Denying oneself opportunities with the opposite sex

Have you ever done this? I mean, some people would wonder what my problem is, I'm attractivish, personable, and could have just nuckled down, lived the middle class life, and met some very nice, attractive and well spoken girls. So why have I denied myself that in order to be lost in some enigmatic netherworld? Why am I so particular about so-called personal integrity and what the chemistry has to be or reluctant to just become a person like others and enjoy this stuff, why do I make it so complicated? Am I behaving naturally and just having pride and particularity, and aiming for the perfect chemistry, or am I being dull and narrow minded and life-denying?

Am I weird in this, or are these feelings existent in everyone, do we all make things hard for ourselves because what can be on offer more easily somehow isn't right for our soul?

Have you ever done this? I mean, some people would wonder what my problem is, I'm attractivish, personable, and could have just nuckled down, lived the middle class life, and met some very nice, attractive and well spoken girls. So why have I denied myself that in order to be lost in some enigmatic netherworld? Why am I so particular about so-called personal integrity and what the chemistry has to be or reluctant to just become a person like others and enjoy this stuff, why do I make it so complicated? Am I behaving naturally and just having pride and particularity, and aiming for the perfect chemistry, or am I being dull and narrow minded and life-denying?

Am I weird in this, or are these feelings existent in everyone, do we all make things hard for ourselves because what can be on offer more easily somehow isn't right for our soul?

Don't flatter yourself mate.

You're saying you're an Uptown boy looking for a backstreet girl?

Not quite that, more just I'm apprehensive of a mature relationship with the successful, posh type, becoming smooth and accomplished and middle class and satisfied worries me. I need something to rail against or be worked up about. It would seem like having it too good.

Just because somebody's middle class doesn't mean they will necessarily be successful and looking for a mature relationship, just as being working class doesn't always mean they won't be looking for anything serious.

You sound like you just haven't met enough women yet. Maybe go out a bit more to bars/pubs with friends, if you're at uni join a few societies.