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    (Original post by derp)

    What do you mean, "if not"? If not what?

    As you asked so nicely though I will answer your question.
    Well yes, that is what I asked in the first place. Yet instead you replied with a cocky comment.

    Your question was what is the evidence that you know little about OCD. I know enough about OCD to know that even having the ASSUMPTION that someone you have never met may have OCD based on next to no evidence is needlessly sensational and highly unscientific. Therefore, you must know so little about OCD as to believe that you can possibly raise that suggestion. Can't you see that it could be offensive, both to sufferers and non-sufferers, that, the minute someone says something about a flatmate's odd and/or irritating cleaning habits, a million teenagers come on here thinking they're better than clinical psychologists because they've read wikipedia and say "Omg lyk its culd b ocd lol"?
    ... and there we have it. This is EXACTLY why so few people know about OCD and why it is often referred to as the secret illness. Because people like you make it a crime to even bring it up.

    This is a forum, every post has a level of assumption in it. No-one on here knows the exact facts.

    Offensive, how? I don't think anyone who suffers from OCD is under any illusions about there illness. It does make you do extremely odd, bizzare and irrational things - that's the difference with OCD, YOU KNOW what you're doing is irrational. There's no question about that. Hiding the fact and making it taboo to discuss isn't doing anything good or positive about the condition. The more people who are aware of it the better it is. It's why people suffering from OCD feel so isolated because people have no idea wtf they're going through. Most people associate OCD with 'Oh they clean there room all the time! They're so OCD!'. How many people could you approach on the street who would have any indication of what OCD truly entails? Very few would be my guess.

    And don't even try to give me this "I have it therefore I know everything about it" ****, because I have it too and have studied it at postgraduate level and I don't claim to know how people who have it can be expected to behave or feel. And I certainly don't claim to be able to make (even a potential) diagnosis of it in someone else I have never met and know nothing about at a range of 100 metres
    So you just had this rant over me saying ''maybe she has OCD?' - yes me saying 'maybe she has OCD' and NOTHING MORE is 'sensational', 'offensive' and it's me attempting to be a 'clinical psychologist' - You need to get over yourself. You clearly think you're special just because you've studied it. Well done :yy: . NO ONE knows anything about the girl in question, so based on that, this thread should have 0 replies and most of this forum should be empty.
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    mate, i think the purpose of this thread was for OP to have a bit of a rant about how annoying the housemate was....not for an 'education' in an illness the housemate may or may not have.
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    my flatemates are in bed all day, never go out, don't socialize, don't go to uni, very messy and steel my food; i'm different.
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    (Original post by Jebbyxx)
    So, yeah, basically I need to let off steam!!

    One of my flatmates is soo annoying. Every week she goes through the fridge and rearranges it and throws out other people's food even if it is only a day or two out of date.I don't believe it in dates or anything so it doesn't bother me if something is past it's DISPLAY date! It got to the point were we all decided to have our own shelves in the fridge (like most students do) but I just went into the fridge and she has rearranged it again! She's put all the sauce on shelf etc and now I don't know what is mine, GGRRRR. She has also put all the eggs into one box so now one of my other flat mates will think she has no eggs left.

    Plus, she never leaves the flat. Only to go to uni (which she very rarely goes to) so she is constantly in the living room, in her pyjamas!!


    Anyone else want to let off some steam??
    TBH about her being in the lounge in her pyjamas, I don't see the problem cos my and my mate did that all the time. About rearranging the fridge, I see your frustration, I also don't believe in dates but I had a flatmate who would throw away anything on the day it went out of date because she thought it would contaminate everything else in the fridge. I went really mad when she threw away my roast potatoes, they had been in there less than 24 hours and her excuse was 'they looked a bit dodgy'. About knowing what's yours or not either put stickers of a certain colour on them or write your name on them even eggs, we never had allocated shelves but we used to name our stuff, especially things like meat in the freezer cos we used to buy the same stuff.
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    (Original post by The Stig)
    Well yes, that is what I asked in the first place. Yet instead you replied with a cocky comment.
    You don't think it's cocky to sneer and snide at someone about their "evident" lack of knowledge of OCD?

