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ok so tomorrow i am going to tell my boyfriend of 9 weeks i want to take things alot slower and maybe not see each other for a while (in other words a break but that sounds too harsh) i really dont want to do this but its for his own good - long story, i am goin to tell him this in a text - yes i know really not nice but i cant keep it any longer and i wont be seeing him for a few days at least

we have never had an arguement before and i have never seen him react to a situation to know how he deals with things i.e. shouts and gets angry kind of person or a quiet crying reaction

just any thoughts on how i can deal with all the different types of reactions i may face so i can be at least a little prepared would be helpful

(there is alot more to this story but it would take too long to explain)

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Reply 1
jayne87
ok so tomorrow i am going to tell my boyfriend of 9 weeks i want to take things alot slower and maybe not see each other for a while (in other words a break but that sounds too harsh) i really dont want to do this but its for his own good - long story, i am goin to tell him this in a text - yes i know really not nice but i cant keep it any longer and i wont be seeing him for a few days at least

we have never had an arguement before and i have never seen him react to a situation to know how he deals with things i.e. shouts and gets angry kind of person or a quiet crying reaction

just any thoughts on how i can deal with all the different types of reactions i may face so i can be at least a little prepared would be helpful

(there is alot more to this story but it would take too long to explain)

Theres noway you can properly prepare for his reaction, but you just got to remember if he gets angry or upset then he has everyright to,
but dont let guilt make you back away from your decision.
If he acts like he dont care thoe you may well have done yourself a favour.
Reply 2
i think you need to explain
But keep in mind that in that state he probably won't be very open to explanations, and he really won't feel like being touched so keep your distance.
Reply 4
ok well the story is he is my 1st ever bf and i have felt like things were going a bit too fast but didnt want to say that for fear of loosing him because i think he is great and in his opinion our relationship is very laid back (i think it is very laid back in relation 2 other people but just for me its too much) and i have have found it so hard to adjust from the single lifestyle, and for that reason i have cheated on him a few times- last night was the last straw and i cant keep doing this now

it is time to tell him its so unfair on him i hate it- i am not goin to tell him about all the times i have cheated - advice from a mate - it would just crush him and there would be no future hope for us

i already know his views on cheating is he doesnt tollerate it... so i practically know its over :frown:

i am gunna say about the break so he get the hint something is wrong and asks so i can tell him about the cheating rather than just saying i cheated because it would be a real shock to him as he thinks everything is great

i love him to bits but thats what scares me, he is my ideal guy but it scares me that i have found what i have been looking for so early in life - argh its hard to explain sorry

OTOH maybe i only think this cuz he is my 1st boyfriend and i have no experience i just dont know...
It's good that you've decided not to tell him about your infidelity, he'd probably go for your throat.

I can't see this turning out well, but I truly hope I'm wrong.
Reply 6
neither can i that is why i am so worried about it

ps where in south wales u live?
I live in the town of Merthyr Tydfil, and you?
Reply 8
oh i know Merthyr... well home is Narberth, by Haverfordwest

i didnt sleep with any1 i havent even slept with my bf
Merthyr is a bit of a dive, but there we go.

So it was just kissing then, or did it move on to groping and other stuff? (stop me if I get too personal, I have no real emotions)
Reply 10
it did go so far as groping with one but thats all
Hmm, still better not mention it to him, he probably would go crazy and try and hurt you, unless he really loves you of course. If he really loves you he might try to get as far away from you as possible to prevent his harming of you.
Reply 12
jayne87
oh i know Merthyr... well home is Narberth, by Haverfordwest

i didnt sleep with any1 i havent even slept with my bf


i live in tenby :biggrin:
(completely irrelivant sorry!)
That's alright my lady, we're all lunatics here.
Reply 14
Antonius Varus
That's alright my lady, we're all lunatics here.


i shall take that as a compliment :redface:
Please do, I regard insanity as a beautiful gift, and treasure all those who possess it.
Reply 16
done then. thank you :redface:
An honour and a pleasure dear lady, but back to the troubles of the thread maker...
Reply 18
i love Tenby its sooo nice there
My brother goes there often with his wife, but I haven't been there for years.