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    I've known my best guy friend for about 3 years (we've only become close over the past year) and he's never been the type to overtly flirt with loads of girls or tell anyone about his pursuits. He's never really pursued a girl.

    My friend has a big crush on him and I was asked to be a "wingman" - I'm a girl btw. So i, not so bluntly obviously, told him that she's interested in him and finds him attractive and he denied it and became really uncomfortable. He kept insisting that she doesn't like him even though I know she really does. He got really irritated and I dont know why? She's not ugly and they get along well. He kept saying "she doesn't like me" and when I asked how he knew, he just answered "she just doesnt"

    When it comes to girls, he always gets like this. There was a girl who liked him before and I and my other friend told him - we said "we know someone who likes you" and he just said "Don't do this to me.." and sighed and denied that the girl liked him when SHE DID!

    Is it just me or is he really insecure about it all? why? he's pushing all these girls away..
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    He's probably embarrassed and afraid of rejection or humiliation. In my experience relationships never work when they involve all this 'setting up', if he likes her and she likes him then it will work.
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    the first thing that comes up in my head '' he is gay !!!''

    anyway, I could be wrong =)
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    He's either gay or suffering from a severe case of vaginaphobia.

    I'm gonna go with the latter.
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    he's not gay..
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    he's not gay..
    then homo or bi ???
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    (Original post by Molly_16)
    then homo or bi ???
    i thought homo was gay? He's completely straight.
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    He doesn't like your friend or the girls who liked him. Simple really.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i thought homo was gay? He's completely straight.
    hhmm..thats weird !!! if he is completely straight , is it possible that he might have a painful relationship before ??
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    its just to get more information out of you lol plus it gives him more attention when he says "she doesnt like me"
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    Embarrassed but likes her, homo or his into you, take your pick.
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    (Original post by Alexisonfire)
    He doesn't like your friend or the girls who liked him. Simple really.
    Not really. Obviously he doesn't like them but he was denying that they (or any girl) could ever have feelings for him.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Not really. Obviously he doesn't like them but he was denying that they (or any girl) could ever have feelings for him.
    It's probably his way of saying "I don't like her".
    Which to be fair is a little weird.
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    Gay?
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    Maybe he likes you instead of these other girls? That could possibly explain why he's so eager to brush off the idea of other girls.
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    I personally hate being part of setups. just bring the girl around in a group hangout and see how it goes, instead of just sitting him down and telling him since he behaves like a child who doesn't want to share his toys when you do so. Let the magic happen (or not happen) by itself.
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    he could think this girl is out of his league and hence scared to ask her

    this just happened to my firend lol luckily the girl asked him out so he accepted she liked him and they are know quite happyy
 
 
 
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