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    (Original post by Theatre_student)
    This is a difficult one, especially if you don't know if he's gay or not but I think its best to tell him, then you'll get some closure one way or another.

    Look at it this way, lets say he turns out to be straight if he's a true friend then he'll tell you he's straight and you can move on without it affecting the relationship. There may well be some akwardness at first but like I said if he's really your friend you'll move past it

    If he on the other hand wants nothing more to do with you then- Its a cliche- but he's not really a friend and you're probably better off without him.

    My advice would be to sit down and talk with him about your feelings but go gently. You never know if you don't try!

    Good luck!
    Should I tell him "I need to talk to you" and then tell him how I feel. I'm not sure how to explain it to him, in case he is straight, so I don't want to scare him. What can I say that gets my feelings across but gently in a non-intrusive way?

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    (Original post by Teravolt)
    Should I tell him "I need to talk to you" and then tell him how I feel. I'm not sure how to explain it to him, in case he is straight, so I don't want to scare him. What can I say that gets my feelings across but gently in a non-intrusive way?

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    It's as good a start as any I haven't really done this before so I don't want to suggest stuff that might make it worse but maybe make out like its not a big deal but its been on your mind so need to tell him. Be understanding if he doesn't feel the same way and maybe stress that its fine if he doesn't and that you can deal with your feelings in your own time but needed closure etc?

    Hope this helps a bit, best of luck!
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    Just play the song "Gay bar" by Electric Six, I think he will get the point.
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    But why is everybody assuming that if he is gay, he's gonna go out with OP? (No offence intended to either party)
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    (Original post by thegodofgod)
    But why is everybody assuming that if he is gay, he's gonna go out with OP? (No offence intended to either party)
    We're not; it just makes it a bit less likely to be awkward.
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    (Original post by dbmag9)
    We're not; it just makes it a bit less likely to be awkward.
    okay :erm:
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    i want to know how this turns out btw lol
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    ^ lolz
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    (Original post by Teravolt)
    I'm 17, he's 18. We're friends and I really like him, but I don't know if he's gay or likes me in that way or not. I'm openly gay so maybe if he liked me he would have told me already? I don't wanna lose him as a friend, but we're not like close friends. What should I do?
    play hints with him, find out whether he's gay or not first, if not don't damage the friendship you have, if yes, its simple enough to ask him out isn't it?
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    did you not read my post teabag him while he sleeps it will work 10000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000%
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    (Original post by Theatre_student)
    It's as good a start as any I haven't really done this before so I don't want to suggest stuff that might make it worse but maybe make out like its not a big deal but its been on your mind so need to tell him. Be understanding if he doesn't feel the same way and maybe stress that its fine if he doesn't and that you can deal with your feelings in your own time but needed closure etc?

    Hope this helps a bit, best of luck!
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    i want to know how this turns out btw lol
    He's not gay and got weirded out
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    (Original post by Teravolt)
    He's not gay and got weirded out
    oh =[ *hugs*
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    Start being a little...tactile with him. You know subtlely touch his leg, give him hugs (and when you do hold tight), compliment him, eg: 'Wow I never noticed how amasing your eyes are' etc. You know try and provoke a reaction. Maybe its better you show how you feel!
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    When he goes to the urinal, go with him and stand close to him and see if he looks at your peepee, if he does waive it round a bit and say something like 'want some do you'.

    Also make it blatently obvious you want to look at his!
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    Spank him and see how he reacts? If he doesn't react, get your **** out and see what he does
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    (Original post by Teravolt)
    He's not gay and got weirded out
    That sucks

    Give it some time and hopefully the weirdness will disappear he's probably just surprised and doesn't really know how to act around you at the moment but hopefully it will pass and now at least you have some closure and can move on.
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    (Original post by Teravolt)
    He's not gay and got weirded out
    Aww, shame. At least you know, though, and he'll probably be fine with it in time. Nice of you to let us know, too.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    When he goes to the urinal, go with him and stand close to him and see if he looks at your peepee, if he does waive it round a bit and say something like 'want some do you'.

    Also make it blatently obvious you want to look at his!
    Dude - this isn't porn, it's real life!
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    Strikes me you should definitely not tell him unless you know he's gay, or it really isn't going to go well at all?
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    i feel sorry for him to have a friend like you
    i would never talk to gay people they are sick they need help ewwwwwwww just ewww
    GO die
 
 
 
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