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Out of intrest what does everyone think when they hear of "another teenage pregnancy?" Do you think their just another "scrounger living on benefits" or do you think some teenage mums actually make something of their life. One of my best mates has a daughter who has just recently turned one and while now she realizes the difficulties bringing her up i dont think shed change what had happened(getting pregnant) While she is on benefits she is actually going to college and getting her qualifications. Personally if i found myself in the situation of being pregnant i would not keep it as i want to live my life without having the responsibilty of looking after a young child! I think if the teenage mum is in some kind of education/job/apprentiship they will make something of their life whereas if there just living of benefits. What does everyone else think over teenage preganancies? 
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I don't ever blame teenage mums for being on benefits, raising a child is expensive as it is, and will be even more so if the mum is still at school and therefore unable to earn enough money.
I try not to judge immediately when I hear of teenage pregnancies, because while it is very easy to stereotype, everybody is in a different situation.
If I fell pregnant now, I would definitely still have the baby, as I know I would have the support of family, so I would be able to still go to school and university. Obviously my life would be very different, but for the better--I just know I couldn't ever get rid of my own baby.
I try not to judge immediately when I hear of teenage pregnancies, because while it is very easy to stereotype, everybody is in a different situation.
If I fell pregnant now, I would definitely still have the baby, as I know I would have the support of family, so I would be able to still go to school and university. Obviously my life would be very different, but for the better--I just know I couldn't ever get rid of my own baby.
littlemisssarah
Out of intrest what does everyone think when they hear of "another teenage pregnancy?" Do you think their just another "scrounger living on benefits" or do you think some teenage mums actually make something of their life. One of my best mates has a daughter who has just recently turned one and while now she realizes the difficulties bringing her up i dont think shed change what had happened(getting pregnant) While she is on benefits she is actually going to college and getting her qualifications. Personally if i found myself in the situation of being pregnant i would not keep it as i want to live my life without having the responsibilty of looking after a young child! I think if the teenage mum is in some kind of education/job/apprentiship they will make something of their life whereas if there just living of benefits. What does everyone else think over teenage preganancies?
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sarah.badangel.org.uk I find teenage pregnancies to be bad.
More often than not, teenage mothers do scrounge.
Also, I think having a baby isn't advisable, especially in the context of contemporary society. If a 14 year old girl has children, if she going to look after her baby and do her GCSE'S? Surely it's too much of a burden.
if i got pregnant right now i couldn't have it. The way my state of mind is (depressed/suicidal at times) it would literally push me over the edge.
I don't blame all of them. Tho there are a fair few who do it purposely, in those cases i blame the parents. A lot of the time these girls do that cos they want someone to love. It can't be an easy thing to go through, a lot of them lose their childhoods and never really experience being a teenager. Its sad. Though at least some can stilkl get on with their lives so tehres always a positive
I don't blame all of them. Tho there are a fair few who do it purposely, in those cases i blame the parents. A lot of the time these girls do that cos they want someone to love. It can't be an easy thing to go through, a lot of them lose their childhoods and never really experience being a teenager. Its sad. Though at least some can stilkl get on with their lives so tehres always a positive
What pi**ses me of is the teenage mums who go out and delibratly get pregnant(the 2 sisters who raced each other to get pregnant as they were bored) and obviousuly they were gonna claim benefits. I dont mind if they are on benefits so long as they plan to get some kind of education/job or are in education. I agree that every situation is different. Yea L.J that kinda is against human rights!
L.J
I wonder if the child will grow up without a father, without a stable home.
I wonder if the child will grow up without a father, without a stable home.
I just feel that I should say: it is possible to have a stable home without a father. There are single parent families (some without the mother) for all sorts of reasons, not just because of teenage pregnancy, many of which function extremely well.
Anyway, back to the issue. Single mothers of every age are given benefits. My mother is 50 and she receives money every month to help support me. She is certainly not a scrounger and works a full-time job.
However, teenage mothers should be encouraged to support themselves and their children as much as possible, when they are able to. We have to appreciate how hard it can be for someone who is essentially still a child to support a child of her own. Of course, it is just as much the father's responsibility as the mother's, and he has an obligation to help financially as well as emotionally.
No, teenage pregnancy isn't a 'good' thing, but inevitably it does happen and we have to accept that.
