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    No, you're not in my eyes.
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    Don't dump him, did you know getting stoned and prostitution is legal there! Don't worry!
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    Just think: How much sex is he gonna have in Amsterdam if you break up with him?


    If my gf said that to me I'd break up with her, tbf.
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    (Original post by silverbolt)
    oh blooming heck thats a bit rough

    though out of morbid curiosity do you have any pics of the higher spectrum girls.

    Wanna know what you can get with your hard earned dough aye?
    http://sbuwolftank.files.wordpress.c...prostitute.jpg

    http://whygo-eur.s3.amazonaws.com/ww.../adamlady1.jpg

    http://media.thestar.topscms.com/ima...f263724cc.jpeg

    To be honest these girls sleep with upto 30 people a day. I bet there is more traction on Chris Hoy's bike tyres.
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    Yeah, he's the one being a cow :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm just trying to work out if he's being a cow or not.

    Basically, he wants to go to Amsterdam with his guy mates, get stoned and stay in the red light district.

    I am not comfortable with this at all, so I have offered the ultimatum of if he goes, that's it. Am I being unreasonable.

    If so, why?
    Amsterdam is the gay capital of the Netherlands. Worried?
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    If you can't trust him then don't be in a relationship with him

    It is pretty unreasonable to breakup with him just because he's going on a trip to somewhere with a 'fun' reputation. Not every guy who goes there goes looking for prostitutes.
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    (Original post by Elipsis)
    Wanna know what you can get with your hard earned dough aye?
    http://sbuwolftank.files.wordpress.c...prostitute.jpg

    http://whygo-eur.s3.amazonaws.com/ww.../adamlady1.jpg

    http://media.thestar.topscms.com/ima...f263724cc.jpeg

    To be honest these girls sleep with upto 30 people a day. I bet there is more traction on Chris Hoy's bike tyres.
    Yep as i said curiosity, when i worked within sexual health i saw all manner of sex workers from £10 a go heroin addict street walkers right up to the £1000 a night escorts and some of the women would make your eyes pop out.

    Those women are attractice though.
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    (Original post by silverbolt)
    Yep as i said curiosity, when i worked within sexual health i saw all manner of sex workers from £10 a go heroin addict street walkers right up to the £1000 a night escorts and some of the women would make your eyes pop out.

    Those women are attractice though.
    Yeah I know, I watched a program about bankers spending $30k a night on models who double up as escorts.
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    I know how you feel, my boyfriend wanted to do the EXACT same thing on new years..
    He didnt, btw, I dont think he could afford it after all

    But I remember saying that he can do whatever he wants. After all, you cant stop him, and threatening to break the relationship is deffo unreasonable. But I can understand your fear.. most of these girls commenting dont really understand what it feels like when your boyfriend says to you 'so yeah im off to visit a strip-club for the weekend with my mates... miles and miles away... where you cant see what i get up to'. You just have to trust him, thats all you can do.
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    (Original post by Antonia87)
    I hate it when people say this. Its insincere, flippant and borderline naive. People are allowed to have shaky moments of trust in their relationship you know. Just because someone has doubts about something doesnt mean they should walk out of the relationship.

    And anyway, I wouldnt be happy with my boyfriend staying in the red light district of Amsterdam with his group of mates either. Recipe for disaster.
    Although I wouldnt give him an ultimatum.
    Excuse me? Where did I say that people aren't allowed to have shaky moments or doubts? But I think this is a bit more extreme than a "shaky moment", she's threatening to break up with her boyfriend fgs! I completely agree with your sentence in bold, and the second paragraph, but you seem to be defending the OP and criticising her at the same time. So what exactly is your point?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm just trying to work out if he's being a cow or not.

    Basically, he wants to go to Amsterdam with his guy mates, get stoned and stay in the red light district.

    I am not comfortable with this at all, so I have offered the ultimatum of if he goes, that's it. Am I being unreasonable.

    If so, why?
    I have lived in Amsterdam. I wouldn't worry about him going. Amsterdam is a cool city, lots to see lots to do, and the red light dstrict is only a small (and ever smaller) part of the inner city. Just trust your boyfriend, talk to him, it'll be fine ^^
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    yes

    further: under such an ultimatum he'd have much more justification to break up with you
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    Someone's i-n-s-e-c-u-r-e, but look at it this way, I'm going to leap to the OP's defence here, what if he sleeps with hookers and brings STDs back and gives them to HER?
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    (Original post by Carnivores)
    Someone's i-n-s-e-c-u-r-e, but look at it this way, I'm going to leap to the OP's defence here, what if he sleeps with hookers and brings STDs back and gives them to HER?
    Hookers in Amsterdam don't have STD's/ sleep with you without condoms. In Holland the RLD is part of a trade union and everything, they are all registered, it would be considered as wrong, and allow you to file a complaint

    They also go through screening every few weeks, it's part of the contract.
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    (Original post by sophisticated)
    If you don't trust him, why are you in a relationship?

    Simple question really...
    This.
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    (Original post by Seentje)
    Hookers in Amsterdam don't have STD's/ sleep with you without condoms. In Holland the RLD is part of a trade union and everything, they are all registered, it would be considered as wrong, and allow you to file a complaint

    They also go through screening every few weeks, it's part of the contract.
    Damn.
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    yes lol,,,,, yes it is
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm just trying to work out if he's being a cow or not.

    Basically, he wants to go to Amsterdam with his guy mates, get stoned and stay in the red light district.

    I am not comfortable with this at all, so I have offered the ultimatum of if he goes, that's it. Am I being unreasonable.

    If so, why?
    I think your being unreasonable. I'd let my boyfriend go, mainly because he is his own person and hardly needs my permission to do anything. I trust him to be faithful and if he did do something I would expect him to tell me and I'd review the relationship at that point. Its a boys holiday, if he has any sense of decency he can go and enjoy the holiday without being unfaithful.

    Tbh I'd be more annoyed that he went without me, than the fact that he went at all.
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    I know this is old but this is for everyone Your being harshI am going to Amsterdam with my boyfriend now I'm lucky because my boyfriend is decent and would never pay for sex. However no I don't think your being unreasonable because although there is trust there putting temptation is such a worry. I trust my Boyf but I would hate him to go to Amsterdam with his mates drinking and stuff and this is why although he is a decent guy he is still a maleThe science of males is they all like to be alpha male and everyone knows that there boyfriend watches porn and if a gorgeous girl was offering sex at the cheap prices they do and there drunk and when a guy gets drunk and high they usually want sex and there not thinking strate it is the nature of every male. Yes my boyfriend is decent but the temptations there and anything could happen ad the type of person I am I see it as cheating and why would you let your boyfriend cheat the whole point of being in a relatipnship is to be loyal to eachother and be togetherIt's a bit strong saying youll break up with him but if I was in your position I wouldn't feel comfortable but talk to him and explain the situation in reverse when I do that to my boyfriend it works
 
 
 
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