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    I cant do anything out in public, i left highschool in yr 10 coz i couldnt cope with it and got home taught, and now im in 6th form and really struggling. Ive had 3 months off due to stress and i dont know if i'll eva get back in. Im 17 and 18 in october so im going to start having to look for a job or my mam wont be able to keep me as she is a single parent on benefits and cant afford it.
    the problem is i cant get a job, i couldnt do my work experience i only went1 day then ran away :-( and i cant go out anywhere i cant even go to the shop, or speak to my family. I also suffer from really bad IBS which is made worse from my stress and anxiety so i wouldnt be able to keep a job due to this anyway as i get really bad pains and sickness (the doctors have tried me on every tablets but they dont work) Is there any benefit i could get???
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    (Original post by IloveSamx)
    I cant do anything out in public, i left highschool in yr 10 coz i couldnt cope with it and got home taught, and now im in 6th form and really struggling. Ive had 3 months off due to stress and i dont know if i'll eva get back in. Im 17 and 18 in october so im going to start having to look for a job or my mam wont be able to keep me as she is a single parent on benefits and cant afford it.
    the problem is i cant get a job, i couldnt do my work experience i only went1 day then ran away :-( and i cant go out anywhere i cant even go to the shop, or speak to my family. I also suffer from really bad IBS which is made worse from my stress and anxiety so i wouldnt be able to keep a job due to this anyway as i get really bad pains and sickness (the doctors have tried me on every tablets but they dont work) Is there any benefit i could get???


    Have you approached your GP for help with your anxiety? They could perhaps refer you to counselling or CBT to help you deal with the anxiety a bit, or perhaps prescribe a medication such as propanolol or others that will reduce the physical symptoms of anxiety and thus help to calm you down during particularly stressful periods such as when going outside and interacting with people.

    I have a friend who has really severe anxiety and it got to the point where she became totally reclusive and agoraphobic, she didn't leave the house not once for nearly two years. Not even to go out into the garden. She basically became totally dependent on her family, if they hadn't brought food to her she would have simply starved such was her fear of going to the shops. She's now on several medications and regularly see's a psychiatrist and CPN to help her cope because she left it so long and the anxiety became entrenched and basically destroyed her.

    It's important you take steps to deal with the anxiety now so that it doesn't escalate and become worse. I think that's the most important thing to focus on at the moment.

    With regards to benefits if your IBS and Anxiety is severe enough that is badly restricts your ability to function normally you could potentially apply for DLA and ESA. However they will require medical evidence from your doctors to back up your claim, and they will probably also ask you to attend a medical assessment to see how your conditions impact upon you. If they ask you to attend a medical assessment (which is likely) you can bring along a family member or friend for support if such things make you anxious. It's important that if you are asked to attend an interview that you do go rather than putting it off, failure to attend will result in your claim being rejected.
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    You could try for ESA (employment and support allowance), which is for people with mental and physical disabilities who are unable to work. But if you've got a mental illness it's pretty tough convincing them that you deserve it. I was on it for a while because I was severely depressed, but they then stopped my benefits even though my doctors said I was unable to work. So good luck with getting that.

    For more advice I'd recommend seeing the citizens' advice bureau, or some doctor's surgeries have a person who comes in once a week to help people out with sorting benefits (not sure what their actual job title is).

    Feel free to pm me if you've got any questions about applying for ESA.
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    (Original post by IloveSamx)
    I cant do anything out in public, i left highschool in yr 10 coz i couldnt cope with it and got home taught, and now im in 6th form and really struggling. Ive had 3 months off due to stress and i dont know if i'll eva get back in. Im 17 and 18 in october so im going to start having to look for a job or my mam wont be able to keep me as she is a single parent on benefits and cant afford it.
    the problem is i cant get a job, i couldnt do my work experience i only went1 day then ran away :-( and i cant go out anywhere i cant even go to the shop, or speak to my family. I also suffer from really bad IBS which is made worse from my stress and anxiety so i wouldnt be able to keep a job due to this anyway as i get really bad pains and sickness (the doctors have tried me on every tablets but they dont work) Is there any benefit i could get???
    society anxiety is for losers. (can you imagine Charlie Sheen, a winner, being "socially anxious" rofl?

    being a loser is not a disability.

    and you shouldn't get disability benefits for it.

    get over yourself.
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    (Original post by The-Real-One)
    society anxiety is for losers. (can you imagine Charlie Sheen, a winner, being "socially anxious" rofl?

    being a loser is not a disability.

    and you shouldn't get disability benefits for it.

    get over yourself.
    Wow, you got bullied at school, right?
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    Benefits just mean you will have to continue to live with social anxiety.
    Surely you'd rather get better than continue to suffer sooooo...

    Get help from the NHS, overcome your anxiety, keep your pride and don't sponge off the state.
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    (Original post by lazy smurf)
    Wow, you got bullied at school, right?
    Every good has a value. Every human has a value. Goods are valued and exist in a market. Humans are valued and exist in a social construct.