It's a bad thing, I don't think anyone would say a teenager is old enough emotionally to be able to bring up a child, especially alone. However, I feel for them, it must be difficult.
By the way, I'm not keen on having kids now saying "My mum had me when she was 13 and I turned out fine" - for one that's an isolated incident, and for another, you don't know if you'd turned out better if your mum had been that bit older.
By the way, I'm not keen on having kids now saying "My mum had me when she was 13 and I turned out fine" - for one that's an isolated incident, and for another, you don't know if you'd turned out better if your mum had been that bit older.
This is coming from a 15 year old male now. Whenever I hear of a teenage pregnancy, I think ''great, another teenager up the duff.'' But it isn't always like that. A girl in my year at school has just got herself pregnant, and everyone is calling her a slag, but why? She has only ever had sex with one lad, and she says she loves him, he is standing by her and says he loves her. So how the hell is she a slag? Surely she would only be a slag if she had slept with loads of lads and had more than one baby? You have to look at the situation before you can judge, and even then you cant say what is right and wrong because you dont know what the family background is like. But I am always going to use protection whenever I have sex, because I dont want to be a parent until I am in a loving relationship.
I think it depends. if they are doing something, like going to college or uni to get qualifications so that they dont have to scrounge benefits once they are qualified, then i dont have a problem with that.
If the mother just ends up a drop out, and doesnt bother to finish school or college, because they know they can always rely on benefits, then thats just scrounging. it really pisses me off as well. some people work really hard to get their qualifications, so they can get a good job, then loads of their salary is taken away to support people who will do nothing but bum around for the rest of their lives, with kids that grow up the same as them. if some teenage mums can manage to obtain qualifications, then why cant others? i dont see why people who have worked hard to get where they are should have to support scummy lazy arsed scallys.
i think the benefits in this country are to much. if they werent so easy to obtain, and werent so much (you hear of some familys who have £30,000 a year in benefits), then people would stop having kids so they can get a house and dont have to work.
If the mother just ends up a drop out, and doesnt bother to finish school or college, because they know they can always rely on benefits, then thats just scrounging. it really pisses me off as well. some people work really hard to get their qualifications, so they can get a good job, then loads of their salary is taken away to support people who will do nothing but bum around for the rest of their lives, with kids that grow up the same as them. if some teenage mums can manage to obtain qualifications, then why cant others? i dont see why people who have worked hard to get where they are should have to support scummy lazy arsed scallys.
i think the benefits in this country are to much. if they werent so easy to obtain, and werent so much (you hear of some familys who have £30,000 a year in benefits), then people would stop having kids so they can get a house and dont have to work.
My best friend became pregnant to her boyfriend of 1 year last year, she was 15. For years she was severely depressed, she self harmed, she had been raped, abused and got so much crap because she was different - the way she dresses etc. Her life truely was miserable.
Before she actually got pregnant she had a 'scare' abnd she thought she was pregnant - she wasn't...then about 3 months later she fell on. It was the happiest me and my friends had ever seen her.
She was over joyed and since that day she hasn't cut herself, she has constantly smiled and she has a beautiful baby boy. Everybody has supported her, teachers, family and her friends. And she's doing brilliant, the baby's 1 now and he's a very healthy, loved and cared for little boy. She's still with her boyfriend and they have a flat and are very happy together. She's coped fantasticaly and I think we shouldn't think "Suprise suprise" every time we hear about yet another "Teen pregnancy", because a lot of good comes out of these so called "statistics"...
Katie x
Before she actually got pregnant she had a 'scare' abnd she thought she was pregnant - she wasn't...then about 3 months later she fell on. It was the happiest me and my friends had ever seen her.
She was over joyed and since that day she hasn't cut herself, she has constantly smiled and she has a beautiful baby boy. Everybody has supported her, teachers, family and her friends. And she's doing brilliant, the baby's 1 now and he's a very healthy, loved and cared for little boy. She's still with her boyfriend and they have a flat and are very happy together. She's coped fantasticaly and I think we shouldn't think "Suprise suprise" every time we hear about yet another "Teen pregnancy", because a lot of good comes out of these so called "statistics"...
Katie x
Being quite a synical person, when I heard teenage pregnancy, I often think "scrounger living on benefits". Because, I have nothing against teenage sex (between concenting people over 16), but, there are condoms! So really there is no reason, I mean, if she wanted to continue her education, why didn't she get the bloke to wear a condom / she could have take the morning after pill / a whole range of other things!
