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Any girl here that would wait forever for a guy to make the first move? watch

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    (Original post by qwerty_mad)
    Do you really think you have loads in common or just think that is because you like this guy? Sometimes I think that's the case with me, you see.

    Being able to read their minds mean there would be no saga.
    Hehe

    No, we actually do have loads in common haha

    How close friends are you with the boy you like?
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    (Original post by proud nd luvin it)
    Hehe

    No, we actually do have loads in common haha

    How close friends are you with the boy you like?
    Not that close, but theres just something about him that I find attractive. We text more than anything as we hardly see each other at uni.
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    If I had reason to believe a guy liked me in that way then I would make the first move but if he had shown no signs to that effect I wouldn't make the first move. That being said I also wouldn't "wait" for a guy I thought had no interest in me to make the first move, I'd move on.
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    (Original post by qwerty_mad)
    Not that close, but theres just something about him that I find attractive. We text more than anything as we hardly see each other at uni.
    Ah right. Seriously you ought to just go for it!! It's different with me though as he is like my best mate, and I see him all the time, so it would be very awkward if he said no...
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    (Original post by Wick3d)
    I'm lazy, I always allow the girl to make the first move. Seeing as women want equal rights, I'll let them open the door for me for once.
    A TRUE LAD :cool:

    Women, you better start getting with the times!
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    (Original post by proud nd luvin it)
    Ah right. Seriously you ought to just go for it!! It's different with me though as he is like my best mate, and I see him all the time, so it would be very awkward if he said no...
    But its difficult to gauge how he feels when practically all we do is text.
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    I've never come on to a girl in my life. Makes me feel like a creepy perv.
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    If I'd never made the first move (and the second.. and the third...) my boyfriend admitted we probably wouldn't be together :P I'd always been too shy before, but apparently he's a bigger girl than me! Totally worth it in the end. Terrifying, though. Weird how scary asking "want to go to the cinema sometime?" can be
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    (Original post by Star_struck)
    Yes, i waited for him to make the first move. =D It's simple really. It takes guts to ask someone out. By asking me out i know that he has confidence, is interested in me in the first place, and can make decisions for himself!

    Of course there's nothing wrong with being forward and asking the guy first.....i'm just a traditionalist and a wee bit of scaredy-cat :P
    So you think asking someone out shows confidence, interest, and decision-making skills. You expect him to do that and be all those things while you wait around wanting everything to come to you. Plus, you think he should have those qualities if he wants to date you, whilst you think that for you, it doesn't matter? You must be pretty stupid if you think a guy would date you based on that. If you want someone or something, go after it. The things that are worth getting are the ones that require work.
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    (Original post by Danz123)
    So you think asking someone out shows confidence, interest, and decision-making skills. You expect him to do that and be all those things while you wait around wanting everything to come to you. Plus, you think he should have those qualities if he wants to date you, whilst you think that for you, it doesn't matter? You must be pretty stupid if you think a guy would date you based on that. If you want someone or something, go after it. The things that are worth getting are the ones that require work.
    ahh no no - i'd obviously flirt etc to let them know that i was available, but i'd want them to ultimately ask the question in the end.....

    ...........and there's nothing wrong with having high standards....once they're with me they're treated like royalty

    to be fair everyone has some sort of standard...whilst your's may be appearance mine is personal integrity and attitude

    each to their own i guess :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Star_struck)
    ahh no no - i'd obviously flirt etc to let them know that i was available, but i'd want them to ultimately ask the question in the end.....

    ...........and there's nothing wrong with having high standards....once they're with me they're treated like royalty

    to be fair everyone has some sort of standard...whilst your's may be appearance mine is personal integrity and attitude

    each to their own i guess :rolleyes:
    Letting them know you're 'available' isn't really the same as asking someone out is it? You can want them to ask them question all you like, but if you don't step up, you may always be thinking 'what if.' Plus, I don't think you have much of a right to expect someone to ask you out, and not want them to expect you to do the same. What's the point of even trying to be in a relationship with someone if you're not going to put in as much effort as they are? A relationship is a partnership.

    Of course everyone has an initial standard that should be met or exceeded; but that wasn't my point. My point was that you cannot expect him to be all those things, whilst you are not. Don't think that guys who are confident, precise, and straight-up, won't want girls who are the same. You should try to be all those things, if you want to date a guy that is. Oh, and lol at your assumptions. I actually care more for personality than I do looks. Was that assumption made just because I'm a guy? I also love how you try to compare my apparent 'standard' to yours, as if you're a deep, sincere person, and that I'm somehow shallow. 'Sigh,' I suppose you have a lot to learn.
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    I make the first move 50% of the time, the other 50% the guy was too quick for me. = )

    Though for the guy to make the first move is quite nice, I like the thrill of doing it myself.
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    (Original post by Danz123)
    Letting them know you're 'available' isn't really the same as asking someone out is it? You can want them to ask them question all you like, but if you don't step up, you may always be thinking 'what if.' Plus, I don't think you have much of a right to expect someone to ask you out, and not want them to expect you to do the same. What's the point of even trying to be in a relationship with someone if you're not going to put in as much effort as they are? A relationship is a partnership.

