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    I'm an extremely good looking gay guy, but have struggled to find guys to date, I finished uni where i pretended to be straight and am now on I gap year so I'm kind of sad and worried that I missed my opportunity to socialise and meet other guys.

    All the gay people around where I live are older, un(der)educated and unattractive, basically boorish fat and gross totally below even the calibre of guys at uni but I'm getting pretty desperate and I really don't know what to do, I've even dated a few girls out of boredom. There's one girl who really likes me but I'm not really attracted to her even though she's reasonably pretty, Plus if I'm going for a guy it should at least be a really hot one for all the homophobic **** I'd get. Also I'm not out to my parents and they and all my family are always asking me why I dont have gfs etc and they're expecting me to marry and have babies. Sometimes I feel like i should just pretend to be straight and have a boring normal straight life but i really do not like girls..

    Advice anyone?
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    (Original post by Lemozo)
    I'm an extremely good looking bisexual guy, but have struggled to find girls to date, I finished uni where i pretended to be straight and am now on I gap year so I'm kind of sad and worried that I missed my opportunity to socialise and meet other guys.

    All the gay people around where I live are older, un(der)educated and unattractive, basically boorish fat and gross totally below even the calibre of guys at uni but I'm getting pretty desperate and I really don't know what to do, I've even dated a few girla out of boredom. There's one girl who really likes me but I'm not really attracted to her even though she's reasonably pretty, Plus if I'm going for a guy it should at least be a really hot one for all the homophobic **** I'd get. Also I'm not out to my parents and they and all my family are always asking me why I dont have gfs etc and they're expecting me to marry and have babies. Sometimes I feel like i should just pretend to be straight and have a boring normal straight life but i really do not like girls..

    Advice anyone?
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    You're bisexual.. but you don't like girls? Seems like you have your wires a bit crossed there, friend.
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    boring.....really?
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    Maybe act a tad more gay?
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    (Original post by imomo16)
    You're bisexual.. but you don't like girls? Seems like you have your wires a bit crossed there, friend.
    Edited, I always used to kid myself that I was bi and so I've just got used to referring to myself as that.
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    (Original post by Lemozo)
    I'm an extremely good looking gay guy, but have struggled to find girls to date
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    I don't know about date, but I am usually bored on a Sunday evening.
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    So are you bi or gay? because i think it would seem more easier if you were bi. But i think you need to talk to your family, and it is up to you, if you want to start this relationship with men instead of females, then you realise its quiete a harsh world out there, but its your life, make the right decision because otherwise you wouldnt want to regret it. If i was in your position i would talk to family, try to find a goodlooking, trustworthy gf and settle down to avoid temptation for the need of being with the same gender people as me. But you should take small steps, first decide properly what YOU really want, do You want to be with a male or female (and settle down and have children), once you've decided that then take the next step to tell close friends and family who YOU can trust, then slowly build your life from their. Whatever decision you make now will affect your life in such dramatic ways. Either way, life is always abit too dramatic
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    why don't you go to a gay bar?
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    Go to gayclubs you are looking for just sex,if you are lucky, you might even find someone decent enough to date. Be patient and try to be safe.

    Regarding coming out, its a complicated and personal subject, make sure you you take your time and not lie to yourself. A good place to start is by being truthful to yourself about who you are, if you find it difficult, go websites like emptyclosets.com for more help.

    You will get through your problem, most gay guys eventually do. If you have finished uni, try finding a job in a different city which is more gay friendly.
 
 
 
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