    Bullying is nothing more than a market function to correct mispricing.

    Someone being "bullied" is overvalued, and needs to be cut down to size.
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    (Original post by The-Real-One)
    Every good has a value. Every human has a value. Goods are valued and exist in a market. Humans are valued and exist in a social construct.

    Bullying is nothing more than a market function to correct mispricing.

    Someone being "bullied" is overvalued, and needs to be cut down to size.
    Way to go, nut job!
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    I bloody well hope you don't get benefits for being scared to go outside. The rest of us have to work for money, so should you.
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    I am going to call Troll on this one.
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    (Original post by lazy smurf)
    Way to go, nut job!
    I am a nut job how? I only speak what everyone else really thinks but are too polite define it in such unambigious terms as I have.
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    (Original post by illusionz)
    I bloody well hope you don't get benefits for being scared to go outside. The rest of us have to work for money, so should you.
    There is a difference between 'scared to go outside' and 'medically incapable of going outside'. In extreme agoraphobia, you can honestly be incapable of leaving the house without having a panic attack - and if someone is having panic attacks every time they leave the house, even if they force themselves to go outside every day, they are not going to be able to hold down a job. It's actually very hard to get disability benefit even if you deserve it (my aunt's ex-husband ended up paralysed from the waist down after a bad car accident, and yet was told that he was capable of going to work as a manual labourer) so if someone does get benefits for being incapable of leaving the house, you can rest assured that they honestly cannot leave the house.

    (Original post by The-Real-One)
    (can you imagine Charlie Sheen, a winner, being "socially anxious" rofl?
    Can you imagine Charlie Sheen, a 'winner', beating up a woman? Oh wait...
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    Social anxiety is a hard thing to live with only those with it can understand that.
    And ive been to the doctors, had therapy and medication but they just dont seem to work.
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    And if i had to get a job i think the only thing i could think about doing would be something to do with animals, as i wont be socialising with people as much. my mam suggested dog walking in a private area where there wouldnt be any1. i know i would still have to speak to the dog owner but it would be alot easier than other jobs as the dog walking wouldnt be in a public enviroment i could go where i wanted and wouldnt feel trap.
    Does any1 agree??? im willing to give it a go but is it not just a unrealistic hope? and i wouldnt get paid much as most animal work now is volunteer?
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    Hi there

    I am a university professor so I have a great deal of experience of dealing with students who have similar problems, and I also suffered in exactly the same way you did at the same age. Please do ignore the others on here who do not understand your condition, unless you have been through it - and it can be truly terrifying at times - you would simply not understand how the simplest task can feel impossible.

    When I left school I signed on for the normal Jobseeker's Allowance, which you should be able to get. You can also get housing benefits, but that would require you to move out of home, which I suspect you would find very difficult. Definitely your first port of call is your GP, and if they are not sympathetic you can simply make an appointment with another one. Ask if you can be referred for counselling, there should be someone available who deals with younger people who you can see for free, but there might be a waiting list. Your GP may give you anti-depressants so you need to be very firm that you want the counselling instead/as well as.

    There are some organisations that can help, if you have a really bad day you can call or visit The Samaritans (you don't have to be suicidal to call them!) and Mind is an excellent organisation who deal with mental illness www.mind.org.uk.

    There are many people out there, but if you once see your GP and ask for advice then you can make an appointment to see about signing on. With regard to getting a job, I think it's a matter of taking it slowly, step by step, and learning how to just get out of the house and walk up the road, rather than rushing to do a job. You might find doing a few hours a week of voluntary work would help you, if you sign on the unemployment office can help you find something easy that would suit you, and you'll start to get into the work place.

    Keep going, because I have been through it and I came out the other side, although it involved a lot of hard work, and a lot of research. Do remember that any benefits you claim now you'll pay back later when you do get a proper job and you pay your taxes.

    Prof Lottie.
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    (Original post by IloveSamx)
    And if i had to get a job i think the only thing i could think about doing would be something to do with animals, as i wont be socialising with people as much. my mam suggested dog walking in a private area where there wouldnt be any1. i know i would still have to speak to the dog owner but it would be alot easier than other jobs as the dog walking wouldnt be in a public enviroment i could go where i wanted and wouldnt feel trap.
    Does any1 agree??? im willing to give it a go but is it not just a unrealistic hope? and i wouldnt get paid much as most animal work now is volunteer?
    I don't know much about this, but I'm pretty sure that if you're working but have a low income you can get working tax credits. Like I said before, you're best off talking to someone at the citizens' advice bureau, they'll be able to advise you much better than we can.

    Getting a job might be good for you, if there's just limited interaction with people then it shouldn't be too stressful, but much better than being at home all the time.
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    (Original post by Prof Lottie)
    Hi there

    Please do ignore the others on here who do not understand your condition, unless you have been through it - and it can be truly terrifying at times - you would simply not understand how the simplest task can feel impossible.