    Of course everyone has an initial standard that should be met or exceeded; but that wasn't my point. My point was that you cannot expect him to be all those things, whilst you are not. Don't think that guys who are confident, precise, and straight-up, won't want girls who are the same. You should try to be all those things, if you want to date a guy that is. Oh, and lol at your assumptions. I actually care more for personality than I do looks. Was that assumption made just because I'm a guy? I also love how you try to compare my apparent 'standard' to yours, as if you're a deep, sincere person, and that I'm somehow shallow. 'Sigh,' I suppose you have a lot to learn.

    hmm i see where you are coming from, but i have a feeling we'll just have to agree to disagree

    i agree completely that a relationship is a partnership.......however asking someone out is just dating, and finding out whether they are someone you'd be willing to have a relationship with.

    true - but those are my standards. and to be fair people can be confident in different ways. i guess i should retract my comment about asking someone out as showing confidence - it shows more that you know what you want.

    ahhh and although i'm sure you care for personality more than looks, initially the reason that most people ask others out is due to appearance, which makes you notice them...i'm not saying that this is you, i'm just saying that the majority (males AND females) look for both.

    i do have a lot to learn....but then again, doesn't everyone :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Star_struck)
    Yes, i waited for him to make the first move. =D It's simple really. It takes guts to ask someone out. By asking me out i know that he has confidence, is interested in me in the first place, and can make decisions for himself!

    Of course there's nothing wrong with being forward and asking the guy first.....i'm just a traditionalist and a wee bit of scaredy-cat :P
    so you dont have confidence, dont like to show your interested and cant make decisions for yourself?
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    (Original post by Star_struck)
    Yes, i waited for him to make the first move. =D It's simple really. It takes guts to ask someone out. By asking me out i know that he has confidence, is interested in me in the first place, and can make decisions for himself!

    Of course there's nothing wrong with being forward and asking the guy first.....i'm just a traditionalist and a wee bit of scaredy-cat :P
    hmm right.... Hypocrisy much?
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    If there are no circumstances under which you'd ask someone out, then you'd better be prepared never to go out with anyone. What if they're waiting for you?

    I don't get this 'girls should always wait for a boy to ask them out' *******s - I'll push a relationship with someone on if I want to. I'd hate to date a girl who just sat there passively and waited for me to do absolutely everything.
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    (Original post by silverbolt)
    so you dont have confidence, dont like to show your interested and cant make decisions for yourself?
    (Original post by ussumane)
    hmm right.... Hypocrisy much?
    just because i say one thing doesn't mean the inverse applies to me

    gah have edited the post now......it just shows that the guy is sure that he wants you


    simples :cool:
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    i've never made a first move simply because i don't have the balls too.

    women should make the first move more often but it's very rare
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    (Original post by Star_struck)
    hmm i see where you are coming from, but i have a feeling we'll just have to agree to disagree

    i agree completely that a relationship is a partnership.......however asking someone out is just dating, and finding out whether they are someone you'd be willing to have a relationship with.

    true - but those are my standards. and to be fair people can be confident in different ways. i guess i should retract my comment about asking someone out as showing confidence - it shows more that you know what you want.

    ahhh and although i'm sure you care for personality more than looks, initially the reason that most people ask others out is due to appearance, which makes you notice them...i'm not saying that this is you, i'm just saying that the majority (males AND females) look for both.

    i do have a lot to learn....but then again, doesn't everyone :rolleyes:
    OK, but if it's someone you really like, you'd probably be happy to be in a relationship with them in the first place, plus if you knew them well and socialise with them, then knowing whether you two would work out isn't as much of an issue.

    Saying 'those are my standards' doesn't really address my point. It's fine for you to have those standards, but you have to show that you possess those qualities. If you don't, it might end up being a bit of a one-sided relationship, with the guy trying harder to impress and do various other things, and you just floating along.

    Of course it's true that looks, to some extent, are important. However, you're saying that it's because of appearance that most people ask others out? Not really. In fact I'd say quite a few ask others out that they know well, and with personalities that they find attractive; which arguably, is what lays the foundation for the best relationships. Both personality and appearance are what makes a person attractive overall.
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    It all depends on the situation. If I'm drunk in a club I most likely will make the first move on a guy if he wont. But in a normal life situation its usually the case that neither of us make a move. So yes I usually will wait forever for the guy to make the move untill that fateful day if I see them in a nightclub. And the guy I like usually never makes the first move as those are the kind I usually fall for, shy guys. When a guy comes straight out and asks me after only knowing (or seeing from a distance) them for a short while its usually a turn off as there was no mystery there that developed.
 
 
 
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