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    First off, I know that guys in relationships will find other girls attractive, watch porn etc. That is inevitable. But when does it cross the line?

    I have a boyfriend, and when we are together and see girls, he will comment on them (mainly of girls arses) to me, for example he has told me repeatedly how he loves when girls wear "jeggings" because you can see their arse shape well....he told me the other day he saw a girl wearing them with a great arse that he stalked her around a few shops. To add to this, I have a problem with my arse- I don't even like him seeing it, and this kinda makes me feel worse. I laugh it off cause I feel like It's stupid to say something? He also says how he wants to go to USA again but wouldn't go with me, because the girls are "f****** hot". Fills me with confidence


    He'll comment on celebrities that are hot (I know that's normal, but he does it A LOT). He says things like "oh I would do anything to f*** her". I'm like ok...why you telling ME this?

    He's told me about what porn he watches in detail. He said "I love watching it and ******* about f****** that girl in that position". I THOUGHT that porn was separate from reality, but then after sex he told me he IMAGINED a pornstar he watched earlier while we were doing it!!!
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    that sounds horrible. he sounds like a proper idiot.
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    what an *******! leave him!
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    That's so ****ing rude, he's probably trying to make you jealous/insecure
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    He sounds like an idiot to be honest. Every guy has some feature they adore on girls but when in a relationship they should cease to point this out in other girls and certainly not imagine someone else when in bed with you. Personally, all of what you have mentioned OP, is unacceptable.
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    I think the real problem here is that you're insecure.
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    Well that is unacceptable. He has some serious personality issues.
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    Girls in USA are so hot........LOL.

    Love it when ignorant people start generalizing an entire country.
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    (Original post by Stefan1991)
    I think the real problem here is that you're insecure.
    No I think the real problem here is OP's boyfriend thinks it is ok to comment about how he'd like to bang every good looking female he sees :rolleyes:
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    It sounds pretty unacceptable as it is.
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    I thought at first he was just a bit insensitive then I got to the stalking around a shop thing O_o to me, that just screams that he is a creep. I have to ask, why are you still with him? He can't be doing anything good for your self esteem
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    what are you even doing with him?! why are you still with him?! he's a ********, get rid NOW.

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    when we are together and see girls, he will comment on them (mainly of girls arses) to me
    insensative, almost crossing the line but not quite




    (Original post by Anonymous)
    he saw a girl wearing them with a great arse that he stalked her around a few shops.
    completely inappropriate, especially as he has a girlfriend, and very creepy.


    (Original post by Anonymous)
    He also says how he wants to go to USA again but wouldn't go with me, because the girls are "f****** hot"
    he's gone so far past the line here he's a dot in the distance.


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    He says things like "oh I would do anything to f*** her". I'm like ok...why you telling ME this?
    again, going way too far


    (Original post by Anonymous)
    He said "I love watching it and ******* about f****** that girl in that position". I THOUGHT that porn was separate from reality, but then after sex he told me he IMAGINED a pornstar he watched earlier while we were doing it!!!
    WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH HIM?
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    Ugh

    I wouldn't waste another minute with him =\

    That level is definitely unacceptable, he is essentially taking you for granted, complimenting other girls but not you and not making you feel good / happy / confident, yet saying those things about other people who don't participate in the relationship, which could make anyone feel worthless.
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    OP be trollin' like a pro
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    the more I think about it, he seems like that type of a guy who essentially feels/thinks (subconsciously perhaps) the only way a girl would ever stay with him is if she feels totally worthless and thinks she's unable to find better. he keeps saying these horrible things to you because he's trying to ruin your confidence and self esteem. basically he wants you to be very insecure and desperate and consider yourself 'lucky' that he's with you and not fcuking every other girl he sees on the street (not that any would even want him, he's trying to inflate his own ego most probably). he's not the guy who will ever make you feel good about yourself or happy. all you can expect is more emotional abuse from him.
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    at first I thought he wasn't doing anything particularly bad, but then I got to the stalking the jeggins girl and it just went downhill from there
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    First off, I know that guys in relationships will find other girls attractive, watch porn etc. That is inevitable. But when does it cross the line?

    I have a boyfriend, and when we are together and see girls, he will comment on them (mainly of girls arses) to me, for example he has told me repeatedly how he loves when girls wear "jeggings" because you can see their arse shape well....he told me the other day he saw a girl wearing them with a great arse that he stalked her around a few shops. To add to this, I have a problem with my arse- I don't even like him seeing it, and this kinda makes me feel worse. I laugh it off cause I feel like It's stupid to say something? He also says how he wants to go to USA again but wouldn't go with me, because the girls are "f****** hot". Fills me with confidence
    For the first one I'd have dumped him for being a creepy wierdo. For the second, I'd knocked him clean out.

    Where is your self asteem??
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    He sounds like a ********. Why haven't you dumped him already? It sounds like he'll cheat the first chance he gets. Douchebag. How does he have a girlfriend?
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    O.o Not acceptable, IMO.

    Start talking about the other guys that are so hot, and how you'd do anything for the chance to sleep with ____ (insert celebrity).
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    what the **** is wrong with this guy why're you sticking around to watch him go down, remind him you're his lover not his mother if he continues DITCH him it's his loss.
 
 
 
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