    (Original post by The Stig)
    ... and there we have it. This is EXACTLY why so few people know about OCD and why it is often referred to as the secret illness. Because people like you make it a crime to even bring it up.
    I think it is a crime to even bring it up when you are ADDING to the level of ignorance and false ideas that people have about OCD. The false idea that a complete stranger can spot a potential case from 100 miles away, perhaps.

    (Original post by The Stig)
    This is a forum, every post has a level of assumption in it. No-one on here knows the exact facts.
    Most people aren't purporting to assume they are capable of making a potential clinical diagnosis.

    (Original post by The Stig)
    Offensive, how? I don't think anyone who suffers from OCD is under any illusions about there illness. It does make you do extremely odd, bizzare and irrational things - that's the difference with OCD, YOU KNOW what you're doing is irrational. There's no question about that. Hiding the fact and making it taboo to discuss isn't doing anything good or positive about the condition. The more people who are aware of it the better it is. It's why people suffering from OCD feel so isolated because people have no idea wtf they're going through. Most people associate OCD with 'Oh they clean there room all the time! They're so OCD!'. How many people could you approach on the street who would have any indication of what OCD truly entails? Very few would be my guess.
    And you have just lessened that number even more by giving the false impression that it is possible to give a potential diagnosis of it on almost no information.

    I am not attempting to hide the fact that OCD exists, nor am I saying it is taboo to discuss it. I will quite happily enjoy having a rational conversation with you about it. What I don't agree with is that making people aware of OCD by feeding them false ideas about it is a good thing. That's like me saying that my making people more aware of the Rwandan genocide by feeding them false ideas is a good thing:

    OCD is potentially diagnosable in someone you've never met and know nothing about.
    The Rwandan genocide was an all-out cutefest involving puppies and hedgehogs prancing lustily in a field of daffodils.

    (Original post by The Stig)
    So you just had this rant over me saying ''maybe she has OCD?' - You need to get over yourself. You clearly think you're special just because you've studied it. Well done :yy: .
    Yet another groundless assumption of yours is born; I am going to name them all and dress them up in little playsuits and give them birthday parties. As well as having studied OCD, I have OCD too! Does that make me extra special? Thanks for your congrats

    (Original post by The Stig)
    NO ONE knows anything about the girl in question, so based on that, this thread should have 0 replies and most of this forum should be empty.
    Actually, if you read most of the rest of the posts on this thread, they are offering sympathy, similar stories and advice. Not clinical diagnoses.

    Oh, and P.S. everyone knows that Michael Schumacher is the Stig, and I highly doubt that you are Michael Schumacher. Good day to you young sir
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    (Original post by Schroedinger's Pandora)
    One of mine is the filthiest, most disgusting pig I've ever met. If I don't clean up her minging ****, sort out her clothes, pick up her ****ing tampon applicators and chuck her rotting crap out of our kitchen, I'd be living in a massive ****hole. I even found my pint glasses full of wee in her bedroom (along with all the cat poo that's accumulated all over her filthing rubbsh - I'm not kidding, she keeps 2 cats shut in her room). I can't freaking wait to get out of here, I've had an absolute gutfull of it.
    Tampon applicators? :eek: I suppose someone could say at least its not used tampons, but seriously. Who wees in a pint glass let alone someone else's pint glass? If I were you I'd keep them in my room from now on. Can't you call the RSPCA about the cats, its not right to keep them shut up wallowing in their own excrement.
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    (Original post by Schroedinger's Pandora)
    Yep. We come to blows at least once a month. Her dad is the landlord so she screams, stamps her feet, and declares that it's "her" house, and she can live however she likes. She's never even paid rent. I solemnly wish I had an incling before I moved in. She's ****ing gross.
    Classic case of Daddy's girl syndrome. Tbh if you spoke to her dad would he do something about it. I know if my dad bought me house to live in while renting out the other rooms and I didn't look after the place he would at least give me stiff talking to. But tbh I can't see myself doing any of the stuff you mentioned.
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    (Original post by derp)
    You don't think it's cocky to sneer and snide at someone about their "evident" lack of knowledge of OCD?