I thin ktis very hard to judge without knowing the situation, one girl from high school was sleeping with two guys (one of which went in to prision shortly after she fell pregnant) and to my knowledge she is currently in the scrounging situation. but a close friend got pregnant, kept the baby (who has just turned one), finished her GCSE's then left school at the end of year 11, is still with the father and about to move in with him, having taken a year of for her daughter is now doing distance learning A-levels and is looking after hersdelf and daughter really well. yes she does get benefits, but no more than any other parent on her income would.
xemilyx
i dont think we have the right to comment on girls who get pregnant young, what would happen if it happened to one of us? we would be in the same boat.
But i think i would go back to uni and continue with my degree as soon as i could. i wouldnt leave it up the tax payers to support me. i do understand that during the final months of the pregnancy, and whilst the baby is young its pretty imposible to carry on with your education or get a job. and if they dont want a child, why dont they use contraception. i know that it does fail, but if, for example the condom splits, there is the morning after pill. if youre not responsible enough to use contraception, then you shouldnt be having sex. contraception isnt just to stop pregnancy, its there to prevent STDs as well.
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keyka
I thin ktis very hard to judge without knowing the situation, one girl from high school was sleeping with two guys (one of which went in to prision shortly after she fell pregnant) and to my knowledge she is currently in the scrounging situation. but a close friend got pregnant, kept the baby (who has just turned one), finished her GCSE's then left school at the end of year 11, is still with the father and about to move in with him, having taken a year of for her daughter is now doing distance learning A-levels and is looking after hersdelf and daughter really well. yes she does get benefits, but no more than any other parent on her income would.
Yes, but shes doing something, when she gets her a levels shell be able to get a better job, so she can support herself and doesnt have to scrounge. theres nothing wrong with living of benefit, if they are doing something that means in the future, they will not have to.
Ossie1701
Being quite a synical person, when I heard teenage pregnancy, I often think "scrounger living on benefits". Because, I have nothing against teenage sex (between concenting people over 16), but, there are condoms! So really there is no reason, I mean, if she wanted to continue her education, why didn't she get the bloke to wear a condom / she could have take the morning after pill / a whole range of other things!
Why should she 'get the bloke to wear a condom'? Are men not intelligent enough to make that decision for themselves? And, as I said, there is such a thing as the male contraceptive pill.
BellaCat
Why should she 'get the bloke to wear a condom'? Are men not intelligent enough to make that decision for themselves? And, as I said, there is such a thing as the male contraceptive pill.
Because men don't always want to wear a condom and as the girl is ultimately the one who can get pregnant SHE needs to be the one who ensures precautions are taken.
Used correctly condoms etc are very effective and whilst the 1% failure rate or whatever it is (It's small I know) would account for a number of the pregnancies...what about the rest of them?
L.J
I read a sci fi series set in the future where it was unthought of for unmarried couples to have children, unless it was through a cloning agency. The sterilisation shots were 100% (but not permanent), and anyone who got pregnant outside of marriage had an abortion. Although it would piss off all the pro-lifers, it sounds like a good system (although perhaps a little against human rights...!).
I read a sci fi series set in the future where it was unthought of for unmarried couples to have children, unless it was through a cloning agency. The sterilisation shots were 100% (but not permanent), and anyone who got pregnant outside of marriage had an abortion. Although it would piss off all the pro-lifers, it sounds like a good system (although perhaps a little against human rights...!).
I actually had a big discussion with my friend about that. he was saying that all the 'vicky pollard' types should be sterilised, and i said that that is totally inhumane. although i cannot stand people like that, and im not pro life, i think forcing abortion on people is just going to screw people up. although i do think that if the parents are not looking after the child properly: not bothered about whether it goes to school or not, not teaching them that sex and pregnancy is only for a loving relationship etc, should have their children taken away and put into foster care until the parents learn that the way they are bringing up their child is not socially accpetable. sadly i think that this would not work, as it would place a huge strain on the system, and peoples taxes would still be paying for other peoples children, although it would be in a better way.
i think that better education in schools is really needed, i did not recieve proper sex education (about contraception etc) untill i was 15, and by that time some girls in our year had already got pregnant.
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