    Prof Lottie.
    Agreed.
    Some advice from a fellow sufferer; if you're claiming Job Seekers Allowance ask to speak to a Disability Advisor. Then ask them about seeing the Job Psychologist. They deal with anxiety all the time and provide useful coaching techniques that will be helpful. Also, the DA will look at jobs that will suit your condition. Right now you might not be up to working, but sometimes you will feel more motivated and on top of the anxiety, right? Well they will help with looking at something to ease you into things.

    In regards to benefits, the DA asks me often if I'm capable of working; I persist to say yes, even though I'm probably closer to the no. However, if you choose to go with the no then you'll be asked to go to see your GP and have to do an examination for incapacity benefit, which is a bunch of questions e.g. can you pick up a phone? yes or no answers only. Technically I can lift a phone, yes!? but the details they do not care about. So it becomes tricky. I'm pretty persistant not to go down that road so maybe I didn't want to admit defeat during the questioning.

    “A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or are the others crazy?”
    - Albert Einestein
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    (Original post by IloveSamx)
    Social anxiety is a hard thing to live with only those with it can understand that.
    And ive been to the doctors, had therapy and medication but they just dont seem to work.
    I suffer with mild social anxiety and I know it can be extremely hard at times.
    Medication and therapy does NOT work unless you open up and let it work. Think positively and in no time you'll start making progress.
    I can't begin to imagine what it's like no to be able to leave my house, but I do know what overwhelming panic ( leading to panic attacks ) in social situations feels like.
    CBT helped me a great deal even in my first few appointments. If you can't deal with that, I had some telephone appointments too...that helped me over come my fear of speaking on the phone, which as you can imagine, was pretty disruptive, especially at work!

    Don't listen to the ignorance of some comments here...mental illnesses are confusing to the people who are lucky enough not to suffer with them so they can sometimes react with hostile reactions - just because someone isn't physically disabled, they often presume nothing is wrong.

    Best of luck!
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    (Original post by IloveSamx)
    I cant do anything out in public, i left highschool in yr 10 coz i couldnt cope with it and got home taught, and now im in 6th form and really struggling. Ive had 3 months off due to stress and i dont know if i'll eva get back in. Im 17 and 18 in october so im going to start having to look for a job or my mam wont be able to keep me as she is a single parent on benefits and cant afford it.
    the problem is i cant get a job, i couldnt do my work experience i only went1 day then ran away :-( and i cant go out anywhere i cant even go to the shop, or speak to my family. I also suffer from really bad IBS which is made worse from my stress and anxiety so i wouldnt be able to keep a job due to this anyway as i get really bad pains and sickness (the doctors have tried me on every tablets but they dont work) Is there any benefit i could get???
    I seriously doubt it also why would you want to rule out a life for yourself when you are so young. A friend of mine gets the worst migraines at least once a week often more. She vomits, collapses and ends up in A&E. She is in the care of a neurologist and takes a plethora of drugs each day most of which make things worse for her.

    She hasn't and will never be accepted on to DLA even though she is clearly too ill to hold down a job. She does occasionally get a trial or placement but never gets a permenent job due to her poor health.

    She gets by on JSA but hopes to become self employed in the future.

    Your chance of getting benefits is small to nil.

    You need to see some kind of therapist to get over this and get on with your life doing something you enjoy as it seems to me a large part of your problem is your thinking, your locked into a negative pattern of thinking and acting. It may seem easier just to hide away but all you are doing is wasting your life.

    Why not do a degree on the open university?

    Just don't do this to yourself.

    Actually I was going to say you should consider work with animals, I can see you doing that. Honestly I don't like people much either but I just feel awkward rather than scared.
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    (Original post by IloveSamx)
    I cant do anything out in public, i left highschool in yr 10 coz i couldnt cope with it and got home taught, and now im in 6th form and really struggling. Ive had 3 months off due to stress and i dont know if i'll eva get back in. Im 17 and 18 in october so im going to start having to look for a job or my mam wont be able to keep me as she is a single parent on benefits and cant afford it.
    the problem is i cant get a job, i couldnt do my work experience i only went1 day then ran away :-( and i cant go out anywhere i cant even go to the shop, or speak to my family. I also suffer from really bad IBS which is made worse from my stress and anxiety so i wouldnt be able to keep a job due to this anyway as i get really bad pains and sickness (the doctors have tried me on every tablets but they dont work) Is there any benefit i could get???
    I know how bad things like this can be, I suffered from something similar before but managed to overcome it by being determined enough to overcome it. Its something only you can do, you might want benefits or pills or something just to make it easier but there isnt anything; you cant go on living like this. The sad reality is that the longer you leave it the worse it gets and eventually youll reach a breaking point.
    Youre young and have your whole life ahead of you, dont let something like this take such a strong hold over you.

    One day you will realise that this is something only you can overcome, you can get help and therapy but at the end of the day, you have to want to do it. Looking for benefits or perks to help you live with it is definitely not the right way to address this.
    If you need help or want to talk more then PM me, im tired right now so I cant be bothered to type much more.

    EDIT - Didnt realise this was from so long ago...
 
 
 
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