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    Anon please.

    I mean, is this the route which makes a relationship last? I see some of my friends meeting someone, then entering a relationship straight away, and sometimes they seem to last for a while, if not forever!.

    My question is when meeting someone should your intentions be to start a friendship first? Or do you think straight away she/he could be relationship material?

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    Upon first meeting someone I like, I wouldn't immediately start a friendship or a relationship with them. There's something called dating, which is what most people do. Try it...

    If you start a friendship with someone when you want a relationship with them, then you'll have only yourself to blame when they start going out with someone who was honest about their intentions...
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    if you meet somebody and are attracted to them. head for a relationship straight away (obviously dont just ask them out... flirt and get to know them for a while first)
    if you aren't and become friends then later become attracted to them, head for a realtionship then.

    there no right or wrong way to do it
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    With my boyfriend, we went to the same secondary school for 3 years, but never spoke to eachother.
    Now i'm at a different school in sixth form, and I found him on facebook. We got talking, and he asked me out on the second day of talking to eachother. This was last July!
    We are now inseperable, and have planned out our whole future together
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    (Original post by Charlotteeee<3)
    With my boyfriend, we went to the same secondary school for 3 years, but never spoke to eachother.
    Now i'm at a different school in sixth form, and I found him on facebook. We got talking, and he asked me out on the second day of talking to eachother. This was last July!
    We are now inseperable, and have planned out our whole future together
    That'll end well.
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    (Original post by Pink Bullets)
    Upon first meeting someone I like, I wouldn't immediately start a friendship or a relationship with them. There's something called dating, which is what most people do. Try it...

    If you start a friendship with someone when you want a relationship with them, then you'll have only yourself to blame when they start going out with someone who was honest about their intentions...
    ^^ This is patronising and wrong.

    In my experience, the best relationships originate out of friendship. It's always best to know that you get on with the person on a platonic level as well as being physically attracted to them. Oftentime, sexual attraction can arise between people that you didn't expect it to - you're attracted to their personality, which has been pronounced through a friendship, as opposed to just their looks. This is a pretty solid foundation for a relationship and often makes for a better one.

    Of course, you can start relationships with people without being "friends" but this often leads to you finding out more about their personality after getting into the relationship which can lead to....difficulties.
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    How could you just start a relationship right after you've just met them?
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    If you go for friendship be careful you don't get stuck in the friendship zone

    You get stuck there an you're screwed
 
 
 
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