how to tell him to give me a break really, but without being too mean cos I do see him as a good friend, I just really do not fancy him. Help!!

Reply 1

Zerforax

21

Being brutal is the only way to be nice in these situations..
and its always comical for the crowd... (meh or do it in private)

Reply 2

Indus1986

4

Talk to him about guys you fancy. Say you got a date with this guy (make him up or something) and ask his opinion on what you should wear etc. Then say "hey thanks for helping you are a good FRIEND".

Drop hints about the type of guys you like (the complete opposite of him). You really have to beat him down or he will never stop. Be as mean as you can but on the sly. in the end everyone is happy (apart from him).

Reply 3

Cate

OP

1

Indus1986

Talk to him about guys you fancy. Say you got a date with this guy (make him up or something) and ask his opinion on what you should wear etc. Then say "hey thanks for helping you are a good FRIEND".

Drop hints about the type of guys you like (the complete opposite of him). You really have to beat him down or he will never stop. Be as mean as you can but on the sly. in the end everyone is happy (apart from him).

Yeah that's a good idea... thing is, he knows I used to go out with a guy who was quite smiliar to him. Have since totally gone off that type of guy though :rolleyes:

Maybe I'll start talking about how much I love such-and-such actor who is the polar opposite of him :redface:

Reply 4

Laursy

10

be competely stright with him but don't make it sound nasty!!!

nothing worse then mixed signals from people!!!

Reply 5

randdom

20

tell him the truth, it will hurt him in the short run but in the long run it might save your friendship. Being subtle doesn't work on some guys.

Reply 6

Cate

OP

1

Laursy

be competely stright with him but don't make it sound nasty!!!

nothing worse then mixed signals from people!!!

Yeah... I'm worried he might think I do like him though, just cos I actually show an interest in how he is and stuff, but I'm like that with everyone :|

Reply 7

34253

2

Say: go away you freak and leave me alone.

Reply 8

veryrandom

10

In my little experience, you need to tell it to boys straight. They don't get it when you are subtle. :rolleyes:

You have to admire him though, trying to break you down so you'll go out with him :p:

may seem annoying yet in a weird way slightly inspiring...

Reply 9

random123

2

Elipsis

Say: go away you freak and leave me alone.

Well it would definitely work.

Reply 10

Elondra

13

Oh God I have the same problem with one of my friends. Last week he admitted that he fancies me so I said no. But he still doesn't get the message. He's still going on about it thinking that I will change my mind.*rolls eyes*

Just stay away from him for a while he might get the message or worse he might think that you're flirting.

Reply 11

Ferrus

19

Its seems you've been slightly evasive feeding his "what ifs" - just state it explicitly, although that may be hard - and if he doesn't get the message then, ignore him.

Don't know how to make him get the point...

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