    I think it is a crime to even bring it up when you are ADDING to the level of ignorance and false ideas that people have about OCD. The false idea that a complete stranger can spot a potential case from 100 miles away, perhaps.


    Most people aren't purporting to assume they are capable of making a potential clinical diagnosis.


    And you have just lessened that number even more by giving the false impression that it is possible to give a potential diagnosis of it on almost no information.

    I am not attempting to hide the fact that OCD exists, nor am I saying it is taboo to discuss it. I will quite happily enjoy having a rational conversation with you about it. What I don't agree with is that making people aware of OCD by feeding them false ideas about it is a good thing. That's like me saying that my making people more aware of the Rwandan genocide by feeding them false ideas is a good thing:

    OCD is potentially diagnosable in someone you've never met and know nothing about.
    The Rwandan genocide was an all-out cutefest involving puppies and hedgehogs prancing lustily in a field of daffodils.


    Yet another groundless assumption of yours is born; I am going to name them all and dress them up in little playsuits and give them birthday parties. As well as having studied OCD, I have OCD too! Does that make me extra special? Thanks for your congrats


    Actually, if you read most of the rest of the posts on this thread, they are offering sympathy, similar stories and advice. Not clinical diagnoses.

    Oh, and P.S. everyone knows that Michael Schumacher is the Stig, and I highly doubt that you are Michael Schumacher. Good day to you young sir
    Michael Shumacher is no longer The Stig, he was fired for revealing his identity although I highly doubt The Stig would be on a student forum. He probably has better things to do.
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    (Original post by derp)
    You don't think it's cocky to sneer and snide at someone about their "evident" lack of knowledge of OCD?


    I think it is a crime to even bring it up when you are ADDING to the level of ignorance and false ideas that people have about OCD. The false idea that a complete stranger can spot a potential case from 100 miles away, perhaps.


    Most people aren't purporting to assume they are capable of making a potential clinical diagnosis.


    And you have just lessened that number even more by giving the false impression that it is possible to give a potential diagnosis of it on almost no information.

    I am not attempting to hide the fact that OCD exists, nor am I saying it is taboo to discuss it. I will quite happily enjoy having a rational conversation with you about it. What I don't agree with is that making people aware of OCD by feeding them false ideas about it is a good thing. That's like me saying that my making people more aware of the Rwandan genocide by feeding them false ideas is a good thing:

    OCD is potentially diagnosable in someone you've never met and know nothing about.
    The Rwandan genocide was an all-out cutefest involving puppies and hedgehogs prancing lustily in a field of daffodils.


    Yet another groundless assumption of yours is born; I am going to name them all and dress them up in little playsuits and give them birthday parties. As well as having studied OCD, I have OCD too! Does that make me extra special? Thanks for your congrats


    Actually, if you read most of the rest of the posts on this thread, they are offering sympathy, similar stories and advice. Not clinical diagnoses.

    Oh, and P.S. everyone knows that Michael Schumacher is the Stig, and I highly doubt that you are Michael Schumacher. Good day to you young sir
    How is 'maybe she has OCD' anywhere near a 'clinical diagnosis'? How have I spotted it 'from 100 miles away'?

    You seem to enjoy blowing things out of proportion.

    You make it out as the symptoms are some big secret.

    Look the symptoms are even listed on the NHS website. http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Obsessi.../Symptoms.aspx

    If awareness can be raised it's only good thing - if her flatmate doesn't have OCD, no harm is done, good for her. However if she does, even if the OP catches a gist of what OCD is about she could be more understanding to the fact her flatmate does these things. You've jumped on me for saying 'maybe she has ocd' like I've said the most bizzare thing in the world and I'm spreading mis-information.

