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    Anon or delete. Anon for obvious reasons.

    If your partner needed to have the sex of your baby predetermined ? This would involve going to a clinic (outside the UK) and having a specialist selection procedure performed.

    Just a little background on the situation though:

    -Your partner has deep rooted family issues that he has told you about and has spoken to a therapist about.

    -This isn't just some "I want a boy to be able to teach how to be a man" scenario but there is an actual pscyhopathology involved.

    -Your partner has been to a therapist for a long time trying to resolve the issues but can't and even the therapist agrees that selection or not having children at all would be the best thing for you.


    So girls would you stay with this guy and let the sex of your baby be chosen or would you not be able to put up with it and leave him ?

    My scenario is I haven't even told my gf about this but after trying to fix it for a year I may have to tell her and I'm scared she'll leave me.
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    It depends on what the deep rooted issues are. If I thought they were unreasonable I would just not have kids with him.
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    I remember a thread like this before... are you the guy who "can't" have a daughter?
    I would want you to get over whatever issues you had before reproducing with you. I wouldn't want my kids raised by a mental case, whatever sex they were. Continue with therapy until you get over it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon or delete. Anon for obvious reasons.

    If your partner needed to have the sex of your baby predetermined ? This would involve going to a clinic (outside the UK) and having a specialist selection procedure performed.

    Just a little background on the situation though:

    -Your partner has deep rooted family issues that he has told you about and has spoken to a therapist about.

    -This isn't just some "I want a boy to be able to teach how to be a man" scenario but there is an actual pscyhopathology involved.

    -Your partner has been to a therapist for a long time trying to resolve the issues but can't and even the therapist agrees that selection or not having children at all would be the best thing for you.


    So girls would you stay with this guy and let the sex of your baby be chosen or would you not be able to put up with it and leave him ?

    My scenario is I haven't even told my gf about this but after trying to fix it for a year I may have to tell her and I'm scared she'll leave me.
    I'm not sure, it's quite bizzare. Can you explain further? I'm curious as to why it has to be a boy!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    even the therapist agrees that selection or not having children at all would be the best thing for you.
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    even the therapist agrees ... not having children at all would be the best thing for you.
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    not having children at all would be the best thing for you.


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    If I'm being honest, I don't think I'd feel comfortable with this kind of pressure in a relationship.
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    Dont make any more babies man, population overcrowd already mate.
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    Suppose it depends if your gf is willing to let having children become a clinical process rather than a random natural phenomenon
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    would dump you STRAIGHTAWAY!


    Not liking your child based on sex is disgusting
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    I wouldn't have a problem with them having to find out the sex - but despite anything previously discussed in a relationship - i would not be able to terminate a pregnancy because it was the "wrong sex".
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    Adopt a boy if you couldn't possibly cope with having a girl.
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    I think that if you have deep issues rooted in psychopathology, you would be better off waiting to have children (i.e when your issues were solved/less extreme).

    Surely, you would feel better suited to parenting if you were able to unconditionally love your child regardless of gender and/or any other factors? Because that would make you a better parent (at the basic level).
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    I really want to know why

    Anyway no, I wouldn't really like that. And I would imagine somebody with deep rooted issues isn't necessarily in a fit state for parenting anyway.
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    I'd leave him, I don't want to play God.
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    I would want to know why the hell it's that important.
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    why does it have to be a boy? Is this guy a peado or something?

    Get the hell out of that relationship as fast as you can is my advice.

    Someone who has such issues with children should not be around them.
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    Out of interest, what does the medical procedure involve?

    You haven't really explained the situation or your side of it at all so it's pretty impossible for me to say that such extreme negative feelings towards females can ever be ok. A lot of people have bad experiences or issues with the opposite gender but they wouldn't dream of letting it affect their feelings towards their own child. Mitigating your feelings by only having a son doesn't change that you have them - and what happens if your feelings affect your son's perception of females too?

    This isn't just some "I want a boy to be able to teach how to be a man" scenario but there is an actual pscyhopathology involved
    Not to be harsh, but a 'pathological' cause, rather than just being a mildly chauvinistic, is actually far more worrying.
    What can be so wrong with a little baby girl?
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    I know i can't chose the sex of a baby i might have but girls run in my family (actually no boys born into my family for 3 generations, all the men are married in) and i'd love a boy and a girl.

    However if i found out i was pregnant with a girl i certainly would not get rid of it just so my partner could have a boy
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    Nope. I wouldn't have your kids, bro.
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    (Original post by lauraaaa.xo)
    I know i can't chose the sex of a baby i might have but girls run in my family (actually no boys born into my family for 3 generations, all the men are married in) and i'd love a boy and a girl.

    However if i found out i was pregnant with a girl i certainly would not get rid of it just so my partner could have a boy
    :lolwut:

    You must have a father and two grandfathers. They were 'born into your family'. They're just as related to you as your mother and grandmothers are.
    The sex of the baby is determined by the father anyway, so your family's "trends" (for lack of a better word) won't affect the sex of the kid you (as a female) have. Similarly your mother's genes didn't determine that you're a female.
    Unless I'm missing something major here? You've really baffled me and I'm no biology expert.
 
 
 
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