    I don't agree with your secretive way of dealing with OCD. It was the same with depression not long ago and then it came into the limelight, was highlighted in films / media and now everyone knows about it. It does come with it's negatives which are every other person claiming to have depression or be depressed however the positives are everyone knows about. It's well known. Now for me, the negatives of everyone claiming to have OCD would far outweigh the positives of people knowing what it truly is. More research can be done. People who suffer from it can be more open about it etc IMPORTANTLY, other people - the general public will be more aware of it.

    edit: I really don't want to carry on in circles with this. You're probably not going to entirely agree with and I'm not going to entirely agree with you. As a fellow OCD 'er I hope you see some progress / get better.
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    (Original post by The Stig)
    edit: I really don't want to carry on in circles with this. You're probably not going to entirely agree with and I'm not going to entirely agree with you. As a fellow OCD 'er I hope you see some progress / get better.
    Neither do I. I still feel that you have missed my point, but I am sure that you will disagree. Thanks dude and the same to you
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    (Original post by hippieglitter)
    Michael Shumacher is no longer The Stig, he was fired for revealing his identity although I highly doubt The Stig would be on a student forum. He probably has better things to do.
    This is sad - and true
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    (Original post by Jebbyxx)
    So, yeah, basically I need to let off steam!!

    One of my flatmates is soo annoying. Every week she goes through the fridge and rearranges it and throws out other people's food even if it is only a day or two out of date.I don't believe it in dates or anything so it doesn't bother me if something is past it's DISPLAY date! It got to the point were we all decided to have our own shelves in the fridge (like most students do) but I just went into the fridge and she has rearranged it again! She's put all the sauce on shelf etc and now I don't know what is mine, GGRRRR. She has also put all the eggs into one box so now one of my other flat mates will think she has no eggs left.

    Plus, she never leaves the flat. Only to go to uni (which she very rarely goes to) so she is constantly in the living room, in her pyjamas!!


    Anyone else want to let off some steam??
    Think that's an annoying housemate? If you want to see that you don't have it all bad, you should read some of the stories in the housemates thread I posted to a while back.

    Just do a TSR search for "rotting rat soup".
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    (Original post by Schroedinger's Pandora)
    One of mine is the filthiest, most disgusting pig I've ever met. If I don't clean up her minging ****, sort out her clothes, pick up her ****ing tampon applicators and chuck her rotting crap out of our kitchen, I'd be living in a massive ****hole. I even found my pint glasses full of wee in her bedroom (along with all the cat poo that's accumulated all over her filthing rubbsh - I'm not kidding, she keeps 2 cats shut in her room). I can't freaking wait to get out of here, I've had an absolute gutfull of it.
    ok I know its off topic but you have to report her to the RSPCA or something...cruel to keep two cats locked in a room, in such a tiny space, clearly without a proper litter tray or anything!
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    (Original post by marcusfox)
    Think that's an annoying housemate? If you want to see that you don't have it all bad, you should read some of the stories in the housemates thread I posted to a while back.

    Just do a TSR search for "rotting rat soup".
    OMG you're right! I do appreciate her a lot more now.
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    (Original post by hippieglitter)
    Classic case of Daddy's girl syndrome. Tbh if you spoke to her dad would he do something about it. I know if my dad bought me house to live in while renting out the other rooms and I didn't look after the place he would at least give me stiff talking to. But tbh I can't see myself doing any of the stuff you mentioned.
    my parents rented the flat I live in to me, my bf and a friend..although i don't pay rent(that was the point of buying the place) I do pay bills and I bought all the furniture and white goods and my bf and I keep the flat up (he's studying electronic engineering so is good at maintenance)
    if I said anything like it's my flat, I can live how I want, my rules, my dad's place my bf and friend would immediately phone my dad and my dad would punish me somehow or at least travel to see me and yell about how arrogant and ungrateful I'm being.

    even though they are my parents and even though i don't pay rent I have to live under the same rules as everyone else. it's called being an adult.

    the flatmate should learn this too.
 
 
 
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